One Word About Grouchiness

Once upon a time I had a vision of motherhood.

It involved hilltops and harmony, sort of like The Sound of Music.

There was daily structure and soft sacrifices, like Ma from the Little House books.

And for some reason, I envisioned lying on green grass, making cloud shapes with my little ones.
My ideals of motherhood did NOT involve grouchiness.  Caroline Ingalls was never grouchy, Julie Andrews was never grouchy, and I certainly would not be grouchy either!

One Word About Grouchiness: Surrender

When I envisioned myself as a mother, I never envisioned God as part of my plan.  I didn’t need God in my plan.  I was already put together!
Except I’m not.
I am grouchy.  More often than I want to be.

And all too often I decide I’m going to fix my grouchiness.  I’m going to pull myself together.  I’m going to give it one more try.

Except I can’t.

Motherhood has a way of bringing us to the feet of Jesus like nothing else.  Motherhood brings us to the end of ourselves and pushes us one….tiny….bit….further.

If we don’t learn to surrender to Jesus, if we don’t learn to stop trying and start resting, this motherhood business will chew us up and spit us out.

We need to bring God back into our mothering.  He needs to come before our homemaking binders and DIY improvement projects and fancy schedules.  These things will not help us with our failings.  We cannot do it on our own.

These words are on my heart like no other.  I have lived in the valley of trying.  I have prayed and sought God on the surface, but deep down relied on myself.  I know the futility of our attempts at control first-hand.

To begin to release our anger and grouchiness, we must release ourselves to God.

Surrender.  That’s my one word about grouchiness.

And the most beautiful thing is, that’s all God asks of us.  He is waiting.

Revelations 3:20Behold, I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears My voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and dine with him, and he with Me.  Revelations 3:20


Christy  One Fun Mom

This post is part of the month-long challenge From Grouchy…To Great.  Please check the series page for all of the posts! 

From Grouchy to Great

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  1. says

    Awesome! Great post! Over and over again God keeps bringing me back to that: surrender and rest. Isaiah 30:15 “In repentance and rest is your salvation, in quietness and trust is your strength.”

  2. Lindsey Whitney says

    Well put. I know last night I was headed up to bed at 11 and I kept thinking… don’t go to bed.. you should do more.. but I was so tired. I like this. Start resting! I do so much better when I’m well rested, yet I avoid it. So self-defeating. Thanks for the reminder!

  3. Jenna Hall says

    What a powerful and personal way for me to end reading this series. Thank you for sharing. Somehow the two posts you have in this series have come just when I needed them. Your first confirmed my need to get help and I have started going back to CR for my anger….just as you confessed to doing for yourself. And now with this post on surrender….God led me toward making a decision to be baptized this week at my church as a tangible way to commit myself and SURRENDER to Him in my anger. I am letting some huge walls be broken around me in doing this, and I cannot tell you how powerfully He has used your posts to confirm my place in this process.

    Thank you again! I would love to stay connected to your writing as I somehow feel our struggles may be from a similar place! :)


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