On the Lysol Days…

Lysol Days

Last month the principal called because a certain-someone’s-child threw up all over the entrance to the school auditorium.

And I started this post after 7 days of children with stomach-bug-fever-coughing-virus-nose-wiping.

And yes.
I fed them juice, jello, applesauce, yogurt drinks, and..
Cheetos.
Because that’s all they were keeping down.

And now I’m finishing this post a month later after we also went through a round of chicken pox (even after the vaccination).
And I’m pretty sure I’m not the only one out there carrying around a tub of Lysol wipes.

It can be frustrating when schedules have to change, parties are cancelled, Bible study is missed, laundry starts to pile–
And sickness interrupts plans.

Especially my plans.

But that’s what I’m trying to learn…
What I need to learn–

“The great thing, if one can, is to stop regarding all the unpleasant things as interruptions of one’s ‘own,’ or ‘real’ life. The truth is of course that what one calls the interruptions are precisely one’s real life — the life God is sending one day by day.”
~C.S. Lewis

I want to make the best use of each day God gives me,
“…making the best use of the time.” ~Colossians 4:5
Because He is the Sender of my days.

So when those seasons of sickness hit, how can we best use the time?

1. We can remember that the pause is a gift from God–
A time to slow down and examine where and how we are using are time, spending our moments.

2. We can reclaim the time at home for building relationships with our children–
Sometimes that will mean piles of books read aloud, or Fox in Sox read thirty times in a row (that book “is dangerous” you know).
Sometime it will be drippy popsicles and coloring books at the kitchen table.
Or mugs of hot chocolate shared while watching episodes of  Word Girl.

3. We can use the time to accomplish something–
Clean out a cupboard, write a letter, email a thank you, start a new Bible study, deep-clean a bathroom, read a novel, bake some cookies, weed the garden, make a phone call of encouragement.

4. If we start to get discouraged, we can ask God for His perspective–
For global perspective.  For eternal perspective.  For a reminder of others who are struggling-hurting deeply.
We can ask God to take our eyes off self and to lift them back up to Him.

5.  We can ask God to help us make our home a real place of shelter, solace, and comfort. We can show His love to our families.

Thank you God (and Edith Schaeffer ) for the reminder:

“What is a family?  A family is a well-regulated hospital, a nursing home, a shelter in time of physical need, a place where a sick person is greeted as a sick human being and not as a machine that has a loose bolt, or a mechanical doll that no longer works– to be shoved aside because it is no more fun, nor is it useful…

For some people the memory of illness carries with it the memory of loving care, cool hands stroking the forehead, sponge baths in bed, clean sheets under a hot chin, lovely-flavored drinks, back rubs, medicine given methodically by the clock, flowers near the bed, curtains drawn when the fever is hurting the eyes, soft singing mother’s or father’s voice during a sleepless night…

When illness hits we should remember that this period of time is part of the whole of life.  This is not just a non-time to be shoved aside, but a portion of time that counts…We are to recognize that to waste this time is as much a loss as wasting a time we might think of as the height of productivity.

The opportunity to do something practical about making your family remember their sickness with a feeling that yours was the “best hospital in the world” is very real, and becomes the challenge that gives purpose to some of the drudgery. It is a time when each of us can have the chance to be practical about the command in Matthew 7:12…During sicknesses we can both literally and figuratively ‘wash feet’ as we do the messy jobs that someone has to do, and then say, ‘Thank you, Lord, for giving me a glimpse of what it is all about…

…What is a family?  A family is a blending of people for whom a career of making a shelter in the time of storm is worth a lifetime! Yes, it is while we are in the land of the living that the family is meant to care for each other, and to be a real shelter–”

~Edith Schaeffer What is a Family?

 

May God bless our families with good health, but on the days when the Lysol wipes are sitting on the kitchen counter,
May God bless us with kindness and compassion and patience and strength, so that we can show His kind of lay-down-self-love to our families.

Love,

Kara @ The Chuppies

A Cause for Celebration

We woke up to what had to have been a doozy of a storm the night before. Tree branches and sticks were strewn all over the yard. I made an announcement to the kids before we started school that we were going out later to pick up the debris. Ian, our then four-year old son, decided he would take on that mission on his own since he didn’t have the encumbrance of school. My little man dutifully put on his boots and tromped out the door to take care of the task at hand.

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About a half an hour later, Ian came through the door as proud as a peacock, and asked me to look at his handiwork. I looked out the door, and there, on the front porch, he’d gathered several limbs, some of them being rather large. It was hard to imagine how he’d had the strength to transport them all the way there. I had to wonder what he was thinking setting them on the front porch instead of in the back yard on the burn pile.

I was tempted to ask Ian why in the world he’d dragged those branches where he had, causing extra work for the rest of us, but then I realized he was incredibly proud of himself and of how helpful he’d been. I knew that being as small as he was, he was feeling a great sense of accomplishment. And though eventually we would have to move those branches to the backyard without making him feel badly about it, he had done what I’d asked and he’d worked very hard doing it. So we all praised Ian for being so strong and doing such an awesome job. We talked about it throughout the day as a family. We marveled aloud at his manly determination.

Recalling this incident reminds me of how I often feel inadequate and burdened by my inability to lead a holy and God-honoring life. I want to have a strong resolve to walk in obedience, but I feel dogged at times by my many failures and defeated by the fact that I am nowhere near what He intends for me to be.

