Overcoming Fear with Authentic Faith


Last month, I confessed how the last decade of my life has been marked by fear and yet thanks to an adventuresome opportunity at family camp, I recognized how living in fear was stealing joy from my life . . . and from my children. {Read that post here.} That “big swing” moment marked off a life once lived in fear, and I’m in awe at how God has invited me to walk in brave faith ever since.

Are your goals for your life safe and comfortable? In many ways the security we crave and try to manifest can become an idol in our lives without us even realizing it. What are we to do if the world and our calling in it makes us afraid, and takes us out of our comfort zone? Overcoming fear is about growing in faith and the thrill of seeing God at work!

While there isn’t a formula for how to overcome fear, I’ve discovered that there is a mindset shift that needs to happen.

For me, that change in my thinking came about through asking a key question every time a new opportunity or decision was in front of me:

Am I resisting risk in the face of fear or pursuing wisdom as I walk in faith?

This one question does battle against the slew of “what if questions” that formerly trapped me in fear. Questions like . . .

What if I fail? 

What if I get hurt? 

What if I get rejected? 

What if I make a fool of myself? 

What if I’m wrong?

What if they get hurt?

What if they think I’m wrong?

What if they get made at me?

Do these questions sound familiar to you? Are these “what ifs” keeping you from taking risks and enjoying life and providing your children with opportunities to learn and grow and see God’s faithfulness?

I’ve come to discover that being safe and comfortable are not the ultimate goals God has for our lives. In many ways, this security we crave, and try to manifest for ourselves and our family, can all too easily become an idol. Oh yes, it’s easy to say “no” to God when comfort is king. It’s reasonable to put off “that opportunity” when stability is worshipped. 

Mind you, I speak as one who has avoided risk at all costs because of all the fears filling my heart and mind. But in the last year, God has pushed and pulled and prodded at me to put on my big girl panties and grow in my faith. It’s been about getting out of the boat and walking on water, and I don’t like to get wet. But you know what has happened? I’ve discovered the absolute thrill of seeing God at work in away I would have missed if I stayed afraid. 

Overcoming fear isn’t about overcoming fear . . . it’s about growing in your faith.

That’s what this past year has been about for me  . . . choosing to follow God in great faith instead of abiding in great fear. It started last August when I signed a book contract, even though I'm that gal who refused to pursue traditional publishing because I’m terrified of criticism. As though that wasn’t a big enough step, I said yes to taking over a conference, even though it scares the daylights out of me being responsible for a budget that big. And just when I thought that was enough faith walking for one year, God led my husband and I to get out of a boat we’ve happily been in for the last 18 years . . . and we'll be relocating this summer and launching into a brand new life this summer. 

As Charlotte Phelan says in The Help, “Courage, sometimes, skips a generation.” It almost skipped mine, but I am so grateful to the Lord for His working in this late bloomer. I want to be a woman of godly courage and fullness of faith, and by His grace, I think that is happening. If He can do this in me, my friend, He can do it in you.

There’s no need for fear to keep you from living the life God intended.

Your brave steps of faith may not look like mine nor anyone else's. But may you seek Him for that next step, that nudge, that opportunity He’s asking you to trust Him with today.

How can I pray for the step of faith God is asking you to take? Let me know in a comment below.

Abiding in Him,


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{If you're looking for resources to encourage you to step out in faith, consider the free Live Brave download, written for tween and teen girls, but full of truth that will meet you right where you are.}

Elisa Pulliam

Elisa is life coach, author, and speaker passionate about equipping women to experience authentic life change for the sake impacting the next generation. She counts it a privilege to come alongside women as a life coach (learn more at elisapulliam.com) as well as through serving as a coach instructor with Life Breakthrough Academy. Elisa also leads More to Be, a ministry committed to equipping moms, engaging teens, and encouraging mentors to shine more bright like Jesus. She considers her first calling as wife to Stephen and mother to her house-full of children. Her favorite days begin on the porch with the Lord and end on the beach with her family and friends.

Two Things Our Words Can Do


With three boys who are only five years apart, a friendly game of putt-putt can quickly get the competitive ( and unfriendly) juices flowing.

We'd only made it to the third hole on the miniature-golf course when one of my boys got a hole in one.  He squealed with excitement!  

But his joy was short-lived with his brother's harsh words -  “That was such an easy hole. You just got lucky.  I'm so much better than you at this game.”

