I’m Not Liking This! (Pressing on Through the Pain)

I knew there was trouble when I heard a loud crash and then howling coming from the living room. When I got there, I found Ian, our then two year old, lying on the floor with blood gushing from a gaping hole in his fat little cheek and a broken lamp laying beside him. The exuberance with which he had begun his lap around the house had ended tragically. After assessing the situation, my husband rushed Ian to the emergency room. Ian needed stitches and because he was so young, the nurses strapped his little body to a papoose board and covered all of his face except his mouth with a cloth so the doctor could stitch his cheek without his toddler intervention. As my husband stood next to him, Ian cried out, “I’m not liking this! Daddy, why are you letting them do this to me?” It was almost more than my husband could bear, but Ian had to endure the pain for the repair and, ultimately, the healing to take place.

I’ve often thought of Ian’s pitiful cry as life has also presented me with situations that have been painful. Often I have found myself crying out to my Heavenly Father, “I’m not liking this. Why are You letting this happen to me?” Maybe you’ve found yourself doing the same.

Life is routinely difficult and leaves us feeling overwhelmed. For some, it may be marital conflict; for others, a rebellious child, health issues, problems with in-laws, or any number of stressful situations. Like Ian, you may be feeling as though God is uninvolved. But He is keenly aware of the pain in our lives. Psalm 56:8 tells us He even keeps track of our tears. We are never out of His care. While He hates it when we are hurting, He knows that it is those very situations that lead us to complete and utter dependence upon Him.

The challenge for us is to live purposefully during these times and not allow suffering to paralyze us from living for Him. How do we do this? By preparing when things are good. By being in the Word, knowing God’s character and what the Bible tells us about suffering.

Jesus warned that in this life we will have trouble and suffering but He also gives us the encouragement that He has already overcome. Jesus says this in John 16:33, “I have told you these things so that in Me you may have peace. You will have suffering in this world. Be courageous! I have conquered the world.”  We are also reminded of this in James 1:2-4 where we read that trials produce spiritual maturity in our lives. They help make us more like Christ and that is our ultimate purpose.

Russian novelist, Alexander Solzhenitsyn, having spent 12 years in Russian gulag, later wrote these words: 

“Bless you prison, bless you for being in my life. For there, lying on the rotting prison floor I came to realize that the object of life is not prosperity as we have been told, but rather the maturing of the human soul.”

While we may never get to the point of liking suffering, we should remember that God uses our trials to mature us, if we will only let Him.

Blessings as you press on through the pain,


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  1. says

    Barb…as always…so appreciate your heart.
    I’m sharing on FB, but also with a special friend who emailed me this morning for prayer after a night of throw up, no sleep, drs. apts. ear infections etc.
    I know she will be encouraged….thank you.

  2. Deborah says

    Timely for me right now. On friday we found out via ultrasound that we won’t be welcoming our 4th child home in February as expected. As I wait to deliver what is left of the pregnancy, the pain is overwhelming and “I’m not liking this”!! I am holding on for dear life to the belief that God is a good God and has good plans for me and my family. Thank you for this post.

    • says

      Oh Deborah, my heart aches with you. It saddens me to know you are experiencing such pain and sorrow now. I will be praying that you find God’s comfort carry you through this unbearably difficult time. Love, Barb

      • says

        Also, Deborah, I encourage you to read an older Better Mom post, “The Baby I Never Knew”. It deals very poignantly and personally about a young mom’s experience miscarrying her first pregnancy. (She’s actually my daughter, but it’s still very touching and I think you might be able to relate to what she expresses.)

  3. Colleen says

    This is exactly what I needed to read today! Thank you. Our house has been turned upside down for a few reasons, and I’ve found myself tense, stressed, worried, fearful. Nothing life-threatening thankfully, but lots of chaos and worry. Reading this came at a perfect time – THANK YOU!

    • says

      I find this something I need to remember on a regular basis, too, Colleen! Life provides stresses for everyone even when it looks like everything is okay on the outside. I’m glad to help point you back to Jesus! :) Blessings, Barb

  4. Denise W. says

    Thank you for this post. Your timing is perfect. We found out this past Sunday that my 20 year old, unwed daughter will be delivering a baby in March. I am in mourning. Mourning for the daughter that I thought I had, mourning for a tremendous change in her education plans, mourning for the loss of her freedom. I am struggling to find the joy in this situation. The road ahead is dark. Thank you for reminding me that I won’t be walking it alone.

    • says

      Denise, I ache for you. I have three adult daughters and I know it’s true that parenting and sometimes heartache over decisions they make can be overwhelming. Remember, Denise, that God does see your tears, He knows how your heart is aching and He has not forgotten you. This is a challenging time for you–maybe you feel like you’d just like to run away–but God is there and you can completely lean into Him. God will carry you. He is sufficient. Hold on to Him. ~Love, Barb

      • Denise says

        Thank you Barb for taking time to respond. I am just at a loss…..a loss for words, a loss of logical thought. I truly don’t know up from down right now. I know He is there. it is I who has stepped away.

          • Denise says

            I tried to find you on Facebook but it pulls several Barb Spencers. Thanks for the offer. It is greatly appreciated. Still wrestling with emotion the likes of such I’m not sure I’ve ever experienced. I know God will make a way. He has countless times before. Trying to push through the pain and mold myself into the person He wants me to be.


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