Bless-ed Monotony

“You’re going to be bored.”

“You won’t know what to do with yourself.”

Those were the “encouraging” words a few of my co-workers had for me when I gave my notice to quit my banking career so I could stay home full time with our eight month old daughter twenty-three years ago.

The fact is that as a stay-at-home mom to five children I have seldom found myself bored. Depressed? Discouraged? On the brink of despair? Yes, on all three counts, and on more than one occasion – but never bored. In fact, it’s been quite the opposite. There has never been a shortage of tasks needing my attention: cooking, cleaning, laundry, wiping runny noses, changing diapers and the list goes on. But what was and remains a challenge is the monotony of everyday life that can drive us moms crazy, and even lead to disillusionment. Sometimes we just want to make our mark on the world; to do something—anything—important!

One of Satan’s greatest weapons is to make us feel discontent;  to make us long for something other–something more–to distract us from making the most of the time we have now. He whispers to us telling us we’re not making our mark on the world because we don’t have fame, we don’t have a fascinating career, we don’t have a bazillion facebook friends, or any number of lies he feeds our thoughts to make us feel insignificant. His goal is to get our minds off the world-changing calling God has given us to instead give our attention to feeding the desire to be “important” in the world’s eyes.

As moms, what we’re doing is important and of ultimate significance. We’re making a mark on eternity just by virtue of shaping these little (and not so little) ones into the next generation of firebrands for God’s Kingdom. It does get monotonous, but so does every job.

Faithfulness is what matters here.  It can be burdensome doing the same things day in and day out. But when we take on motherhood, we sign up for a lifetime of active duty in our children’s lives along with everything it entails. Our kids need us to be there. It’s irrelevant to them whether or not we feel important. Instead, they need us to be stable and dependable. They need us to care for their physical needs. They need us to encourage them. They need us to model for them what it means to be faithful.  What will make a lasting impression is not what we’ve achieved in our personal lives, but how faithful we’ve been in this most important job of motherhood God has called us to.

I read the following verses in Proverbs the other day and was reminded that our children become faithful followers of Jesus through a lifetime of watching us be faithful followers of Jesus.

“My son, keep your father’s command, and don’t reject your mother’s teaching. Always bind them to your heart; tie them around your neck. When you walk here and there, they will guide you; when you lie down, they will watch over you; when you wake up; they will talk to you. For a commandment is a lamp, teaching is a light, and corrective instructions are the way to life.”     ~Proverbs 6:20-23

So the next time you have one of those, “I WANT TO SCREAM THIS IS SO MONOTONOUS!” days, remember that God honors faithfulness in your life and that is what is truly important.

Blessings as you press on, Barb

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About Barb Spencer

Barb loves Christ and His Word deeply and is married to Michael, her best friend for over 28 years. A pastor’s daughter and a pastor’s wife, Barb is a mom to 5 children; Aubrie Drayer, Marisa, Summer, Ian and Katerine (who they adopted from Guatemala in 2008). She also loves her role as grandma. Barb’s highest calling is her family. She has no regrets about being a stay-at-home mom and has homeschooled their children from the beginning. Though Barb has encountered many challenges, including her husband’s stage 4 battle with cancer in 2001 and raising a daughter who has cerebral palsy and is mentally handicapped, she has repeatedly found God’s grace sufficient. Barb is passionate about being a wife and mother, and helping younger moms.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=725944546 Sarah Bailey

    I’ve been at home for 10+ years my oldest is 10 1/2 years old and I was home for a little before she was born. I recently took a job babysitting once a week but that has since fell through and I’m now applying at a local Christian book/coffee store but the only way I can do it is if they will work with my husband’s schedule which means I can only come in after 5pm. and I can’t work Tuesdays and Thursdays and will need an occasional Friday and Saturday off. I’m not doing this because I feel like things are monotonous or because “I need a break” but simply because we need some extra income and losing the babysitting money has well not been good. Will I still be a full time homemaker and homeschooler, yep my family comes first and if they don’t understand that they don’t need me working there.

    • http://www.facebook.com/barb.spencer.9 Barb Spencer

      Sarah, I’ve had times when I’ve needed to do some outside work, too, to help with the budget. God knows your heart and He honors faithfulness. Remember, you’re not alone. Blessings, friend. ~Barb

  • Linda@With A Blast

    Thank you.
    I needed this post.

    • http://www.facebook.com/barb.spencer.9 Barb Spencer

      You are so welcome, Linda! Blessings! Barb

  • Patty

    Wonderful post! Thanks for the encouraging words to remind me that what I’m doing is important, is God-honoring and is a critical contribution to God’s kingdom. I love being home but yes it can be monotonous. Your reminder that there is purpose in what I’m doing comes at a perfect time! Thank you!

