To Linger Longer: Treasuring Person Over Productivity


His answer caught me a bit by surprise. "I would love it if you just hugged me...longer."

In a season of difficult decisions and busy schedules, I had asked my husband, "What can I DO to help you?" I wanted to make phone calls, create to-do lists...take things off his plate. I longed to right the wrongs and fix things. Well aware of all that had to be done in the day to day, I rarely paused for long displays of affection; I was too efficient for hugs.

The one thing that feels superfluous in your day, may just be the most meaningful to your husband. Have you slowed down to linger lately?

I had somehow grown self-righteous in my refusal to rest and to enjoy leisure...the luxury of lingering. 

But for my husband, the greatest way I could be of help to him was to simply acknowledge, tenderly, that he was worth my time, and worth pausing for. He wanted to know that I still needed his embrace and that he could count on mine. He was longing for the relationship while I was looking for results. What I counted as superfluous in the midst of a busy day, he considered essential for lasting motivation. 

My husband...he chooses the person over productivity.  Sometimes I'm so caught up with serving him that I miss out on enjoying him. And, isn't that how it is with our relationship with the Lord?

God extends his welcome for us to choose the good portion: 

But the Lord answered her, “Martha, Martha, you are anxious and troubled about many things, but one thing is necessary. Mary has chosen the good portion, which will not be taken away from her.”
— Luke 10:41-42

What pleases our the Lord the most is when we desire Him...not just what we can do for him. We look around our needy world and cry out, "How can I be Your hands and feet? How can I help?" Perhaps He answers us by simply reminding us to first savor, first draw near, first enjoy Him, first linger...

I am the vine; you are the branches. Whoever abides in me and I in him, he it is that bears much fruit, for apart from me you can do nothing.
— John 15:5

His arms are open wide will you linger a little longer with the Lord? 

Because of grace,


Ruth Simons,

Ruth Simons

Ruth Chou Simons is an unlikely mom to six young boys and wife to a very patient man, Online, she's an artist, writer, and speaker, who shares her journey and how God's grace intersects daily life at her blog + shoppe at In her everyday life, she washes 8 loads of laundry a week, cooks for large crowds, and educates her children from home part time through the classical Christian school she and her husband, Troy, founded in Albuquerque, New Mexico. Get a glimpse + behind the scenes of her heart, art, and home on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter.

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