Weary Mama

December 6, 2011 By

Has it been a rough day? Are you worn out? Do you feel as though you have failed in your mothering once again? 

“Do you feel the need for more grace to love your children and see the gospel in your daily life with them? Then rest in His arms and admit your brokenness.” -Elyse Fitzpatrick, Give Them Grace

I am there with you, sister.  There are days I feel like I have messed up so miserably as a mama, and I feel too weary even to begin again.

“But we have this treasure in jars of clay, to show that the surpassing power belongs to God and not to us.” 2 Corinthians 4:7

The biggest danger in times like these is that we think we are all alone.  But, there is good news.  There is hope.  There is healing.  There is grace.  There is love.  And there is community.  Jesus is waiting there for you, even now, waiting for you to pour out your weary heart to Him, to carry the broken pieces of your day to Him and allow you to watch as He makes all things new.

“We need days of failure because they help humble us and through them we can see how God’s grace is poured out on the humble.  It is on days like this that the words, ‘The God of all grace, who has called you to his eternal glory in Christ.’(1Peter 5:10) will bring deep comfort and great joy to your soul.” -Elyse Fitzpatrick, Give Them Grace

He invites you to rest in Him, and allow Him to comfort you and speak life and peace into your weary soul.

“Let us approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.” Hebrews 4:14-16

And, He has given us each other.  We are not alone here on earth.  He has given us this community of women here at The Better Mom. This is a place we can encourage one another, build each other up, and pray for one another.

So, let’s do that. If you are a weary mama today, I invite you to leave a comment.  It doesn’t have to be much, even just your name, or your initials if you are too timid to let us know who you are.

But let’s make this a community thing: If you leave a comment, will you please pray for the sister who commented right before you?

Let’s begin a revolution of sister-moms holding one another up to Jesus.  Together let’s admit our brokenness. Together let’s admit our need for Him to touch our hearts, lives, and souls today.

Let’s reach out for that grace that He so freely gives….together.  I’ll leave the first comment.

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About Joy

Joy is the wife to a missionary pilot and they, along with their five kids, live in Indonesia.  Joy is a proud wife, blessed mommy, Diet Coke fanatic, runner, homeschooler, reader, thinker, home-maker, lover of nature, and most of all, an undeserving recipient of amazing grace, and grateful daughter of God.  Joy's heart is to encourage women to revel in their job as mommy and wife, and to see it as good and needed work.  She shares her heart and life of being a mom with readers at her site, Grace Full Mama.

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  • Anonymous

    Wow – I wish I would have read this yesterday. It was so me. and likely will be today as well – with a 22 month old and an almost 2 month old….my days are pretty nutty….and some days I just feel like I fail with my 22 month old. I feel like I don’t give him enough of my time. I just keep trying harder – and I love how you said that it just reminds us all the more to tap into God’s grace! Thank you – I will totally remember this today. Rely on God’s grace.

    • Joy

      Lord Jesus, I pray for this dear sister. I pray that you would encourage her heart and her spirit as she serves You with very full hands right now. Allow her sweet moments with You and with her children during this crazy stage of life. Give her heart peace as she relies on You for her flow of love to her sweet children. May she praise Your name as she goes about her day. Thank you Lord…

      • Grubbsk71

        i am not sure if I am commenting in the right place, but here goes… I definately feel like a failure 99% of the time; as a wife and especially as a mom. I have undergone nothing but heartache and sickness for 15 years and I feel it consumes me. My health does not allow me to do alot of things therefore I feel left out as I watch my son and husband bond and their relationship strengthen, but I feel my son and I just are not close anymore, like my health has not only let me down, but him also. Please pray for me.

