5 Scriptures to Combat Anger

How does a mom combat anger? For all our fight and gumption, nothing is going to be as effective at transforming our hearts as the Word of God. Here are 5 verses to meditate and pray over your heart and circumstance right now.

Anger is an emotion that I am all too familiar with. I grew up in a house full of anger and carried that with me when I left the home for my undergraduate studies at Washington State University.  I was a mess. It was there, nearly 20 years ago, my anger was confronted by the gentle love of Jesus and my life has never been the same.

One of the most effective tools that God has shown me victory over anger is through meditating and speaking His Word over my circumstance. Today I am going to share 5 scriptures I personally use to combat anger. 

5 Scriptures to Combat Anger

1. James 1:20, "For the wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God."

This scripture really helps keep me in check when I am tempted to give into anger. If I want to be more like Jesus each day, I need to make a conscious decision to do things that line up with His righteousness. If I give into the sin of anger I am in essence working directly against God, and I don't want this to be the case. While none of us are perfect, it is the everyday decisions that get us to a place of victory in Christ.

2. Proverbs 14:29, "He that is slow to wrath is of great understanding: but he that is hasty of spirit exalteth folly."

I don't know about you, but I don't want to be known for exalting foolishness. I would much rather display patience and great understanding in my marriage and to my children. This scripture always gets my perspective right and allows me to think before I do anything out of character.

3. Ephesians 4:26-27, "Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: Neither give place to the devil."

While I try my best to not fall asleep angry, sometimes it happens. And honestly, sometimes it is for the best as it gives me the ability to "sleep" on what I was so upset about gaining a fresh perspective in the morning. However, as a rule, I try to resolve anything I can that would help me not to fall asleep angry. But what really gets me is that I do not want to give the enemy any place in my life - so even if I am still "feeling" upset, I will always pray and forgive before I lay my head down. And this scripture helps me to do so.

4. Proverbs 15:1, "A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger."

One struggle I've faced as a mother is keeping my mouth in check. I've witnessed how my harsh words can make my children hurt and angry and do not like it one bit. I've also witnessed how when I give a soft, kind answer that I am able to allow my words to be a healing balm. I love meditating and praying this verse as it gives me a reminder to choose what I say wisely. 

5. Romans 12:21, "Fathers, do not exasperate your children, so that they will not lose heart."

It really helps me to keep my anger in check when I meditate on this scripture when it comes to dealing with our children. As with Proverbs 15:21, I've found this scripture to be very evident when I act out of anger towards my children. Thankfully God's Word gives me the conviction to see my sin for what it is and the power to stand strong against it.

I encourage you today, dear mom, if you struggle with anger to know that you are not alone. No matter how deep your anger runs, there is healing power in the name of Jesus. And I don't say this to sound like a "good Christian" I say this because I have experience it for myself. I know for sure if I can have victory over anger, then so can you. I am praying for you and love you, dear sister! Together, we can do this!

In His Great Service,

Carlie K.






Carlie Kercheval

Carlie Kercheval is a happily married work-at-home homeschooling mom of 3. Carlie is the founder of Today's Frugal Mom™ and Fulfilling Your Vows™. She is also the co-author of the best-selling Learning to Speak Life™ Family Bible Study Guide. When she is not busy enjoying her family and the great outdoors, you can typically find her cozied up somewhere under a blanket with a good book. You can connect with her on Instagram.

Dealing with Anger at God When You Believe He's Let You Down

Do you struggle with trusting God when your circumstances are difficult? Do you even harbor anger towards him? Here's how to change our perspective and see him (and ourselves) more clearly.

You're angry.

And you probably have good reason.

Telling you not to be angry is like telling a fire not to be hot.

The heat has a source, and if you're tired of burning, you're going to have to deal with the fire.

My fire burned while on the mission field of Haiti. I wrestled with God for an entire nine years over our children's impossible adoptions.

Of course I was angry... I needed help with my five kids. I longed for the freedom to bring our three Haitian kids to the U.S. for a break like everyone else. We were in constant danger. I was exhausted...

"It was summer now, which meant intensified heat, increased breakdowns of generators, inverters, and vehicles, and worst of all, it meant missionary friends on vacation. While Tom and Helen were gone, Jarod was placed in charge of the ministry. The increased responsibility did mean a little less help from him, but even worse was the knowledge that we were the only missionary couple that couldn’t pack our family’s bags and take a break. It was like attending summer school while all our classmates experienced the thrill of no homework, pool parties, and trips to Disney.

This was our fourth year in Haiti—a length of time in mission work typically marked by a yearlong furlough. I’d been through summers before; watched others fly off to the joys of family gatherings, air-conditioning, and ice cream. I thought I’d grown accustomed to it, but somehow this one was unbearable.

As the sun set behind the mountains each evening, my heart fluttered. What if tonight is the night thieves come back for revenge? Each time the dogs barked at a lizard or rat, I’d startle out of sleep with a pounding heart. When the sun rose and Brendan’s cries coerced me out of bed, I felt no joy or motivation to live. Knowing my friends were being refreshed while I slaved on embittered me. Every time the kids bickered, spilled, cried, and demanded, I felt a flame of white-hot anger kindle in my core. Though I would’ve laid down my life for my children, I could also begin to understand why mothers would do unthinkable things to those they loved most. My fury seethed right below the boiling point, and I felt myself losing the last threads of control with every wail, demand, and tantrum. Not only did I hate my lot in life, I hated myself."

(Excerpt from In a Sun-Scorched Land)

If you are wrestling with anger, wrestling with God, you understand completely. The hatred builds against God, everyone we love, and especially ourselves.

We face a bitterness, a fury like no other when we find ourselves believing God has let us down.

And I did.

But my anger, just like yours, is founded on the oldest lie our enemy ever posed... that God doesn't really want what's best for us.

Yet the truth has never changed: "As for God, his way is perfect..." Psalm 18:30

Perfect. That thought hurts sometimes. God's ways are so mysterious, so much higher than our ways, and you and I are just never going to understand his ways completely.

But He is love. He is faithful. He is in control.

And He asks us to surrender. To believe. To trust.

To quench our fire with truth.

Friend, I believe you have real reasons to be angry. Life is frustrating, and circumstances are painful.

But God has real reasons for everything in your life right now. He can redeem every single thing.

Will you allow Him to work? Will you seek His face? Trust His heart? Surrender?

I'd love to pray for you. Please leave a comment if you'd like prayer for help in this area.

And if you'd like to read more about the Lord's work in my life... how I found restoration, you can find more here and here.




Jennifer Ebenhack

Jennifer’s eight eventful years in Haiti produced a gift of brokenness through which she has discovered the depths of God’s healing grace. She passes that grace on to others through her blog, life coaching, and her ebook Take Courage: Choosing faith on my journey of fear. She is currently writing a memoir of her family’s nine-year adoption process and gripping experiences in Haiti.

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