Moms, We Need To Inspect What We Expect

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What do you expect from your children? Is it too much? Not enough? Learning what to require and holding them to it is important to our parenting. Here's a guide to help you develop expectations, at any age, with your kids.

“To be an effective parent, you must let your children know what you expect from them, and then you must be close enough to the action to be able to regularly inspect their work.” -- Zig Ziglar

Yes, Mr. Ziglar, I couldn’t agree more.

The phrase ‘inspect what you expect’ definitely drives leadership practices and business circles (Google it and see).  I believe applying this concept to motherhood can reap healthy benefits as well.

Because honestly Mamas, we’re involved in a huge enterprise called HOME and FAMILY.  Motherhood is no small adventure, for sure.

So, what about this idea of setting expectations and checking up on them?

Why is it so important?

It’s God’s way

From the beginning of life in the Garden, God sets the stage with his children Adam and Eve:  he cared for them deeply and stayed in close relationship.  He also shared clear expectations for life in their new place, and then came back to check up on them!  (See Genesis 2 if you’re unfamiliar with the story.)

He does the same with us.

Motivated by unconditional love, God gives us clear understanding in Scripture of what is acceptable or not in the way we think, act, treat others, and go about our everyday lives.

Should we do any less for our own children?

Children learn they are valuable

We need healthy and reasonable expectations for our children (see note below) and then stay close enough to inspect how they are moving along -- offering encouragement and correction as needed. 

This sends a clear message to our little ones (or bigger ones!) that they are important to the team of our family.  Their contributions matter.

What gets noticed usually gets done.  No, not always. Our children will make plenty of mistakes and need grace.  

But overall, and over time, children often repeat whatever gets their parent’s attention.  

Mamas, we can help by giving our children a road map of what we expect from them, and then offering loving support along the way.

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A note about ‘age-appropriate’ expectations - choose with care what to expect from your children and consider their ability levels wisely.  Too much or too little can be incredibly frustrating for kids (ask me how I know!).  Seek out Christian resources and helps or ask your family and friends for tips -- and pray.  God knows your children best.

Blessings,

Daniele

 

 

Daniele

Daniele is a homeschooling Mama of five kiddos and a voracious reader of books. Passionate about her faith, home and family, she blogs about the intentional lifestyle at  Domestic Serenity and writes for other online and print publications. Daniele thinks life is made more enjoyable with a cup of herbal tea in hand!