4 Steps To Tame Red-Faced Mama Anger

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I've been angry. I've been angry about broken dishes.

I've been angry over noisy kids.

I've been angry over incessant bickering in the car.

I've been angry.

4 Steps To Tame Red-Faced Mama AngerI'm not proud of it, but I want you to know that if you've yelled or fumed or slammed or maybe spanked too hard...you're not alone.  My cheeks flush to admit it.  But I've been angry.

What can us mamas who battle real anger do?

Five years ago I was called to the table on my anger.  I knew I struggled.  I knew the guilt of sitting by my children's beds at night crying and praying for change.

Crying and praying only get us so far.

We need to act if things are out of control.

I started seeking out resources.  I prayed about finding a counselor we could afford.  I began attending *blush* a {free} ministry called Celebrate Recovery.

And I fell at the feet of Jesus.

The very first step for me was casting everything I had been carrying on Him.

Finances.  Children's behavior.  Marriage.  Household duties.  Schedule.  Outside relationships.  Past hurts.  Family dynamics.  Children's personalities.  My inadequacies.  Work.  These are all factors that can play into our anger.

Likewise, if we have hurts and habits that we have not dealt with, those can manifest in anger.

If you really struggle with anger, here are few choices you can take right now.

4 Steps To Tame Red-Faced Mama Anger

1.  Let go.

Let go of the denial.  Denial won't heal you.  Let go of the hiding.  Satan lives in dark places and tells us lies when we insist on hiding.  Let go of "tomorrow I will change."  Change today.  Let go of blame.  No matter how awful we may think our children are, or how terribly we've been treated by others, or how badly our life is going - acting out of anger is our fault and we need to deal with it.

2.  Realize anger itself isn't wrong.

No, it's not wrong to feel angry.  God gave us our emotions and feelings and it's not wrong to experience them.  What is wrong is acting out in anger - yelling, screaming, hurting, hitting, throwing, even talking with that super irritated tone in our voice.  We need to learn to experience our anger without hurting others {or ourselves}.

3.  Find one help today.

The first thing I did was start looking online.  Some of the following are affiliate links for books and CDs I listened to.  You can also start by reading the series I wrote on anger a while back.

4.  Seriously, start praying and seeking help.

I mention I found myself at a Celebrate Recovery meeting.  I was scared and nervous and honestly didn't even realize I was there for me.  I thought I was helping out someone else.  When I got there and everyone was broken and genuine and seeking God without their Sunday masks on I was hooked.  It felt like real church.

Maybe Celebrate Recovery (CR) isn't for you.  I've heard that Beth Moore has a great study called Breaking Free that goes through a lot of similar things to CR.  Or maybe you can form a group with other moms and go through the Anger Workbook mentioned above.  Perhaps you will call your church and the perfect counselor or pastor will be available to meet with you.

Just do something. Make a move to start working through the anger.  Today.

I will be the first to say that I don't have this all figured out.  As I write this I think I should probably go back and start re-reading some of these books again.  I'm okay with that.  I know that I've made amazing progress from five years ago.  I am not perfect. At stressful times, anger and patience can be a bigger struggle than at other times - but I continue to seek healing and Jesus.

Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.  Matthew 11:28-30

Please, my friends, know you are not alone.  If you'd like prayer or someone to share with feel free to email me:  {christy at onefunmom dot com}, I've been there and want to encourage you. 

Much love,

Christy  OneFunMom

This post is part of the month-long challenge From Grouchy...To Great.  Please check the series page for posts from the other awesome contributors on this topic.

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