About Kara Chupp

Kara is 16-years-married to her husband Jason, one of the funniest and most generous people she knows. They have five kiddos, four here and one in heaven. They also have a muppet-like-mess of a dog, non-breeding Madagascar Hissers (who have had over 100 babies), guinea pigs, and a whole bunch of stick bugs. Kara writes mostly about family, adoption, grief, education, traditions, literature, organization, Heaven, and most-importantly- her love for God. You can find her family adventures at The Chuppies. Google

Summer Planning Questions

summer planning
I have been wearing flip-flops all week.
And it’s 82 degrees outside as I write this, which is amazing for Oregon in early May.
But I’m getting excited about summer!

Usually around this time of year, my husband and I sit down, look at the calendar and do some Lord-willing-planning for the summer ahead of us.
Keeping in mind that…

“The point is fruitfulness, 
not efficiency.
You should want to be fruitful 
like a tree, 
not efficient like a machine.” ~D. Wilson

And remembering that my favorite summer was probably–
The summer we didn’t do anything.

But just in case you’re a-bit-of-a-planner, like I am,
or even if you just want to be a bit more intentional about this next summer…
I wanted to share our summer planning questions with you.

And in the comments below, I’d love to hear some of your fun summer ideas!

 

Come now, you who say, “Today or tomorrow we will go into such and such a town and spend a year there and trade and make a profit”— yet you do not know what tomorrow will bring… Instead you ought to say, “If the Lord wills, we will live and do this or that.” ~James 4:13-15

 

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Summer Planning Questions to Consider:

What places would we like to visit locally this summer?

What specific educational goals do we have for each child?

What 3 books (or more) would I like to read this summer?

How am I going to spend time in God’s Word?

What am I hoping to study in the Bible?

Are there any friendships we’d especially like to invest in this summer?

What household tasks do I need to keep up on?

Are we planning to take any extended trips or vacations?

What reoccurring weekly activities would we like to include?

Are there any specific skills we’d like our children to learn over the summer?

How am I going to invest in my marriage this summer?

What are some easy (or new) meals that I’d like to make this summer?

What specific character traits or heart issues do we need to work on with our children or as a family?

Are there any specific skills I’d like to work on over the summer?

How can I make sure we have down time?

Are there any fun movies we’d like to watch together?

How/where will we celebrate any birthdays, holidays or special occasions?

What will hospitality look like for us this summer?

Is anyone coming to stay?

Who do we want to invite over?

Does my husband have anything that is important to him to include?

Do we have any house project goals?

What will our kiddos’ summer chores include (now that they’ll have a bit more free time)?

What are some “fill-in” activities that we’d like to do more often (Legos, reading, painting, nature walks)?

Are there any schedules I need to collect to keep with my summer calendars (libraries, farmer’s markets, community theaters)?

How are we going to serve in our community, church, and/or neighborhood?

Do we have any other goals for the summer that I haven’t included elsewhere?

We’re getting close to June !!!
Roll out those lazy, hazy, crazy days of summer…

And please share your summer plans or ideas below!

Love,

Kara @The Chuppies

On the Lysol Days…

Lysol Days

Last month the principal called because a certain-someone’s-child threw up all over the entrance to the school auditorium.

And I started this post after 7 days of children with stomach-bug-fever-coughing-virus-nose-wiping.

And yes.
I fed them juice, jello, applesauce, yogurt drinks, and..
Cheetos.
Because that’s all they were keeping down.

And now I’m finishing this post a month later after we also went through a round of chicken pox (even after the vaccination).
And I’m pretty sure I’m not the only one out there carrying around a tub of Lysol wipes.

It can be frustrating when schedules have to change, parties are cancelled, Bible study is missed, laundry starts to pile–
And sickness interrupts plans.

Especially my plans.

But that’s what I’m trying to learn…
What I need to learn–

“The great thing, if one can, is to stop regarding all the unpleasant things as interruptions of one’s ‘own,’ or ‘real’ life. The truth is of course that what one calls the interruptions are precisely one’s real life — the life God is sending one day by day.”
~C.S. Lewis

I want to make the best use of each day God gives me,
“…making the best use of the time.” ~Colossians 4:5
Because He is the Sender of my days.

