I hear it over and over and over. I even say it myself: "We're just soooo busy!"I see our busy-ness addressed at church and in books, on blogs and Christian magazines. I even see it addressed in non-Christian media.
In fact, I see the problem stated so very often that I forget to think about the cause.
It seems like many times, teachers and pastors are showing us how to treat the symptoms while ignoring the problem
Why is everyone so busy?
Here are a few reasons to think about.
1. Everyone else is busy
We're keeping up with the Jones's. We might purpose to slow down when school starts, but then we talk to our friends and their kids will be in karate, on swim team, taking piano and playing in the band. Plus they'll be participating in such-and-such ministry as a family and each spouse will be in the church choir...all of a sudden we wonder what we'll be doing in those boring afternoons when the kids finish their homework.
2. The culture around us.
We live in a culture of speed.
We don't want to wait for things. We're always moving. I do work on my laptop while waiting for Facebook to load on my phone. We want lightening fast internet and answers to text messages within 20 minutes. If an email isn't responded to by day's end we wonder if we've done something to offend the other party.
3. We're running.
Sometimes busy-ness can be an indication that things aren't right.
- Are you hurting? Are there issues under the surface that you just don't want to think about?
- In the quiet hours, does your heart ache? Do you feel anger, sadness, or hopeless?
- Do you avoid thinking about finances, your marriage, or your interactions with one of your children?
We can "try" new things all day long. We can cut down on the kid's activities and loosen up our schedule. We can learn to say "no" to choices we've determined aren't beneficial to our family, and we can even move to the country and start homesteading.
All , or even one, of these decisions could be the right ones to help you and your family slow down, unless the reason for your busy-ness is number three.
Friend, if you are filling your schedule with good things because it's too hard to look at the painful things, please rethink your decision.
It's in the quiet moments that God begins healing.
In repentance and rest is your salvation, in quietness and trust is your strength. Isaiah 30:15
Find rest, O my soul, in God alone. Psalm 62:5
Very early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house and went off to a solitary place, where he prayed. Mark 1:35
This fall as the school year begins for so many and activities pick back up, instead of focusing so much on how busy I am, I will be thinking on why I'm busy.
I'll be focusing on finding time with God. I'll try to carve time in my schedule purposefully - so I can fill it with healing and seeking His voice. Join me?
There can be so many reasons for our busy-ness. Can you share any others I didn't list?