5 Things To Do Instead Of Get Lost In Facebook

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Are you attached to Facebook? Always skimming through and ready for another fix of social connection? If you are ready to learn how to put the phone down and engage in your offline life, Mamas, we are here to help with these tips for how to kick the habit and what to do with your time (and heart) instead.

Do you feel that silent nudge that you're becoming addicted to the internet? What a difficult and ever-so-present temptation for our generation of mothers. If you feel discouraged and unsatisfied by the time you're spending on Facebook (or Pinterest, or Instagram...or whatever other computer/iPhone black hole you are sucked into!) - THERE IS HOPE.

Here are the two steps I have realized to help with Motherhood Internet Addiction. (It is a thing!)

  1. Tell your husband. The first time I told my husband, "I'm so tired, and all I feel like doing is going on Facebook!" he said, "That is the most honest thing you've ever told me. Thank you." The point is, we need accountability, and (in most circumstances) there is a definite, intangible blessing and help that comes from our husbands.
  2. Realize the need behind the addiction. Like any other addiction, there is a reason you are filling an emptiness inside you. I feel most drawn to my iPhone when I am a) stressed about something b) exhausted. What are you really feeling when you feel drawn to technology?

So now, when you are stressed/tired/disappointed/worried and drawn to your iPhone, what can you do instead?

  1. Nothing. Yes! One time my college professor told us, "Sometimes I sit in a chair and do nothing. It bothers my wife, but I think we have lost the art of just sitting and thinking!" I agree. Look around you. Observe. Let your mind wander. We hardly no how to do that anymore.
  2. Read a magazine. This really helps because I can relax, but in a way that somehow seems more productive. I love magazines! My mother-in-law is always subscribing me to something, but I've often thought they'd be worth the cost anyway!
  3. Read a book. Different sort of relaxing. In order to do this, you need to have them lying all around! Here are the books I'm reading this summer.
  4. Be goofy with your kids. I'm sure if you think about it, most of the time you can find something completely hilarious that is happening around you. It just takes some eyes to see it! Nothing like REAL laughing to get you out of a slump.
  5. Think about what is really bothering you, and say it out loud. Perhaps in a prayer-form? Such healing in being honest and admitting when we need help.

Fight the good fight, mamas. We do not want to look back and regret the time we have spent with our eyes on our computers!

What are your tips for resisting the technology lure? Share!

Blessings, 

Jessica

Jessica Smartt

Jessica Smartt used to be a librarian and an English teacher, but now she works much harder just being a mom. You can find her blogging at “Smartter” Each Day where she pokes fun at the everyday challenges of motherhood, shares all her delicious allergy-free recipes, and rejoices that God loves her no matter what phobia she’s recently developed. She is blessed to the moon and back with two energetic little boys and a husband who actually never worries.

Warrior Moms, You’re Raising Arrows (Link to Free Warrior Mom Printable!)

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Mama, you are a warrior! As you sharpen and prepare each arrow in your care, remember the great responsibility before you, and most of all, that you are not alone. We're cheering you on at the blog today AND with a free printable!

It’s straight from God's Word —

“Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are children born in one’s youth.” (Psalm 127:4)

Children are from the Lord.

They’re arrows. And we’re the warriors.

These arrows we carve, shape, and balance are going to journey far beyond our reach. They’re what God is going to use tomorrow.

By God’s grace, they’ll be part of the Church on the offense, against whom the gates of hell won’t be able to stand. They can storm the enemy’s stronghold, rescue those bound in darkness, bring the light and freedom of Jesus to those in sin’s chains.

This is God’s call on our children, as the nations rage.

And this shaping and — one day soon — the aiming is the call on you and me.

As the opposition mounts, the need for warrior moms grows. The need for women who won’t buy into materialism and worldly values… the need for wives who will respect and honor their husbands… the need for moms who will give up personal ease to train their children in God’s ways.


Warrior moms remember they’re in a battle. They’re aware that their sisters called by the name of Christ oceans away face unspeakable trials. And they’re wise to the strategies Satan implements in their own culture, community, and home. Warrior moms aren’t lulled to sleep by lives of comfort. They shake off the enemy’s sleeping powder, prying their eyes open so they don’t step in a land mine. They’ve got to guard themselves against temptation, weariness, and the pitfalls that are claiming their friends on every side. They know they’re needed, so they die to self.

And they prepare each arrow.

It’s not about the arrow’s beauty. The color it’s painted, the name-brand insignia it sports.

It’s about straightening what’s crooked. Sanding the rough spots. Sharpening the point. Adjusting the feathers. Dedicating time to target practice. It’s making sure this arrow understands its purpose, the reason it will someday be set free in flight.

We aren’t the Creator of our arrows, let’s not be disillusioned there. Our arrows aren’t for our trophy cabinets. Not for display. Not for our glory. And not to remain in our quivers forever.

Our children are with us for a season. A season in which minutes are an eternity, and years are the blink of an eye. So let’s not waste the time.

Warrior Moms, our responsibility is great. Life is busy and full of externals and to-do lists and practices and play groups and laundry. But remember. These things are nothing without Jesus. If your kids don’t see you loving Him, talking with Him, depending on His Word, seeking His wisdom, how will they learn to fly straight? If they don’t know we’re in a battle, how will they be motivated to fight the enemy? If they don’t know their Maker, how will they have hope and courage for their mission?