So when those seasons of sickness hit, how can we best use the time?

1. We can remember that the pause is a gift from God–
A time to slow down and examine where and how we are using are time, spending our moments.

2. We can reclaim the time at home for building relationships with our children–
Sometimes that will mean piles of books read aloud, or Fox in Sox read thirty times in a row (that book “is dangerous” you know).
Sometime it will be drippy popsicles and coloring books at the kitchen table.
Or mugs of hot chocolate shared while watching episodes of  Word Girl.

3. We can use the time to accomplish something–
Clean out a cupboard, write a letter, email a thank you, start a new Bible study, deep-clean a bathroom, read a novel, bake some cookies, weed the garden, make a phone call of encouragement.

4. If we start to get discouraged, we can ask God for His perspective–
For global perspective.  For eternal perspective.  For a reminder of others who are struggling-hurting deeply.
We can ask God to take our eyes off self and to lift them back up to Him.

5.  We can ask God to help us make our home a real place of shelter, solace, and comfort. We can show His love to our families.

Thank you God (and Edith Schaeffer ) for the reminder:

“What is a family?  A family is a well-regulated hospital, a nursing home, a shelter in time of physical need, a place where a sick person is greeted as a sick human being and not as a machine that has a loose bolt, or a mechanical doll that no longer works– to be shoved aside because it is no more fun, nor is it useful…

For some people the memory of illness carries with it the memory of loving care, cool hands stroking the forehead, sponge baths in bed, clean sheets under a hot chin, lovely-flavored drinks, back rubs, medicine given methodically by the clock, flowers near the bed, curtains drawn when the fever is hurting the eyes, soft singing mother’s or father’s voice during a sleepless night…

When illness hits we should remember that this period of time is part of the whole of life.  This is not just a non-time to be shoved aside, but a portion of time that counts…We are to recognize that to waste this time is as much a loss as wasting a time we might think of as the height of productivity.

The opportunity to do something practical about making your family remember their sickness with a feeling that yours was the “best hospital in the world” is very real, and becomes the challenge that gives purpose to some of the drudgery. It is a time when each of us can have the chance to be practical about the command in Matthew 7:12…During sicknesses we can both literally and figuratively ‘wash feet’ as we do the messy jobs that someone has to do, and then say, ‘Thank you, Lord, for giving me a glimpse of what it is all about…

…What is a family?  A family is a blending of people for whom a career of making a shelter in the time of storm is worth a lifetime! Yes, it is while we are in the land of the living that the family is meant to care for each other, and to be a real shelter–”

~Edith Schaeffer What is a Family?

 

May God bless our families with good health, but on the days when the Lysol wipes are sitting on the kitchen counter,
May God bless us with kindness and compassion and patience and strength, so that we can show His kind of lay-down-self-love to our families.

Love,

Kara @ The Chuppies

At the Cross of Jesus

at the Cross

Today is a day to–

Pause.

To stop…
From casually, flippantly, hurriedly– jumping to the joy of Easter-rejoicing.
But to really stop.
And not skim over the sacrifice that was made at the Cross,
On that horrendous Good Friday so long ago.

So please pause with me for a moment and let our hearts and our minds take in the sufferings of Jesus.

“For six long hours he hung there before a gazing crowd, naked, and bleeding from head to foot–
His head pierced with thorns,
His back lacerated with flogging,
His hands and feet torn with nails,
And mocked and reviled by His cruel enemies to the very last.
Let us meditate frequently on these things:
…that all these horrible sufferings were borne without a murmur;
no word of impatience crossed our Lord’s lips.
In His death, no less than in His life,
He was perfect.
To the very last,
Satan had no hold on Him (John 14:30).” ~J.C. Ryle

And for what?
For whom did He endure this suffering?

