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Raising Boys to Be Godly Men

Raising Boys to Be Godly Men

While I love and learn from much of the “raising boys” literature, can I just be honest and say that I think it’s sometimes a little heavy on the I-want-my-boys-to-be-warriors content?

Don’t get me wrong: I (of course) want my boys to be “warriors” -- I pray for them to be Christ-like leaders and courageous men who will fight for what is right.

But I ALSO want my boys to be tender. My father-in-law -- also known as “Gentle Gene the Tender Machine” -- modeled the kind of compassion I’m imagining.

We have so much we want to teach our sons! How will they learn to be strong? How will we teach them to have restraint? Raising our boys to be both tender and warrior- like men demands that we demonstrate how to be tough and how to be tender. Today, we have a resource to help you- and a story to inspire your heart...

As a child, my husband knew he could go to his dad in the middle of the night with any problem -- be it vomiting, leg cramps, or fear -- and “Gentle Gene” would warmly tend to the need with kindness and care.

As a teenager, my husband watched his dad take in and mentor a neighbor boy who had been thrown out of his house for adolescent drinking.

As adults, both my husband and I witnessed Gene patiently minister to his wife as she suffered through a debilitating illness.

Make no mistake: these tender snapshots display a diligence that, while simple, certainly isn’t easy. “Easy” is to roll over and have Mom handle the middle-of-the-night interruptions; “easy” is to ignore the plight of the troubled teenager; “easy” is to let someone else care for an ailing spouse.

I want my boys to see that while tenderness appears simple, it is seldom easy; tenderness often requires warrior-like resiliency.

Even in his tenderness -- perhaps especially in his tenderness -- “Gentle Gene” modeled this warrior-like resiliency; he selflessly surrendered for the sake of another.

What young man doesn’t engage the internal battle -- the compulsion -- to serve himself first before thinking of others? I want my boys to know that sometimes being a warrior means showing warm benevolence and exercising uncommon restraint even when they don’t feel like it -- even when they’d rather do something that seems more masculine.

Not coincidentally, two of my children were recently yelling at one another. They should have been in bed, but there was stomping and anger and crying because of some offense committed. And guess what my tender warrior-husband did?

He calmly walked up the stairs, diffused the (very heated) argument, discovered the root of the problem, and ensured that the siblings go to sleep without anger toward one another in their hearts.

You’ve been here, I know.  You all know how much easier it would be to yell from the couch, “KNOCK IT OFF AND GO TO BED RIGHT NOW... OR ELSE!”

But where’s the strength in that?

Raising our boys into well-rounded, warrior-like men demands that we demonstrate BOTH how to be tough AND how to be tender.




Get away, get outdoors, and get into God’s Word! The Warrior Weekend is a resource to help dads raise boys to be Godly men. Written as a devotional, by Patrick Schwenk, The Warrior Weekend is full of biblical wisdom specific to boys, applicable stories of brave men, and adventurous activity ideas or a weekend away. It's a great resource for helping dads and sons explore God’s Word and God’s world together.

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