Dec 13
Dec 13 What Do I Do When My Child Is Scared?

We sit together in the waiting room of the oral surgeon's office, my son fighting the tears forming in the corners of his eyes.

"Will they do anything today?" he asks for the fifteenth time.

"I don't think so, honey. They're just looking at your teeth today." I sigh. The dentist had referred us to the surgeon for a likely surgery.

"What does that IV thing feel like? Does it hurt?"

"Bud, we already talked about this so many times. It's not very bad."

"Did it hurt when you got one? How old were you?"

"Buddy, remember, I had that little surgery a few months ago. I was fine. It just hurts a little bit. I've done it every time I have a baby too. I'm always ok."

Tears start flowing and he desperately wipes them away.

Dec 12
Dec 12 How You Can Bring Hope to Mamas in Desperate Need

Kristen Kill

When I gave birth to my first daughter, I prided myself on my preparation. My husband and I visited the hospital months before my due date, took Childbirth classes, researched all our pain management options and developed a detailed birth plan that even included our wishes for daddy to cut the umbilical cord and instructions to not give our baby a pacifier. When the day arrived, we were warm, secure and surrounded by an incredible medical staff. My doula spoke words of encouragement and massaged my ankles, my husband held my hand. Monitors beeped into the night keeping pace with my daughter's heart rate. I knew I was cared for. I felt safe.

I would love to sit across from you this afternoon, to sip tea and to hear about the day you became a mama. Whether we first held our babies after childbirth or an adoption, we'd no doubt nod our heads and squeeze each other's hands, as we recognized a little of our own story in one another.

Mothers in the slums of Uganda, though? Well, they would have something all together different to share.

Dec 11
Dec 11 Let Your Kids Leave Home without Guilt

Christy Fitzwater

Parenting

At our family reunion this summer, we talked the grandmas into trying out the kayaks. Donning a life jacket, Grandma Bena climbed in, and we handed her a paddle. She dug the paddle into the water on both sides. What am I doing wrong? she said. I’m not going anywhere.

Paddle harder, we said.

She paddled harder.

She was growing frustrated, while all the rest of us started laughing. Her daughter was holding onto the back of the kayak. No matter how hard Bena paddled, she wasn’t going to get anywhere.

This is how parenting can be in the empty nest years.

Dec 10
Dec 10 The Mother Who Keeps On Giving

Natalie

Parenting

My middle baby snuggled onto my lap, his head was resting against my heart. I closed my eyes and thought of how I wish the moment could last longer than five minutes. I felt his little fingers secure around my hips. Every few minutes he would look up at me to make sure it was still me that was holding him.

I thought about how much work my children are. In the moments of squeeling tantrums, stubborn fits, and the sound of a rebelious "No!", somehow I learn to love my children deeper.

Dec 9

Dec 9 How To Be Most Effective in Ministry

Christin

Ministries and Missions, The BetterMom Updates

As women, we often have a heart to naturally help people. Typically we want to nurture the hearts of other women or children. Sometimes we minister to our own hearts' as we help others. But we need to ask ourselves, "What is my ultimate goal? Is it to be used by God?"

There is ministry outside our doors just as there is inside. Sometimes it's in the church, sometimes it's in the neighborhood or surrounding community, and sometimes it's overseas. There is no shortage of need and we were never meant to hide our lights remaining cooped up in our homes. However, there are still a few basic factors we need to remember in order to do ministry that's effective.

What are the elements for doing effective ministry while in the thick of motherhood?

Dec 8
Dec 8 10 Favorite Christmas Books for Children

Kara Chupp

Discipling Children, Faith, Following God, Fun For Kids, Homeschooling, Parenting

Every year as we pull out the decorations and recipes and ornaments, we also rediscover our favorite Christmas books! Most of these books are missing their dust jackets, the edges are worn, hot chocolate drops can be found on certain pages and some of them are even from my own childhood. But reading books together at Christmas is one of my very favorite traditions! Here are a few of our favorites...