All in Toddlers

3 Ways To Love A Growing Tween

I am not exactly sure when it happened, but one day I woke up and realized that my oldest daughter and I were now standing eye to eye. I will admit that I realized it was bound to happen soon, being that I only stand right at five feet tall!

This new vantage point feels strange.  However, it is just the evidence of what I already knew to be true.

She is growing. 

If I knew that slowing down to say hello to a fellow mom could land me in such a pool of mommy guilt, I would have kept on going. She started off the conversation with a rather innocent question, but before I knew what happening, one of my comments opened up a door to an accusation I never saw coming . . . and that triggered an onslaught of mommy guilt.  I nodded along with a smile on my face, but but on the inside, I was on the brink of tears and feeling like a failure as a mom.  

Guilt has the power wreck us, but God’s grace always has the upper hand when we yield to His truth. {click to tweet}

I pressed on with the details of the evening, feeling icky and wishing I could go home. All I wanted to do was talk to my husband, and yet looking back, I’m so glad that was not an option. Instead, I ended up emptying my heart before the Lord each time the emotions rose up inside of me.

I am often thinking or worrying about my kids. I wonder if I'm letting them watch too much TV or play on devices too long.  I think about what they eat. How much they're outside.  Their clothes, their hair, their shoes (and if they're wearing them).  Basically, every part of their lives I stress over.  I wonder if I'm doing this whole motherhood thing right.

I've lately been encouraged to focus on special moments with my children, instead of getting overwhelmed with childrearing worries that really have no defined answers.  I love this idea.