Some of our husbands are incredible when it comes to helping around the house, but on the flip side, there are some husbands who don’t help at all. A door can be falling off the hinges and he won’t notice until it falls off and he has to step over it.
These are the women I want to chat with today…
My husband is great, but with every seemingly perfect man there are areas of imperfection that drive us to nag. And if we’re not nagging we might be stewing about it. That’s not good either.
If we’re to refrain from nagging, how can we communicate our frustration in love?
First of all, let’s remember that even though communication is important to both men and women, we tend to communicate differently. Many women say that their husbands won’t talk to them, but if you stop to watch the way he expresses himself, after a while you’ll become more familiar with his method of communication.
It could be any one of several reasons why a husband doesn’t tend to duties around the house. I could guess, and guess again, but without knowing him and your particular situation I would probably be way off the mark.
So the best thing that we can do is to keep those lines of communication open. If it’s a matter of resentment, overwork, a sense of failure, stress, or distraction, he might finally come out and say it, but not until he trusts you deeply with his heart.
By all means approach him with your requests, but do so in love.
The Bible warns women about nagging, which tells us that this isn’t anything new. Women have been nagging their husbands for thousands of years, but through the Word, God shows us that there is a better way to communicate. We should approach our husbands with love and humility—a hope that holds no expectation.
And above all, be kind, tender hearted and willing to forgive. That’s how you’ll win his heart.
Looking to the Bible we see a prime example in Esther who approached the king (her husband) with honor and respect. She made her petition known and left it in his hands to make the decision.
Another example we see is Jesus who lived in submission to the Father in Heaven. Praying in the garden of Gethsemane He said, “Not my will, but thine be done.”
Biblical submission doesn’t mean that we don’t have a voice or opinion. If we stifle our pain and our hurt we may grow to resent the men we once loved.
When bitterness sets in, it takes root and will grow over time unless it is removed and replaced with something better. Be encouraged to share your thoughts, but hold back on the resentment if things don’t go your way.
Finally, remember that God is control and can change things at any time. Let's do our part and let God handle the rest.
Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: And be ye kind one to another, tender hearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you. ~ Ephesians 4:31-32, KJV
Darlene Schacht www.timewarpwife.com