Casting My Worries Into the File Drawer of Heaven

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Are you carrying something that God wants to take from you?  Do you trust that in His time, He will show you His way and He will meet our needs?  God wants you to experience peace of heart and mind every day, all the time....

Exhaustion usually captured me around 10 p.m. each evening and I could not make myself do one more responsible thing. After tucking in all four of my children, I always thought I would check some things off my list and finish more chores before I went to bed.

Somehow, I never seemed to get very far.

But, at times, after about 6 or so hours of hard sleep, I would awaken abruptly and realize that something was wrong. As I pondered my anxious feelings in the silent hours of night, I realized that at times there were dark shadows hovering over my soul, pressing in and making me feel trouble.

Sometimes when I mentally peered inside to see what was weighing so heavily, it was usually something related to worry, fear or self-condemnation.

“What if we don’t make enough money this year and can’t pay our bills?”

“My little girl’s asthma squares me. ‘What if she quits breathing?”

“Sometimes, my children seem so out of control. What am I doing wrong? Am I just a failure as a mom?”

“I don’t think I can make it through this year if something doesn’t change. My life is just too hard.”

Often the thoughts would pile high before I could get control of my despair.

As mamas, there will never be an end to the things that bring stress in our lives or that cause us to feel fear of what might happen or counting the ways that we have fallen short of ideals.

Years ago, one of my friends lost her husband in a terrible, sudden accident. Her children had nightmares about their daddy dying. She found that at night the shadows of life would trouble her more and she would become despondent.

One of her counselors told her and she told me, “We were never made to cope with our biggest burdens in life at night. Our adrenalin is down, our energy is depleted, the light of day is gone and our body has no defense to fight against the things that trouble our hearts.”

“Picture yourself, Sally, standing in heaven and opening God’s file drawer of “things to take care of” and put your problems, fears and burdens into His file drawer, one at a time and then close it and leave it there.”

I began to realize that this was a way for me to visualize rolling over the burdens that I was carrying that only God could take care of.

As I slowly learned to name my fears, and worries and place them in God’s drawer and close it to leave it there, to walk away without burdens, I began to breathe in His peace.

God wants to be our Father and He wants to be responsible to carry our burdens for us.

When I practiced leaving my problems in God’s hands, when I pictured placing them in His file drawer, so to speak and then closed it, and acknowledged that He was capable of taking care of all of my issues, I would mentally leave that place and seek to walk forward in the peace and grace he had promised to give me.

Perhaps this is what Jesus meant when He said, “My yoke is easy, my burden is light,” because if He carries our burdens for us, they will not weigh us down.

Today, peer into your own heart.

Are you carrying something that God wants to take from you?

Do you trust that in His time, He will show you His way and He will meet our needs?

God wants you to experience peace of heart and mind every day, all the time. So, reflect on what is troubling you and place it in God’s heavenly file drawer, don’t carry it and observe how faithful He is to accomplish what concerns us.

 

“Cast your cares on Him because He cares for you.” I Peter 5:7

 

“In peace I will both lie down and sleep, For You alone, O LORD, make me to dwell in safety.” Psalm 4:8

 Blessings,

Sally Clarkson, SallyClarkson.com

Sally Clarkson

For over two decades Sally has championed Christian motherhood in North America and in many foreign countries. She trains and disciples mothers in ministry, and leads a local Bible study that draws up to eighty women into her home each month. She loves discipleship.

The Silent Stewing Towards Other Mothers

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Three sisters share a bathroom, a closet, hairbrushes and the nightly bedtime recounting of the day. They know each other’s strengths just as surely as they know one another’s morning breath. All the girls know that Eden can sing and Hope can dance and Lily can paint. They celebrate each others’ differences readily. They wouldn’t want to forfeit what’s theirs -- and doesn’t every girl have their one thing? You’d never catch Lily in a leotard these days and Eden’s paints have long since dried up.

But in the everyday things of life they share – the writing, the reading, the piano playing … oh, and the hair – they sometimes give each other the side-eye. The celebration of one another is a struggle. It’s work to rejoice over a sister’s longer hair, and longer books read, and new writing pieces. On these, their natural bent can be to be silent.

Not all that different from us mamas, if we do what’s “natural”, isn't it?

Comparison is the masqueraded thief of motherhood, attempting to turn my head from what He has to say to me, for me and for my family and for my children.   Friends, we just don’t have time for the internal noise that the enemy brings us with comparison.....

A friend who’s a triathlete or another who’s in sales or still another who plays the violin masterfully – they’re all easy for me to celebrate. I could spend a whole summer at the pool without getting my head wet, I like to buy (and not sell), and I’ve never once held a violin.

But what about the mom with children the same age as mine? Or (for me) the other writer, the other speaker, the other adoptive parent? 

It seems harmless to remain silent at another’s successes – to look sideways and feel better about who we are because our successes might be bigger or to feel worse about what we’re not in light of their gold. It seems harmless to cast the side-eye and to stay silent. I mean they are, after all, succeeding – surely they don’t need celebrating in addition to enjoying all that so-evident fruit.

Within my heart, however, they do need celebrating.

When I don’t see the people in my world with the understanding that God has given to each a unique role within His body and that my job is to feel with another when they’re weak and to rejoice with another when they’re honored, I miss out on the beauty I was meant to receive from that person.