But when I think of this story of Ian and the branches, I smile, because like Ian, my accomplishments–though often very small–are nonetheless impressive, given the measure of my own depravity. And I take comfort in knowing that the growth in my life is evidence of God’s promise in Philippians 1:6, “I am sure of this, that He who started a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.”

Satan often kicks us when we’re down and tortures us with thoughts of failure and despair, telling us that even our good deeds are just too few and that our accomplishments are not that impressive. Yet, this isn’t the way God views our attempts to please Him and walk in holiness. He knows better than anyone our frailties and sinful condition. Before coming to Him we were spiritually dead. So, even the smallest act of obedience on our part is cause for celebration.

God is our Father in the truest sense of the word. And just as we delight in the attempts of our children to please us, God even more delights in our efforts to walk in obedience to Him. The fact that we desire at all to follow His commands is truly a mark of His saving grace in our lives.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not suggesting we adopt a “no big deal” attitude toward sin. Cheap grace is an affront to God to be sure, but so is a failure to recognize the work of the Holy Spirit in our lives. So the next time you drag a few oversized branches to the porch, know that your Heavenly Father is smiling and rejoicing over you.

“But one thing I do: forgetting what is behind and reaching forward to what is ahead, I pursue as my goal the prize promised by God’s heavenly call in Christ. “  ~Philippians 3:13,14

Blessings as you walk in obedience,

~Barb

Again and Again

Doesn’t it feel good when you get something done right the first time? Or, when you complete a project and move on to another. Unfortunately, that’s not parenting. Parenting is a labor of love not one time, but continually…perpetually…again and again.

Sometimes we act as though our kids can be trained with one deft stroke if we could manage to be accurate enough, stern enough, loud enough, or wise enough as parents. We are dismayed and sometimes shocked when our kids don’t change their attitudes for good, stop the habit in a day, or cease to be repeat offenders. Swift and precise parenting would save us time and energy, not to mention how good we’d feel about ourselves as mothers! But that is not how parenting is. In fact, it is precisely NOT how God designed it.

Consider the Israelites. The Lord patiently loved and led them, with chastening, for forty years in the desert. They never got anything the first time; in fact, they had to learn the same lesson over and over. How about Jesus and his disciples? Despite countless teachings, examples, and corrections from Jesus about what it was to be “first,” and what it was to be “last,” the disciples continued to get lost in the self-centered arguments of who would be the greatest in the Kingdom. And how about our dear apostle Peter, a perfect example of a repeat offender, a kid who just didn’t get it perfectly the first, second, or third time. The Lord knew that Peter was an unfinished work, and diligently molded him day by day.

I say this often, and I will say it again: Praise the Lord, He is not through with us yet. 

If we are continual works in progress, should we expect our children to be anything different? The Father patiently trains, encourages, teaches, corrects, leads, demonstrates, forgives, loves, and disciplines us as his children. In the same way, we too, can trust that our work with our precious little ones will require diligence and patience in all these ways as well. We love because He first loved us. We can forgive because we are forgiven. We demonstrate long-suffering because He is forbearing with us. We discipline those little souls we love because we know His refining touch. We don’t keep a record of wrongs because ours has been wiped clean.

We know the privilege of parenthood because He has given it to us. Let us respond to our mission in motherhood today not once…but again and again!

Have Yourself a Patient Little Christmas (Ornament Tutorial)

Throughout life, patience is the virtue many people find most difficult to attain and practice. And in our fast food society, teaching this character quality to children can seem a daunting task.  

Here are some ideas that I have come up with to help instill patience in children:

  • Encourage your child to write old-fashioned, hand-written, snail-mailed letters rather than e-mails.
  • Plant seeds; a backyard plot, a windowsill garden, or simply sow a few seeds in a clay pot. Tend to the seeds together and as you check their progress, discuss the principle in James 5:7.
  • Rather than spending all of their money on frivolous purchases, help children choose a higher-priced item to save for.  Encourage them to meet their money-saving goal.
  • Incite your children to finish what they start, whether it is chores or fun projects.
  • Playing board games is a wonderful way to grow in patience.
  • Work a 1000-piece puzzle together.
  • Teach your child not to interrupt. We practice this at home by setting up training situations. As I talk with one child, the younger child will come to me, desiring my attention. Unless it is an emergency, they must take hold of my hand and patiently wait for me to excuse myself from my current conversation to give them my full attention.

Here is a fun project that helps to build patience in children: An old-fashioned, homemade, tin-punch Christmas ornament.

Items needed:

  • 1 lid from a frozen juice can
  • 6” thin ribbon or yarn
  • 6” raffia (optional)
  • Felt (for backing)
  • Nail
  • Hammer
  • Liquid glue
  • Scotch tape
  • Block of wood (to hammer on)
  • Pattern (download mine by clicking on the picture or use coloring book pictures or cookie cutters)

Trace around lid on the felt. Cut out felt circle and ornament pattern. Tape the pattern to the can lid.

Place the lid on the block of wood. Put the nail point on each pattern point, tapping a few times to make an indent (the nail doesn’t need to penetrate the metal).

Older children learn patience by helping their younger siblings.

 After all holes have been tapped, discard the pattern. Thread the ribbon through the top hole and tie. Thread raffia (if using) and tie into a bow. Glue the felt circle onto the back of the ornament.

Hang on the tree or give to a loved one. This ornament makes a great gift!

What creative ways have you discovered to help your children learn patience?

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