Children Follow the Leader

Mornings are hard for me. As much as I love those mornings when I get up before dawn, I struggle hard with the getting up part. So I rarely do.

Instead, I get up shortly after my children, groggily and slowly, and it takes me about 2 hours to fully wake up. And as long as I’m not moving, and remain planted until I wake up, my children will not have motivation to move either. It’s only after I get up and begin bustling about that my children follow suit.

Children Follow the Leader

Telling them to do things while I remain seated with my coffee is futile. Not to mention, it’s rather lazy and unfair of me to order them around when I’m not even up and moving yet. So, they drag their feet.

Children Follow the Leader.

I am a leader in my home and they will follow my example.

In fact, much of what happens in our homes are what our children will see as “normal” in their own lives. So,  allowing myself so long to “wake up” before actually moving in the morning is setting the bar pretty low for my own children. I want my children to see their mama do the hard things, not make excuses.

And it’s easy to make excuses. About anything.

What if I was this lazy in all areas? That’d make me a pretty mediocre mom and I wouldn’t be a very good example for my children. As a mother, I want to strive to raise children better than myself; who grow up to do greater things than me.

Being a mother was never meant to be easy and giving myself allowances for laziness in any area is a slippery slope. You know that old saying, “give ‘em an inch and they’ll take a mile”? Yeah, that’s me. I need to keep a tight reign on how intentional I am about my life so that my children, who are already following me, will follow me down the path of His strength and not wallow in their weaknesses.

How does God make himself strong through our weaknesses? It’s not by waiting and doing nothing. It’s by getting up and taking that first step, knowing that He will carry us. But unless we take that step, we won’t move and we’ll continue in our weaknesses.

God’s glory is made known through the parts of our lives that we cannot manage on our own. Whether it’s an everyday life habit or a season of pain and uncertainty.

My children, especially my eldest who’s 11, know that I struggle to wake up early and they know I want to. My daughter asks me consistently if I was able to get up early on mornings and I almost always respond with a disappointing, “no.”

If I would take that first step, which for me is just getting out of bed, I know God would meet me there and take me by the hand.

Don’t misunderstand, this isn’t about waking early {for me it is, because it’s what makes my household run smooth}. This is about stepping out in our weaknesses so God will take our hand and lead us. Yours may look completely different from mine.

Did I mention I also have a love/hate relationship with cooking? {More hate then love, I assure you}.

Yet another area where God’s glory can be made known because everyone knows I am not fond of nor put much effort into the kitchen.

These are areas in my life, as a mother, I would like to see strengthened, because I want my children to see me do the hard things, not just what I’m good at. If they’re going to follow me, I want it to be worthy of the calling Christ has given me so they will live in the same manner.

Where can God meet you, take your hand, and be your strength as a mother?

Joy in Christ,

Christin, Joyful Mothering

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  • Maria Joe

    This was EXACTLY what I needed to hear. Thank you so much for writing this. It deeply blessed and helped me, not to mention, motivated me! It was an overdue eye opener. Thanks again.

    • http://joyfulmothering.net Christin

      You are so welcome.

  • Angela Aitken

    So ironic you posted this…I just posted a video confession of my love/hate relationship with exercise (I’m a physical therapist-ha!) and how looking into what God had to say about how we should use our bodies has completely changed my perspective of exercise.
    I stay home with my kids now and am painfully aware of them picking up any poor postural habits I may have. I’m committed to working to undo these habits and am posting how to do that so others can join me on the journey to functional fitness God’s way.
    Thanks for a thoughtful and honest post!

    • http://joyfulmothering.net Christin

      So welcome. Thank you for your example!

    • Melody Casperson Jeffrey

      How timely and convicting your post was to me. I watched my weight rise this year and thought it was a thyroid issue – NOT! Then read a magazine article about health myths and that was mine; people underestimate what they eat. So I’m very interested in what God has to say about how we should use our bodies. Would you be willing to share what you learned? Thank you and blessings

      • Angela Aitken

        Hi Melody,
        Sorry for the delayed reply. I had replied shortly after you posted but it appears it’s not going to show up here. :) So in short, would love to share with you. Feel free to contact me directly at AngelaA.DPT(at)gmail(dot)com
        Blessings!

  • Renee

    Thank you so much for your transparency – this is right where I am at today in so many ways!

  • Holly Marie Ford

    Did you read my journal???! I’m in the same boat as you but have been doing better (Because I’ve been making life style changes and going to bed earlier). I struggle with house work because I was never taught but have made a schedule to help keep me on track. But in the morning the bed feels soooo comfortable and warm. But when I push myself and get up early my day goes so much smoother and I get so much more done!!! I have control over my day instead of the other way around! Thank-you for sharing your heart with us! <3

  • Holly Marie Ford

    My children are my audience and how I act behind doors, they will reflect me! I want to be a godly leader who will teach them good character & morals!!! This inspired me and helped me to take a good look at my life! Thank-you!!!

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