Do you have a quiet child? That one who would rather read inside than play in the sunshine? It can sometimes be frustrating to deal with an introverted child when the whole world rewards extroverts. We all want our children to succeed. There is no reason to believe that if your child is introverted or shy that they can’t have a full and successful life.

In fact, some of the most notable Christian figures have been introverts. This includes Moses and Mother Teresa, according to TIME magazine. Moreover, historical game-changers like Albert Einstein, Rosa Parks, Sir Isaac Newton, and Eleanor Roosevelt all preferred solitude to reflect on their thoughts.

So what can you, oh mom, do to help your deep thinker? Here are some ways you can encourage and enhance the life of your introvert.

1. Don’t panic. If your child prefers to play alone or with a select one or two friends, don’t worry that there is something wrong with them. Some people just need a little extra time to warm up to others. As well, their unique social nature requires some quiet time to rejuvenate.

2. Respect their privacy. Introverted children can become overwhelmed and drained if they do not get some alone time. Try and work in some quiet time into the schedule where your child can be on their own.

3. Communicate with caregivers and teachers. Letting others who will be interacting with your child know how to interpret your little ones’ behavior will go a long way in making things easy for everyone. Sometimes teachers misinterpret an introverted child’s behavior in class. This can lead to tension for your child. By telling others that your child may need some extra time to warm up or think through their answers, you will be doing them a favor in the long run.

4. Celebrate their uniqueness. In a world that values extroverts, make an effort to help your child understand that they too are special. Let them know that they are not alone and that it is okay to desire time on their own. By showing them how to develop habits that fit their temperament, you will be setting them up for a successful future.

5. Take it slow. Whenever you are going into a new social situation with your introverted child, go slow. Introduce them into the environment gradually and let them become comfortable before you leave them on their own. If there is an opportunity to show them around the environment before the event, do so. However, don’t avoid the situation. Respect your child’s feelings and boundaries but teach them to become comfortable in the space rather than leaving.

6. Use encouraging language. When your child tackles a new social situation, find something positive to say about it. Acknowledge your introvert’s bravery or how they extended themselves to make a new friend. Also, remind them how they ended up enjoying the experience after they became comfortable with it.

7. Listen closely. Introverts take a while to think things over. When they are ready to communicate be sure to listen so they feel heard. Reflect back to them what they have said so you both know you have understood.

Having an introverted child is its own unique mothering adventure. By getting to know what makes your child special, you can show them they are valued. Both by you and the Father.

Blessings,

Chandra Philip