When I married my husband, I knew I was marrying my best friend. He was the one person I loved doing everything in life with. I think spouses need to be each other’s best friends. The camaraderie, the closeness, the confidentiality, and the common bonds that are foundational make-up for best friends are vital for a husband and wife to experience with each other.
I love my best friend. I love my husband!
And most times, my introvert personality tries to convince me that my husband is the only close friend I need or have time for. However, I have learned over our decade long marriage that although it is important to be best friends with my husband, our marriage also needs "best married friends." We need couples who can walk alongside us and our family as support, as people who will give us honest feedback, as friends who we can enjoy life with.
Married couples need married friends.
Married friends are awesome because they understand the things that we are going through. They can relate, because they have been there, and more often than not they have solid wisdom to share on overcoming specific marital issues.
When my husband and I went through the hardest season of our marriage, it was our married friends who stood by us, talked with us, helped us, and provided support for us to get through that season with perseverance.
There have also been plenty of times that our friends have been there to do fun things with, to laugh with, to chat about life goals and how our relationships are going.
God’s Word tells us and urges us to love one another and to encourage one another. This is what it means to be friends! To meet together regularly and do good toward each other.
"And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near." - Hebrews 10-24-25
God’s Word also says in Proverbs 27:17,
"Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another."
I can’t tell you how many times our married friends have helped sharpen us. They have pointed out things to us in love such as how my husband and I bicker or whether we are cherishing and respecting one another. Sometimes we are blind to the way we treat each other and our friend's added perspectives help us understand all that is happening and how we can be better.
Married couples need married friends. If you aren't making time for friends you should really consider this and consider how investing into friendships can bless your marriage.
Jennifer Smith Unveiledwife.com