You responded by the tens of thousands to a post about doing great things for God. Sisters, your hearts are beautiful… God is stirring women across the U.S. and across the world to courageous faith and service through motherhood. Know that you are not alone. There is truly an army of us. An army of warriors… Weak? Yes. Frightened? Yes. Sinful? Imperfect? Struggling? Yes.

But the message from Christ is the same for us as those who went before us:

    “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.”

 

By His grace, we’ll do this. We’ll do this in enemy territory, while the world rages and crumbles. Because “the one who is in you is greater than the one who is in the world.”


Click here for your free Warrior Mom printable! May these eight Scriptures breathe fresh inspiration into your soul as you shape your arrows.


Blessings,

Jennifer

Jennifer Ebenhack

Jennifer’s eight eventful years in Haiti produced a gift of brokenness through which she has discovered the depths of God’s healing grace. She passes that grace on to others through her blog, life coaching, and her ebook Take Courage: Choosing faith on my journey of fear. She is currently writing a memoir of her family’s nine-year adoption process and gripping experiences in Haiti.

Loving the Home You Have, Not the One You 'Pin'

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I am not sure why women feel the crazy need to apologize for their homes, especially to other women.

Years ago when preparing for company, a play date, or simply a friend’s visit, I would sometimes greet guests with a rolling litany of things that I plan to do (or projects I intend to finish) and just how this room or that would come together when...

Why?

Why sister do we fill conversation with explanations of how our home could, should, will be, isn’t, would be, and can’t right now?  

Maybe our identity is too caught up in external things instead of quiet confidence.  A confidence not dependent on a certain square footage and what it looks like.

While your home can be an extension of tastes, personality and personal style -- it is not the defining factor in how great of a wife or mother you actually are.  

This simply isn’t true.

Maybe we need to grow in contentment too, right?  Deepening appreciation for the reality in front of us, instead of the dream home on our online boards (and yes, I too have Pinterest boards full of home ideas.  It’s okay to dream).

A settled satisfaction with what we have and already own goes far in helping us to tame the comparison monster.

I think maturing in these ways would certainly help any of us.

Maybe too we should consider just what this rambling on (and on) about our latest home complaint actually sounds like.  

Just how does that other woman feel about our words?

Do they make her uncomfortable or uneasy as we share?

Choose Gratitude

Speaking graciously and thankfully about our home spaces, whether we love them or not, gives a firm message to others that we are grateful.  

The conversation’s tone is set up on a positive note, even if everything in your home is really not as you would like it to be.

Make Hospitality the Focus

Focus on your guest, NOT on your home.  

From the beginning, create an atmosphere where attention goes to your visitors.  We can all learn to resist the temptation to explain away our latest complaint about home, or some part of it.

Remember -- people are much more important than things.  Relationships are the key.  So, shape the visit around this priority.

Dress Up What You Can

Where you can make a difference in your home -- DO.  

Whatever your budget or time frame can afford, there is no need to be completely restricted.  Honestly, pinning ideas is a great way to connect with a vision of what you like!

It’s possible to be grateful, focus on hospitality and still dream about and create a home we truly enjoy.

Any other encouragements?

 

Daniele

Daniele is a homeschooling Mama of five kiddos and a voracious reader of books. Passionate about her faith, home and family, she blogs about the intentional lifestyle at Domestic Serenity and writes for other online and print publications. Daniele thinks life is made more enjoyable with a cup of herbal tea in hand!

How to Nurture Your Child's Gifts

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I believe God gives everyone gifts!  There is something we are all good at. It may not always be talents that are in the spotlight such as singing or playing a musical instrument but there is something inside of all of us that shines especially bright.

I believe this to be true in our children as well and I would encourage you to help them find their gifts and help nurture them.  I know for many parents they get an idea in their head for their children, sometimes even before they are born that they will be great athletes or have the same gifts they enjoyed themselves.  This is not always the case and you can spend years pushing something toward your children that isn't really meant to be. 

Some wonderful ways to nurture your children's gifts are:

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The Privilege of Being A Mother

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Sick seaons are incredibly tough seasons. Especially if you have several children. Short, but tough. There is little else you can do other than take care of sick children because their need for mom escalates. So the house is left undone and meals are simple or take out. We become confined to the house to keep our germs to ourselves and rest to get well. It's certainly my least favorite thing about the fall and winter seasons.

But, to be the one my children reach their hands out to for a comforting touch, to be the one who rubs the back of my sick child to comfort them in a most uncomfortable state, that is a privilege.

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The End Of My Rope, The Beginning Of Something Good

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She held her firstborn baby on her hip and looked down at my oversized belly. When I told her I was expecting our fourth baby she couldn't believe it. "Wow, so you got this whole mom thing down!…Right?" I could feel my belly tighten with a Braxton Hicks as I began to laugh and try not to wet myself. I might have scared her a little with my response. "No, the more children I have, the more I realize how much I don't have this mom thing down." She laughed nervously and changed the subject. I went to the bathroom. 

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