How I Started To Get Myself Un-Busy & Better Mom Mondays Link-up!

Today I am excited to introduce you to our guest, Dr. Ann.  Here is a little bit about Dr. Ann:

Dr. Ann is a Christian M.D., wife to her wonderful husband, and mom to a terrific gang of three.  At The Marriage Checklist Ann blogs about marriage, motherhood, and more!  She is syndicated on, and has been featured onBlogHer.comMichaelHyatt.comFox news, and Good Morning America.  

You can read more from Dr. Ann at The Marriage Checklist

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Dr. Ann writes:

A little while back, I noticed I was getting into a not-so-great habit.

Whenever I’d greet friends and they would ask “How are you doing?”,  I would say:


followed quickly by:

“But, boy, things are busy!”

After awhile of doing this, I finally began to hear what I was actually saying.  What was going on?  Was I just making small talk, or was there something else?

At first glance, maybe it just didn’t seem as exciting to answer the question “How’s it going?” with:

“I’ve got absolutely nothing going on.  I’m bored stiff!  I wish I had something to do!”

But the truth was a little darker than that.

The truth was that busyness had become my badge of honor. 

Here’s how it played out in my mind:

If I was busy, then surely that meant I was being productive.  And if I was being productive/achieving/accomplishing things, then somehow that proved my worth.


Of course, there are seasons in life when bu

sy just comes at you.  There are fires to put out: financial, emotional, and physical.  But I realized that I’d been creating more fires than were really necessary.  I had become used to bustling around and doing, not resting or being.

But then came the dilemma:

Busyness is an endless loop.  If it’s a ticket to my self-worth, then it’s a treadmill that never stops.  Sooner or later, exhaustion and depletion set in.

Have you ever heard the acronym for B.U.S.Y.?  Being Under Satan’s Yoke.  I don’t think it’s too dramatic to say that I believe busyness has become a weapon of mass distraction.  We’re so overbooked that there’s little or no time left over for the things that matter most. Our schedules chip away at our time with God.  At our time with the people we love.

So, what did I do about it?

Psalm 127:1 pointed me towards my true north: Unless the LORD builds the house, its builders labor in vain.

I resolved to stop building and laboring, both in vain as well as vainly.

I decided to become intentional, daily seeking God’s top priorities in my life.  I’ve realized that His priorities are not about accomplishments. They are about relationships.

This will be an on-going journey, I can tell. Probably a life-long journey.

But I’ve got time.

Now that I’m not quite so busy.

What do you do to fight the tide of busyness? 

Blessings, Dr. Ann


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  1. says

    Thank you so much for sharing this! This reminder is perfect timing for me. Just a few days ago, I realized that I am getting bad at just sitting/resting because I feel the need to accomplish something. Accomplishments are great, but like you said, relationships are God’s priority. Thanks for the encouragement and great post!

  2. says

    Thanks for sharing! I completely agree and our family has always made a priority to go against the grain and have a more laid back lifestyle. It makes me sad to see the people around me so busy that you can FEEL the stress emanating from them. In today’s fast paced world, it seems that most people tend to forget they have a choice. I love having a more laid back lifestyle and not always being stressed about my to-do list or schedule :)

  3. says

    I agree so much and noticed I was doing this as well. It is a hard habit to break. But I want to be intentional and do tings that count. I want to walk in the Spirit. :)

  4. says

    Amen! I completely agree. It’s much easier to see how big of a problem and how Satan “hides” it from us when we believe that we are doing must be done. Thanks so much!

  5. says

    My husband and I have been saying people wear their ‘busyness badge’ for years. We use to proudly wear one too, but we have tried to change that over the years. I think its sad that people think it’s so great that they are so busy that they can’t get together with friends. To me, if I’m too busy to fellowship with others, I’m just too busy.

  6. Sharon says

    I had never heard of the acronym for BUSY, but I believe it’s true! It’s amazing how easily I can get sidetracked with things that have little to no value in the long run. Thanks for encouraging us to seek God as far as what our top priorities should be.

  7. TeacherMamaTina says

    I used to always hear the BUSY acronym in talks by speakers from our Catholic lay community (Couples for Christ) and sometimes even use it myself when I give talks. BUT, reading your post made me realize that, YES, I have been {ashamedly} busy in that sense lately. :( Thank YOU, Dr. Ann, for allowing God to use you to remind me that I need to focus on the TRUE PRIZE and on spending time with Jesus and my loved ones! :) God bless always!

  8. messymarriage says

    I guess I’ve come at this from a similar angle, Ann. But I don’t necessarily feel it’s my “badge of honor.” Instead, for me, it’s a way to keep my guilt at bay. What I mean is that I don’t want to ever be accused of being a slacker or not doing my fair share! So I always find something to do and often miss out on the “being” that God wants me to experience. I really love the insights that you share here, though. You always challenge my thinking! And I’m so excited that you’re the guest for this great blog hop!

  9. says

    Ah..the guilt monster! Something that plagues us all. So true that God provides us rest and relief from that as well!


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