Do you have a vision for your motherhood? Do you feel like or believe everything depends on you? If you don't do everything right, do you believe your children will turn out all wrong? Many times we overestimate and put too much weight on ourselves as mothers. Weight we were never meant to carry.
Myth #7: Motherhood is the Luck of the Draw
Many moms walk in the belief that motherhood is the luck of the draw and our children will just turn out how they turn out -- but nothing could be further from the truth.
Neglecting to have a vision for motherhood is akin to leaving our children up to chance.
But having a vision, creating goals, and being intentional is what helps shape our children--not into our image, but the image of Christ.
Myth #8: Everything Depends on Me
We live in a culture that is driven by independence and as a result, we believe everything for our children has to be done by us and everything our children learn and become has to be from us.
That's a lot of pressure!!
Don't get me wrong -- being a mother has it's own pressures by itself. But the belief that everything depends on us isn't only prideful, it can be destructive. God never expects us to mother alone nor does he expect everything our children becomes to be by or from us.
If our children could get everything they needed from us and only depend on us, what need for God would they have? They should be taught to rely on God more than us.
Myth #9: I Have to Do It Right, or My Child Will Turn Out Wrong
I think a lot of moms get hung up here. I know I have. I was a parenting book junkie -- reading all the parenting books that promised me I'd have perfectly behaved, perfectly disciplined children as long as I did X, Y, and Z. The one thing I didn't take into account, though, is that I would need to mother perfectly to gain such results and that just didn't happen.
It's no wonder why I was so confused about the reasons my children didn't behave as the experts promised. It's not that my children are monsters -- but they are children and they are human. And like all humans, they have a sin-nature, a childishness, and an immaturity.
It's not about parenting perfectly -- but it is about being in tune with your children, their needs, and God's leading. Every child, every family is unique.