Live Intentionally, Love Generously, Laugh Frequently

There are no promises from God that if we are good parents our children will turn out to be Godly.

How many of us live in the constant balancing act of desperately trying to be the perfect parent so that our kids will be the perfect children and then turn out to be the perfect adults?  {*raising hand*} Yes I get caught in that trap too!  I think most of us probably need to take a step back, a deep breath, and rest in the promise that God. Is. In. Control.  I (the mom) am not.  Oh how I deeply wish I could orchestrate every move so that my child would love God with a fire and a passion, serving Him with his/her whole life, but I can’t.

Now this doesn’t mean that we aren’t called to intentionally parent our children in the very best way that we can, with the Lord’s strength.  As my sweet friend Joy Forney says, “I will pour myself into this task of discipling and shepherding my children. I will not waste this precious time that has been given to me. I will forsake the “good” to have time for the BEST and not worry what others may think.” I also love how Sally Clarkson simply states our calling.  She says, “God has granted me a portion to be a good steward over”.

There are three simple words that I have seen time and time again on signs, cards, and screens (and you probably have too ;) ). Live, Laugh, Love.  I think those words can be a great reminder for us as moms as we raise our children.

Moms will you commit with me today to:

Live Intentionally – The moments pass by at an alarming rate and before we know it our children are adults.  Don’t miss this precious time you have to pour your heart out raising your children.  Spend time with them. Talk to them. Teach them. They are your disciples.

Love Generously – Don’t hold back. Hug them and use your words to encourage and edify them. The love you lavish on your children will be remembered and lived out for a lifetime.

Laugh Frequently – Life as a mom is overwhelming many times, but truth be told most of us need to lighten up and loosen up.  Don’t forget to laugh and have fun with your children.  As our family rules poster says, “Have fun. Sing silly. Dance crazy.”

Each day we make deposits into the memory banks of our children. –Chuck Swindoll

What will your children remember and who will they be?  Ultimately it is out of your hands so you must rest in that grace.  But for now be intentional. Stop worrying about what will become and just be.  Will you join me and commit to Live Intentionally, Love Generously, and Laugh Frequently?

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About Ruth Schwenk

Ruth is the wife of a pastor, who is her best friend and the love of her life. She is a blessed homeschooling mother to her four beautiful children, and she eagerly awaits meeting her five others in heaven. She has a passion for following God, leading worship, rescuing orphans, and inspiring others to create a God honoring family.

She thoroughly enjoys warm spring breezes, blooming lilacs, tall skim mochas with whipped cream, root-lifter, eye cream, gel polish, laughing (lots of it), venti iced teas, exclamation points!!, family worship time, and snuggling up to read a good book with her family.

She is the creator of The Better Mom and she tweets at thebettermom.

  • http://www.guidingthehouse.com/ Trina

    What a wonderful reminder! I feel like I have been running a mile a minute lately, but you are right. I need to stop, and spend more quality time with my little ones. They already are growing too fast!!

    • thebettermom

      Trina you are so welcome! It is something I have to remind myself of often. Blessings to you.

  • Home Cooked Healthy

    Thanks for the reminder Ruth. I have this posted in my kitchen. It helps to remember how to focus and enjoy each day that the Lord has given us. We have so many blessings if we just take the time to see them.

    • thebettermom

      Yes thank you for the reminder that “we have so many blessings if we just take the time to see them”. Blessings to you!

  • http://psalm23five.blogspot.com/ Nicole Anderson

    I love it! These sound like words that come out of my mouth! I always say that we must live intentionally! I am also constantly reminding my husband that we have right now. Later, the kids will be grown and whatever we have done will be done and we will be left with our memories. All we really have is now. I will definitely join you in this commitment! Everything else aside. The good in exchange for the best. Thank you!

    • thebettermom

      Yay Nicole!! So glad you are joining me. You are so right that “all we really have is now”. Life can change in an instant. Blessings to you friend.

  • Xochitl

    Ruth, thank you. I need to be reminded of what a wonderful gift I have of being a Mom to my children. I get so caught up in the rut of everyday life that I do forget to Live, Laugh and Love. I am up for this challenge.
    Blessings,
    Xochitl

    • thebettermom

      Thanks for joining me Xochitl! I think it is something we all struggle with to different degrees. It is definitely a gift and a blessing to be a mom to our children. I pray God would remind us of this often!

  • http://www.toodarnhappy.com/ Kim Hall

    Simple and wonderful advice, Ruth.

    We laughed so much when our girls were little. We are so blessed that they have developed their own unique senses of humor. This ability to laugh at events and ourselves has seen us through much difficulty.

  • http://twitter.com/RachelWojo Rachel Wojnarowski

    well said. Thanks for this reminder!!

  • Christine

    So Awesome! I need to loosen up… my first three (20,18, &16) are all starting to spread their wings. I am so proud of them and yet I worry about their future. I needed to be reminded again that God is in control, not me. Thanks for the encouragement to lighten up and have fun with them while they are still here.

    • thebettermom

      You are welcome Christine! It IS easy to get caught up in the day to day and forget to loosen up…I am going to pray for you right now that God would remind you of this often. Blessings to you!

  • http://www.theworkinghousewife.com/ The Working Housewife

    Such an awesome post! Especially as right now I know someone who felt they parented their child the best they knew how and the child didn’t turn out the way their “perfect parenting” (for lack of better words) should have allowed.

    Regardless of what we do as parents our children will go through different things in their life that will allow their bond with God to be stronger.

    Anyway I really enjoyed this post.

    • thebettermom

      Ah yes the things we all go through in our life to bring us closer to God… Thank you for your encouraging words!

  • Jennifer

    This is right along what God has been laying on my heart lately. Thank you!

  • Lindsey M Bell

    Love this! Thanks for sharing:)

  • http://thechuppies.blogspot.com/ Kara @ The Chuppies

    Love love LOVE this one Ruth!
    (and Joy’s quote is just. so. good.)
    What will they remember?
    Stops me in my tracks all the time.

    • thebettermom

      Thank you Kara! Yes Joy’s quote is one I come back to often..it IS so good!

  • http://themarriagechecklist.com/ Dr. Ann

    Simple, powerful truths! Thanks for this reminder today to treasure my time with my beloveds.

  • Kathy Sykes

    Love, Love, Love this post! One of the best that I have read in a long time on any blog! I love the title and have decided to make it my theme for the rest of the year and possibly the rest of my life. It seems simple really but it is not. It takes a mind change and that is what I am in need of. I also fell in love with the quote about “we make daily deposits into our child’s life”. Yes we do. That is why we must be intentional in EVERYTHING that we do and say. This grabbed my heart and made me sit up and take notice of my everyday life and THIS is how I want to live!!!

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  • Laura

    blessed by this today! thank you!

  • Mackenzie

    Beautiful and such an important reminder! Thanks for sharing! :)

  • http://www.toodarnhappy.com/ Kim Hall

    It can be so hard to remember that being a better mom is not about becoming a perfect mom. Whether we want to or not, we often compare ourselves to other parents who we view as cooler, more fun, or having more resources. The three tips you offer go a long way towards taking our attention off other moms and families and help us put the focus back on what we can do where we are.

  • Denise Oldham

    I like this.

  • Deanna

    Great reminders! I love how you wrapped it all up – Live Intentionally because our time is precious and fleeting; Love Generously because without love we are bankrupt; Laugh Frequently because there is truly only one thing that really matters.