And I miss out on the sweet whisper of God telling me, uniquely, who I am in Him.

We dress up comparison like we dress up our pet demons – “oh, it’s not that bad. It’s just a function of motherhood -- just a function of a being a woman.” But what it steals from us (in ever-increasing increments over time) is the ability to hear His vision for our particular life and for our particular calling.

It all gets cloudy. And fast.

Comparison is the masqueraded thief of motherhood, attempting to turn my head from what He has to say to me, for me and for my family and for my children. (I’m a writer as well – this aptly applies there, too.)

Friends, we just don’t have time for the internal noise that the enemy brings us with comparison.

Say no to the lie the enemy wants to use to hook you into this line of thinking . For some, this may require some unpacking with the Lord – where in my heart am I not hearing what You have to say to me, God? Why do these comparisons keep tripping me up?.

And let's be active about celebrating the ones in our world who are stepping up and into what God has for them. You have a child who’s struggling through the second grade and your best friend has one who is thriving. Celebrate with her, and then let's scoot on back behind our own closed doors and ask Him: “what do you have for this child, God? What might you say to me, about your vision for my child and my family?”

There are sides of God we will not know until we celebrate the parts of the body that exhibit them.

Sara Hagerty

Sara is a wife to Nate and a mother of five whose arms stretched wide across the expanse between the United States and Africa. After almost a decade of Christian life she was introduced to pain and perplexity and, ultimately, intimacy with Jesus. God met her and moved her when life stopped working for her. And out of the overflow of this perplexity, came her writing, both on her blog and in her book – Every Bitter Thing Is Sweet .

You are Not a Failure, You are a Daughter of the King

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There are many temptations in our world to fall into the trap of believing the lie that we are a failure. As wives, we struggle to compare our marriages to other's marriages, or to what we see portrayed in social media, movies, and in books. As moms, we are tempted to compare how good of mom we are. But the truth is, you are God's child, a daughter of the King. And He has the power to help you overcome any temptation, any obstacle, anything that is overwhelming. All you have to do is ask....

There are many temptations in our world to fall into the trap of believing the lie that we are a failure. As wives, we struggle to compare our marriages to other's marriages, or to what we see portrayed in social media, movies, and in books. As moms, we are tempted to compare how good of mom we are.

We see one mom posting pictures of the amazing dinner she made for her family and automatically, instead of rejoicing that she is accomplishing something that will bless those she loves, we can often fall into the comparison trap and become discouraged. "Thinking, man is it dinner already? I don't even know what I am going to make." Or, "we just have spaghetti again."

The world impresses standards of what being a good mom or wife is supposed to look like and what we should do. We can easily expect things from ourself that are unrealistic or not even what we are called to, and when it all piles up, and we haven't accomplished what we intended, we can begin to believe the lie that we are a failure.

I have been there. I have felt the pressures to have and be and do. 

It broke me. 

Not in the holy kind of brokeness, we should desire, but in the broken, depressed, lowly view of myself kind of brokeness. 

Have you been there before?

I have some encouragement and a gentle warning, Sister.

In those times when I have fallen into believing the lie that I am failing, I have allowed that lie to take root in my mind; that is when I begin failing. 

The truth is that my real failure and sin always comes from how I react to believing the lie that I am failing. 

For example, I just can't do it all. I just can't. I know you can relate. But in those times when I begin to focus on what I can't do, that is when my attitude changes from being motivated and productive, to frustrated and grumpy. When I feel down on my capabilities and expect too much from my human self, and I can't do what I am expecting of myself, my attitude towards everyone is NOT pretty. 

When I begin to get overwhelmed, I can easily grow angry, and when I grow angry, I can sin, by leading my kids harshly, rather than tenderly.

We are all sinners and we definitely make mistakes, but a failure, we are not. We need to remember that being in Christ means we are a new creation, not just every Sunday when we go to church, and not even every day when we wake up and start a new day, but Christ has come to redeem us now, at this moment! 

If you are in the midst of a rough day, you can ask God to redeem it right now, to push reset on your day!

As you go through your days remember to guard your hearts and minds and teach your children to do the same. 

"Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour." 1 Peter 5:8

If you are a feeling like a failure as a mom today, receive this virtual hug from me, a sister in Christ and remember that you are holy, beloved, forgiven, cleansed, clean, cherished, beautiful, and chosen.

You have been redeemed.

You are God's child, a daughter of the King. And He has the power to help you overcome any temptation, any obstacle, anything that is overwhelming. All you have to do is ask.

Lord Jesus, would you help us to be alert and aware when we are tempted to believe lies about who we are. Remind us that we are chosen, renewed, and holy, because of what You have done in our lives. Help us to receive your grace so that we can freely give it to others. Thank you for our families. Help us to be a beacon to our children of living in grace and freedom in Christ. Would you reveal to each of us the lies that we believe about ourselves and help us to cast off any false identities or lies we are believing. Help us to remember that we can call on you at any moment and just push restart on our day. Amen.

Be Courageous, 

Angie Tolpin, The Courageous Mom

Heirloom Audio Adventure {A Review}

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This was the right summer for our family to review anything of the audio adventure nature. We've had plenty of time on the road and therefore, sufficient time to listen to our newest addition to the Feldpausch family's cd collection- Heirloom Audio Adventures. We recently received these audio adventures and I'd love to tell you a little more about them.

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