The look on my son's face was one of complete defeat, as I’m pretty sure he was hoping his brother would give him a high-five and say something like, “Way to go!”

Knowing my son was crushed in spirit, I turned to my other son and explained, “You know, buddy, your words have power.”

We need to remember the power of our words. Our words have the power to bring life or bring death. They have the power to build up or tear down.  

And I reminded him of a verse we’d recently memorized as a family, Proverbs 18:21 (NKJV): “Death and life are in the power of the tongue.”

I reminded him how this verse teaches us that our words can typically do one of two things.

Our words can build up, or they can tear down.

Our words can breathe life, or they can breathe death into another’s heart.

And I asked him to think about what belief he held in his heart that motivated him to speak harsh words to his brother. 

We sat down on a rock together for a few moments in silence. (I'm learning that less is more.  And I'm learning to stay out of the way of the work God can and will do in my son's heart.)

Eventually I asked him, “Do you want to be a boy who uses words that build other people up in God’s love, or do you want to be a boy who uses words to build yourself up and tear others down?”

“Build up,” he said softly.

When we finished talking about some of the other things he could have said to speak words of life to his little brother, I put my arm around my son and reminded him of the gospel.

“Hey buddy, this is why God gave us Jesus. He knew that you (and I!) would struggle to always speak words of life to one another. He knew we would struggle to love one another with our words and our actions. So Jesus did that perfectly on our behalf. And when God looks at us, He sees the perfection of His Son, Jesus, covering us.  We are free to confess our wrongdoing because we know Christ loves to forgive us. And we know He gives us His Spirit to empower us to love like He has first loved us."


Colossians 3:13-14
Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others. Above all, clothe yourselves with love, which binds us all together in perfect harmony.


My son didn’t need prompting to apologize to his brother after we remembered the gospel. It came freely.  

He found his brother on the fourth hole and said, “I'm really sorry for what I said.  I got jealous that you scored a hole in one before me. Will you forgive me?”

His brother accepted his apology with a big smile on his face.

In that moment, not only was I grateful for how God worked in my son’s heart to lead him to repentance, but I was reminded of something I am often prone to forget - the words I use to discipline and instruct my kids can also do one of two things.

My words can bring life or they can bring death. I can merely point out their sin and wrongdoing, give a quick lecture about how to do it better next time, and leave my kids wallowing in guilt. Or, I can continue the conversation by pointing my kids to Christ who not only loves to forgive them but also gives them His Spirit to empower them to obey, and gives them His grace to set them free from shame. 

Yes, this was another good reminder that while my lectures may garner short-term change in my children’s outward behavior, it is God’s grace alone that will reach and transform their hearts.

Trust me, friend. I miss these precious opportunities often. Which is why I am so very grateful that His Spirit is always working, even when my wisdom is lacking. But it is such a joy when I can witness God's work in my kid's lives, which is why I pray He will continue to open my eyes to moments when I can speak words of GOSPEL life into their hearts.

All is grace,

jeannie cunnion

Jeannie Cunnion is a Jesus lover and a grace clinger. She is the author of Parenting the Wholehearted Child, and her passion is encouraging moms to live in the very real freedom of God's unwavering love (a message her own heart needs to hear daily!). Jeannie has a Master’s degree in Social Work and she serves on the board of Raising Boys Ministries. She also serves as the Council Co-Chairman at Trinity Church in Greenwich, CT, where she enjoys leading parenting groups and Bible studies when she isn’t cheering on her three boys at one of their sporting events alongside her husband, Mike. Jeannie would love to connect with you on her website at www.jeanniecunnion.com.

The Blanket Fort Solution


It had been raining for a week and the kids were going a wee bit crazy. Arguments and bickering were on the rise, with mom and dad's patience on the decline.

One particular Sunday afternoon I found myself with two distinct choices:

1. Completely lose my cool, ground the kids to their rooms for the rest of the day even though we'd just barely finished lunch, and spend the rest of the afternoon feeling guilty for losing said cool.

2. Come up with some creative way to counter the problem.

Friends, I'm ashamed to say that most days, I tend to default to option number 1. Oh, I want to be that mom with all the really cool ideas for keeping the peace in our home and our children happy and well rounded, but those moments come few and far between.

