Finding Solitude as a Mom When It Seems Impossible


After he had dismissed them, he went up on a mountainside by himself to pray. Later that night, he was there alone. Matthew 14:23

I had just sat down on the couch. Finally! The day was over. I popped open my laptop to check a few emails and read the news. The kids were in bed. Silence.

And then my alone time was over.

"Mom? Mom? Mom, I'm thirsty!" My youngest daughter's voice pierced my solitude. My alone time was over before it started!

Motherhood is demanding, isn't it? Oftentimes our day begins with a little one pulling at us, anxious to wake up and start the day. Even nights aren't sacred or off limits with kids.

A nightmare startles your son or daughter awake.

The flu hits.

Someone wets the bed.

Motherhood is anything but easy. And it's far from quiet. All of the demands can be draining. What mom hasn't wanted to lock herself in the bathroom for a few minutes of peace and quiet?!

You should take comfort in knowing that even Jesus, God in the flesh, needed solitude. He, too, knew the busyness of a life in demand. People were always pulling and tugging at Him. The needs were endless. And so He routinely withdrew to "lonely places" (Luke 5:16). He got away. Slowed down. In all of the giving, He got away to be fed by His Father. Jesus knew and practiced the discipline of solitude.

Before He started His public ministry, He spent forty days in the wilderness (Matthew 4:1-11). Before making important decisions, like choosing the twelve disciples, He spent time alone (Luke 6:12; Mark 1:35). After some of His miracles, He found solitude (Matthew 14:23; Luke 5:16). And, of course, just before Jesus would go to the cross for our sins, He spent some time alone with His heavenly Father (Matthew 26:36-46).

Are you feeling worn-out right now? There's no guilt in getting away. Solitude is a gift God gives us so we can recharge and refill. If we don't spend time away and time alone, the self-neglect can be dangerous. One of the greatest things you can do for your own soul is find solitude.

Father, give me today to be alone with You. Give me the wisdom to carve out space and time to stop. Help me to push pause and be quiet. Refresh me today. Renew my strength. Pour into me so that I can pour out to my family. In Jesus' name, Amen.

~Do you ever feel guilty for wanting some time alone? Why?

~Where in your scheduled will you carve out solitude this week? Even ten minutes count.

~Jesus was purposeful about His solitude. What can you do during your times of solitude to truly recharge?





The devotion above is from my devotional with Karen Ehman, Pressing Pause: 100 Quiet Moments for Moms to Meet With Jesus.


These 100 encouraging devotions for moms will help you begin each day with scripture, drawing on God's power, ingesting His Word, and learning practical ways to love and serve more like His son. 

And oh my word...this book.. it is BEAUTIFUL. Hardcover. Journaling space after each devotion. Silky little bookmark to keep your place (LOVE it!). Just gorgeous.

Pressing Pause is available here:


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I pray Pressing Pause is a blessing not only to you, but to your family as you take that much needed time to yourself to refuel so the best of who you are can pour out to them.

5 Reasons Why You May Want to DITCH Spring Cleaning

Do you love the feeling of an organized home, cleaned from top to bottom? Us too! Spring cleaning is upon us, but some years, you need to know it's ok to let it pass by.

I am one of those people who truly thrives on order and organization.

Decluttering or purging what we own, writing up detailed plans and lists to benefit the family, and completing many other home management hacks simply makes me happy!

Yet after two decades of mothering, I realize how this organizational joy-gift turned against me.

There are past seasons and days I wish my motivation had turned me to REST from doing more. Sometimes, I gave way too much focus and energy keeping things organized and neat when I honestly needed (and wanted) a break from it all.

Maybe you find yourself in a similar spot.

DITCH Spring Cleaning?

True, it’s time to prepare for a new season.  But...what if this year feels differently?  

Here are five reasons to consider ditching a plan to upend your life and home for a full clean out.

You’re in transition.  

Oh Mamas, we often forget to honor our seasons of change. If you or your family experienced recent transitions, or you anticipate one soon, cutting corners may just be the ticket.

Save decluttering and cleaning for another time -- and yes, there will be another time.  If moving is your transition, deep cleaning will happen anyway.  But if not, maybe wait.

Your house is ‘clean enough’.

I clearly remember one year when I gathered the children for spring cleaning week (insert major groans here from said children).  

After about two hours of vacuuming under couch cushions, cleaning baseboards, and wiping out drawers, the oldest said -- ‘the house isn’t even really that dirty Mom!’


Consider this friend: you can simply allow this year to slide by... things feel clean enough for you right now.

You feel pressured.

Trying to please a Pinterest persona or blogging personality?  I’ve been there before.

It sounds absolutely ridiculous, but we can definitely experience this internal crazy pressure to perform like our favorite YouTuber or blogger.  Our motivation isn’t based on our own reality or family needs, but the pressure inside.

Release yourself!  Pause to examine how what you watch or read might fit for you or not.  Be inspired, but don’t be intimidated.

You don’t have the energy.

Notice I did not mention time.  You may have the time...but do you have the energy?  

If you think less of how to manage your time, and more about managing your energy in this current season, it could help determine whether totally gutting the house for cleaning feels wise or not.  

The good thing about energy?  

Unlike time, we can often find ways to increase it.  We can also choose to wait until we feel well enough and energetic enough again.

You need to simplify.

Spring cleaning is certainly not simple. Even if broken down into steps over time, organizing afresh and purging through our possessions consumes energy...and focus.

Maybe you’re in a season where something needs to go. Now.  

If prioritizing other obligations over organizing more brings a sigh of relief, then do it.

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Definitely, I am not knocking a good spring cleaning.  I love it just as much as all the YouTubers I actually make time to watch.

I only encourage you to do what works right now.

The house can wait.







Daniele is a homeschooling Mama of five kiddos and a voracious reader of books. Passionate about her faith, home and family, she blogs about the intentional lifestyle at Domestic Serenity and writes for other online and print publications. Daniele thinks life is made more enjoyable with a cup of herbal tea in hand!

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