Today my friend Darlene Schacht from Time Warp Wife is joining us. I absolutely love Darlene. She is such a genuine and true friend, seeking the Lord in all she does. I am thrilled she is sharing here today and giving away her brand new book, Messy Beautiful Love. In Messy Beautiful Love you will be captivated by her story and in awe of God’s grace and restoration in her marriage. ~Ruth Schwenk
“This earthly life is a battle,’ said Ma. ‘If it isn’t one thing to contend with, it’s another. It always has been so, and it always will be. The sooner you make up your mind to that, the better off you are, and more thankful for your pleasures.” –Laura Ingalls Wilder, Little Town on the Prairie p. 89-90
I think that a big part of the reason that so many people like myself have not only fallen in love with the Little House stories, but in particular the character of Caroline Ingalls was because of her gentleness and contentment. She’s an example to many. As a pioneer woman in the 1800s she struggled alongside her husband to make ends meet, and raise their five children. Not only did this woman make do with the little they had, she did it so gracefully.
Time and again they battled against the elements of nature, never knowing how their next crop would turn out, and when they did face trouble, she looked past it to thank God for their blessings.
Contentment requires us to trade personal and immediate gratification for a heightened sense of appreciation. That kind of faith can be difficult, but those who choose to “let go and let God,” possess a gem of great worth.
Are you a Caroline Ingalls, or a Negative Nellie? Do you tend to have more days than not when things get under your skin and you find yourself saying, “Why me?” We all know how it is; it seems like the minute that everything is going along great, it all starts falling apart.
And then there are other times when, like Job, you seem to have one trouble after another, and start to wonder if things will ever let up.
So how do we fix it? How can we make our world a better place so that we’ll be happy within it?
The answer is that we can’t and we shouldn’t expect to.
There will be days where you wake up on the wrong side of the bed and wish you could crawl back in. There will be people who disappoint you so badly that all you’re left with are the shattered pieces of your heart. There will be pain, there will be loss, and there will be tears. But God in His wisdom is good.
Joy comes from within, not without.
God is treating us as dear children, and like a true Father He disciplines us for our good. It’s never pleasant at the time, but with each trial we grow more disciplined. And we learn. The more that we take our focus off of the things of this world, we turn our hearts and our minds toward God.
When we run from our problems we don’t learn to solve them. But when we patiently trust God with our heart He leads us safely through to the other side. Not necessarily comfortably, but safely nonetheless.
I haven’t arrived yet. But then again none of us have. Marriage is a life-long journey that leads us to grow every step of the way. I’m still walking in faith, but my focus is set on the Lord.
We can’t change the world around us completely, but we can change the way we relate to it so that while we’re riding the waves, we keep an even keel. All too often we have that reversed. We spend all of our energy focused on changing our surroundings so that we’ll feel better, happier, content, and relaxed–when the reality is that true long-lasting joy comes from within.
This article is an excerpt from Messy: Beautiful Love by Darlene Schacht. Used with permission from Nelson Books © 2014.
You are loved by an almighty God,
The Time-Warp Wife
Today I am soooo thrilled to introduce you to Darlene’s brand new book, Messy Beautiful Love!!
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Messy Beautiful Love: Hope and Redemption for Real-Life Marriages