You might not think a stay-at-home, work-at-home, mom like me would be aware of what is happening out there, but I am.
I can see far too clearly the world falling apart and feel much too deeply the relationships crumbling around me - and it nearly breaks my heart.
No, my head is definitely not buried in the sand. We can all read the headlines. Nor do we have far to travel to find heartache or hopelessness.
But this home-centered mom wants to do something about it . . and you?
I want to raise a family who loves the Lord and who will be a light to an ever-darkening world, a family who will offer hope to the aching and the anguished.
So how can one faithful mother make a big difference?
1. Fill our home with joy and laughter. As the mom, we get to set the tone for the home, so begin the day with a loving smile and a cheerful greeting. And if you don’t “feel” like it? That’s okay, just fake it! Then keep right on smiling until the warmth becomes genuine and shines down over your entire family.
2. Offer grace freely. Mistakes, mess-ups, mix-ups – it’s all part of being a family. Let them know that you can overlook their faults and you love 'em like crazy anyway. Don’t be devastated, or even surprised, when your people let you down. Consider the abundant grace showered down over you and me and then offer the same to their tender hearts. They need it at least as much as we do!
3. Share meals together daily. If our lives are so busy that we don’t have a moment to dine and discuss around the table together, then we are dangerously too busy. While it doesn't always seem worth the trouble to gather everyone for this daily event, it does add up over time and one of the greatest investments you can make for your family.
4. Be willing to take a strong stand. It’s a fact: we moms get less grief if we say “yes” than when we say “no”. But, if your spirit is troubling you then don’t compromise for the sake of peace – it’s simply not worth it. Stay true to what you believe is right and stick to your guns. We have to be more concerned about our children’s character than their temporary “happiness.”
5. Take the time to talk it through. Talking things through takes a gargantuan amount of TIME. Sometimes this means discussing issues late into the night (especially if you have teens!). No such thing as a shortcut to this critical process - unless it’s sweeping it under the rug which only results in distant, painful relationships. So what are a few bleary nights compared to close, loving relationships?
6. Ask forgiveness - and grant it fully If someone sins or hurts another family member in any way, he - or me!- should be swift to humbly seek forgiveness. And the response should be as quick and wholehearted as the request made. Don’t let any bit of relational garbage linger to rot and decay! Keep all your hearts clean and bright.
7. Celebrate the uniqueness of each child Enjoy each child's special qualities and embrace every unique individual. Teach your children to appreciate one another's differences too. Don’t allow anyone to despise or belittle a brother or sister because they happen to have their own giftings, their own particular style, and their own way of doing things. (For more ways: 32 Tips I'd Like toPass on to Moms with Younger Children.)
Although I don't always feel much like a world-changer, like it matters all that much, this mom would like to think I'm making a world of difference.
And you're making a big difference too.
Because we mothers can impact more lives than we ever thought possible through our sometimes simple, often hidden, but meaningful ministry at home.
Cheering for you!
Lisa Jacobson, Club31Women