However on this particular Sunday, I whispered a desperate prayer that went something like this:

Dear God, please help me not kill my kids.

Suddenly, an idea popped into my head. The main thing our kiddos had been struggling with was being bossy with one another, and throwing fits when things didn't go their own way. From out of nowhere (of course, we know the where....or I should say who) I had the idea for a project.

Long and lazy summer days are upon us and soon our children will have too much time on their hands, and too many technological choices competing for their attention. When grumbling begins, when tensions arise, how can we, as moms, give creative solutions that bring our family together? How can we cultivate a summer of sweet memories? You need the Blanket Fort Solution! And a whole list of other summer time, family building activities that will keep you connected- not to mention, some free music to download and enjoy together! Here's to summer! The fun starts right here!

I called the kids into the room and said that I had a very important project for them to work on. However, if this project was going to work, they had to all work together with no one person being the boss, and they had to listen to one another. Here is the project:

I need the three of you to work together to decide which of your bedrooms to use, and then come up with a plan to build a blanket fort big enough for the three of you to all sleep in tonight.

Friends, their eyes got as big as saucers and grins spread across their faces as they realized that I was, indeed, serious. Mad chaos ensued as they dashed about collecting every available blanket in the house. I surprised them by providing sheets from the closet and even a tablecloth from my special stash.

Of course, they did need some guidance and a little bit of refereeing during the process, but they took a big step towards learning how to work together with others who have differing ideas from theirs, and who might have stronger or quieter personalities to their own.

I'm going to let you in on a little secret, gals: It was really hard for me not to engineer and design the entire fort. I did provide some direction and ideas when they got stuck, but for the most part I sat back and let them work. And you know what? They did!

Summer's coming, friends, and we will soon have some kiddos with too much time on their hands - and for many of us, too many technological options on which to rely. We live in an apartment in the middle of a large European city. There's no green space nearby for us to just send the kids to "go out and play" or "have a water balloon fight." It is up to me to help them see creative options for when tension run high and their own creative juices run low.

Maybe you don't have space enough for a blanket fort, but you do have a million pounds of craft supplies for all those homemade projects you've pinned...but will never do. Give the kids a theme and a time frame and let them create.

Set up a dance party in the kitchen.

Or some water games in the bathroom.

There is for sure a time and place for redirecting, correcting, and disciplining. However, I'm finding most of the time all my kids need are a couple of ideas and permission to create.

If you're like me, you only have these genius ideas maybe once a year. Let's help one another with this, too! Leave some of your out-of-the-blue-curb-the-chaos boredom busters in the comments! Then we can all have a working list of ideas to pull from when our own creative juices are lacking!!

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Love, blessings and dance parties,



Jennifer Deibel

Jennifer is your typical American wife and mother living life, raising kids, and working, only she's doing it in Vienna, Austria - a new adventure after living in Ireland for 4 1/2 years. She has been married to the love of her life, Seth, since 2000 and is extremely blessed to be mom to two delightful girls, and one hilarious little boy. She has a deep interest in creative family worship, marriage enrichment, and the art of figuring out unfamiliar grocery stores in foreign languages. Jennifer passionately loves the Lord, her family, music, dance, writing and chocolate - though quite honestly not always in that order. She believes this world needs more women who stick together, so let's connect and walk this road side by side! You can find Jennifer where she blogs at This Gal's Journey, on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram.

Nature Study with Printables!


Hi sweet moms!

So, summer is coming, and with it, all the ideals of this mama who wants to make this summer the best one yet. I always feel the pressure to give my kids amazing memories of days by the pool, back yard fun, beach combing and an epic vacation. . . you know, nothing major but just all their dreams come true. The thing is though, When I ask my kids what they want to do with the lazy days ahead, they just want the simple stuff. The ice cream cones and firefly catching and lazy days where sometimes dinner is only a pop tart and a run through the sprinklers counts as bath time. They just want a family that is happy to be together. 

In recent years, one way we have added a little structure to care free days and enjoyed the simplicity of the season is with Nature Study.

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The Wife I Want To Be


Dear Husband,

I want to be her. The woman you deserve. The one who greets you at the door with a smile and a hug and who thanks you for working hard and who offers you a plate of cookies. Who's got supper in the oven and the kids playing nicely and the house clean and tidy. Who asks you about your day, helps you with your coat and listens intently to everything you say. Because you deserve that.

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