“Yet it was the Lord’s will to crush him and cause him to suffer.”  ~Isaiah 53:10

“He who did not spare His own Son, but gave him up for us all–” ~Romans 8:32

“God made him who had no sin to be sin for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God.” ~2 Cor. 5:21

“For God so loved the world, that He gave His only son, that whoever believes in him should not perish, but have eternal life.” ~John 3:16

This hymn, written by Philip P. Bliss back in 1875, is one of my favorite Easter songs.
Please take just a minute and read the words with me and then in the comments below, let’s use this online space to give thanks to our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ,
who gave all of Himself, so that we might gain everything worth anything.

“Man of Sorrows! what a name
For the Son of God, Who came
Ruined sinners to reclaim.
Hallelujah! What a Savior!

Bearing shame and scoffing rude,
In my place condemned He stood;
Sealed my pardon with His blood.
Hallelujah! What a Savior!

Guilty, vile, and helpless we;
Spotless Lamb of God was He;
Full atonement can it be?
Hallelujah! What a Savior!

Lifted up was He to die;
“It is finished!” was His cry;
Now in heaven exalted high.
Hallelujah! What a Savior!

When He comes, our glorious King,
All His ransomed home to bring,
Then anew His song we’ll sing:
Hallelujah! What a Savior!”

Praising Him with you,

Kara @ The Chuppies

Not the End of the Story…

 

End of the Story

I can’t tell you the formula–

…because there isn’t one.

I can’t tell you the end of her story–

…because it’s not the end of her story yet.

This Sunday I was in the nursery.
Holding a sweet, little 10 month old.
I nearly rocked us both to sleep in one of those cozy recliners.

Usually the nursery is packed, but for some reason we had only one baby.  While the rest of the crew went home, I stayed to enjoy time with a fellow nursery worker.

She told me the story of her husband’s death and how she met Jesus a few years later.
About her older son and his family.
And how her son just met Jesus.
And about her other son whose heart is not soft yet, still resistant and hard.
And about how–

It’s not the end of his story.

Today I spoke with a mentor-friend-mom who is often my go-to-spot when I need to process.  She spent the weekend with her older children, away at college.
We talked about mommy-mess-ups and all the things I already know I could’ve-would’ve-should’ve done differently…
better.
And I rejoiced with her as she shared about children flown away–  who are choosing God on their own.
How she can look back now and see that then

It was not the end of their stories.

Last night I spoke with a close friend, who has children-not-choosing-Him.
The heartache and pain of seeing those so-loved-hearts turn away from the One most loved.
A daddy whose heart is hurting.
But my friend has also seen God’s redemption in a prodigal-child-redeemed.
And there’s so much hope in knowing–

It was not the end of her story.

So when this mama’s heart begins to question–
Are we doing it right–  this parenting journey?
Do they really know Him?
Will Truth take hold?
When I fail in their sight and I feel I am drawing a line through my faith?

I come back to what I do know.
What I can tell you–  and what I can tell myself:

I want to give God my best effort, using wisdom and biblical guidance.
I want to cling to Him for strength, aware of my own weakness.
I want to listen to the Holy Spirit and follow where He’s leading.
But parenting is not a formula.
And God is the changer of hearts.

I want to practice consistent training and teach them of His ways.
I want to pray for them by name and plead with Him to reach them.
I want to live a faith authentic, that permeates every corner.

But when the mirror causes discouragement, I will claim 1 John 1:9,
And pray in my failures, they will see His grace abound.
Because parenting is not a formula.
And God is still changing my heart.

Because this is not the end of my story–
He still has much work to do.
This is not the end of their stories–
I will trust Him to see it through.

So thankful for these hopes offered…

God does soften hearts.
God can use our messes.
God will hear our prayers when we cry out for our children.
And it is God who will complete the work that He has started in us, and in the lives of our children.

Oh please Lord– I pray specifically that this will be true for our family and for all those whose hearts cry out with me…

“For I will have no greater joy, than to hear that my children are walking in the truth.”
~3 John 1:4
With Love,

 

Prodigal

Nathan Clarkson (son of Sally Clarkson) is currently in the process of producing and raising funds for a film he wrote as a modern retelling of the Prodigal Son, entitled Confessions of a Prodigal Son. He is making the film in hopes of the film being a light in a dark world and reaching out to a generation of lost prodigals who need to hear the redemptive message inside of Jesus’ story.
To support and find out more about this project please visit his page.

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