    • http://www.facebook.com/barb.spencer.9 Barb Spencer

      We all need the reminder that being a stay-at-home mom isn’t glamourous, but it is so important! Keep hanging in there. You will be able to watch the fruits of your labor as you continue to be faithful. I’m glad you’re home! ~Barb

  • Jessie

    I really needed to hear this today. Last week I began my stay at home mom journey. I have a 14 month old son and am 11 weeks pregnant. Last week was so tough. So tough I started regretting my decision even though I knew deep down I was doing the right thing for my children. I have jot been looking forward to the start of the week tomorrow and this was exactly what I needed to hear to get me motivated to keepgoing and know I am doing the right thing. Thank you!

    • http://www.facebook.com/barb.spencer.9 Barb Spencer

      Hi Jessie! I’m glad you are staying at home with your little ones. It isn’t easy. We miss the adult interaction, but your precious little ones will remember when they grow up that you were there with them and though they don’t know the benefits now, they will grow up with the security that they might not otherwise know. You hang in there. There are lots of other moms just like you and, of course, God knows exactly what you need and will provide you that needed encouragement at just the right time. Love, Barb00

    • http://www.facebook.com/barb.spencer.9 Barb Spencer

      Hi Jessie! I’m glad you are staying at home with your little ones. It isn’t easy. We miss the adult interaction, but your precious little ones will remember when they grow up that you were there with them and though they don’t know the benefits now, they will grow up with the security that they might not otherwise know. You hang in there. There are lots of other moms just like you and, of course, God knows exactly what you need and will provide you that needed encouragement at just the right time. Love, Barb

  • Marissa

    Thank you for the great reminder. I too have 5 children ages 1, 2, 3, 5, 6 and due in
    with blessing #6 in 10 weeks. I neded to read this after a month of planning for our first homeschool year.

    Yes, it seems like your spinning our wheels everyday but me at home is best for our children. When I change the 5 messy diaper or wipe the 15th spilled cup for the day I try to remember that my children are seeing my attitude and do it with joy to bring glory unto the Lord.

    • http://www.facebook.com/barb.spencer.9 Barb Spencer

      You will never regret that you stayed home with your children, Marissa. Though you may feel like you can’t change another diaper or fold another load of laundry, etc., your children will remember that you stayed home with them. You sound like you have a godly perspective and that is such a good foundation for you and them. Blessings, Barb

  • Melody

    Thank you for writing this. My husband and I are trying for baby #2 with #1 being four and a half and about to begin Pre-School. I want to stay home, and have found a way to make it happen, but I’m still praying on it because I keep asking myself if it is what God wants or is it what I want. It’s such a struggle trying to hear what it is that He wants for us sometimes. I keep telling myself not to jump at this too soon because we aren’t pregnant yet, and I need to make sure it’s the right decision. But honestly, I want to do it so bad I can taste it. I agree that no matter what in life it is that you do, you will find monotony eventually. I too work in the banking industry, and after a while, everything from walking in the door in the morning to walking out it in the evenings, becomes monotonous. Thank you again, Barb. You literally spoke from my heart! God Bless.

    • http://www.facebook.com/barb.spencer.9 Barb Spencer

      Hi Melody! I think God has placed in our hearts as moms the desire to nurture and be with our children, so I think your desire to do that is God-given. I think if you are able to stay home financially, it is a great choice. There were a few times I went back to fill in at my old job and I can tell you I didn’t miss it at all…not when I knew I had my precious little ones at home. I pray you can stay home soon! :) Blessings as you parent your little one, Barb

  • Sharon

    It is so true that being a SAHM is never boring! Is it always fun? Nope! But, then again, what job in this world is always fun? When I became a SAHM, I took up couponing and have been hooked ever since. I enjoy making my husbands paycheck stretch and I love the challenge of doing my best to get the best deal on whatever we need. And I can’t wait until my daughter is a little bit older, so I can teach her the ins and outs of couponing.

    • http://www.facebook.com/barb.spencer.9 Barb Spencer

      Sharon, it’s so great you have chosen to find joy being a stay at home mom. I remember doing the couponing with my girls, too! So fun and we can find joy wherever God places us if we choose to lean into His plans for us! Blessings, Barb

  • http://www.joleneengle.org/ Jolene @ The Alabaster Jar

    I used to be a feminist caught up in the role of a career woman until God got a hold of my heart. Motherhood, by far, is the hardest job I’ve ever had but my heart is for my children to rise up and call me blessed.

    • http://www.facebook.com/barb.spencer.9 Barb Spencer

      Jolene! What an awesome and godly desire you have! There is no job that holds a candle to mothering and your children will agree! Keep on! Love, Barb

  • http://thechuppies.com/ Kara @ The Chuppies

    This post was such an encouragement to me Barb…thank you.
    I read it in email and knew right away it was from you :)
    Love,
    K

    • http://www.facebook.com/barb.spencer.9 Barb Spencer

      Thanks, Kara. Your words are always sweet and encouraging. Love, Barb

  • Rachel @myheartsmission

    So glad I read this post today. I needed it! God bless you. :)

    • http://www.facebook.com/barb.spencer.9 Barb Spencer

      Thanks, Rachel. Blessings to you today, Barb