  • Ulrika

    I had a bad day yesterday. Felt like a bad mom all day and pretty bad in general. I get overwhelmed sometimes because of the problems I live with daily with my body. (I have nerve and muscle damage, nerve pain and need to empty my bladder using a catheter + also have a colostomy and my disconnected bowel acts up sometimes.) I feel like it takes so much of my time and energy and keeps me from being as active with my son as I would like. Noah is 18 months and we’re expecting our second child (also a boy) in April. :) An active 18-monthold is a challenge to anyone I’m sure but my bathroom routine makes it quite tricky. With the hygiene required for catheterisation you can’t have a toddler running around with his sticky fingers all over so it’s a constant battle to find creative ways to keep him safe and happy while mom is in the bathroom…

    • Joy

      Lord Jesus, Almighty Healer, I pray for Ulrika right now. I pray that you would heal her precious body and allow her some relief from the constant struggle that she deals with day to day. Lord Jesus, I also ask that you would touch her spirit in a special way with Your peace today. Speak words of love into her ear, and let her know that she is Your dear daughter and the one you chose to raise this sweet 18-monther. Help her to figure out ways to engage her sweet child, Noah, as she has to deal with these things. I also pray for the dear little one that is in her tummy now. Lord, grow that little boy healthy and strong in mind and body. Thank you Lord. We love You.

      • Ulrika

        Thank you for praying for me. :) Had a better day yesterday. Physical issues but felt a lot “lighter” on the inside. :)

  • Joy

    I am Joy and I am a weary mama. I fail every day and I want to do better. I am thankful for grace, but sometimes it is hard to reach out for it in the moment.

    • Jennifer

      Oh, Father, I pray for Joy today. I know from experience how trying and challenging it can be living in a new cou try, new culture, new languages far away from the support of family. I pray that you keep her encouraged as she raises her kiddos to know and love you. Give her strength when she’s tired because you have to put more thought into doing the simplest of tasks when out of your “home” culture. Protect her from discouragement, despair, and the temptation to compare hers to a typical American lifestyle. Thank You for how You are using her to touch so many lives.

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=38309125 Aislynn Holt

      Lord God, blanket Joy with your infinite grace and love. May everyday she wake up with a renewing of spirit and joy for you, that she give you thanksgivings for all the trials and triumphs, and that she be reminded that each thing is building up a woman for You! Grant her the words to say to bless others, sustain her in being a wife in ministry, and give her peace that her parenting glorifies you. I pray that you continue to reveal your will for her and her family, and that the line of communication with you and her stay strong. Remind her of Your love for her and how precious she is to the body of Christ! In Christ name, Amen.

      Joy, thank you for your encouragement of sisterhood. Having a husband in ministry has proven to be an interesting “obstacle” in my life, but I am so happy to be able to share it with women of Christ like you.

      Love in Christ, Sister!
      Aislynn Holt

  • http://www.larawilliams.org Lara Gibson Williams

    Mommyhood is one thing that truly stretches me beyond my own human strength. Through it He transforms me and sheds me of…me. I fail every day but He continues to prove that His grace is sufficient. So thankful! (Praying for you today, Joy)

    • Joy

      Dear Jesus, I thank you for your dear child Lara and how she shines so brightly for You. I pray that you would continue to transform her and mold her as she serves You through her life and her mothering. Pour out your love on her today, dear Lord. Amen.

    • http://www.godsgracefulness.com Godsgracefulness.com

      Beautifully said! :) I feel like this too. Out of all things in life, motherhood is my biggest challenge. Daily.

  • http://www.ordinaryinspirations.blogspot.com Traci

    Yes two hands raised. Thanks for creating this group where we can lift one another up in prayer. IT IS good to know that there is not one perfect Mommy out there. Lord Jesus, make me more like you as I parent these little blessings. Traci @ Ordinary Inspirations

    • Joy

      Sweet Jesus, Thank you for dear Traci and her heart to serve You in her life and her parenting. Use this season in her life to bring her to her knees in prayer and worship of You. I thank you that you have given her precious blessings to care for. Give her an extra measure of Your love and grace today.

  • Ann

    I feel like such a weary mamma! I am a foster about to adopt in a few weeks 2 beautiful baby sisters. I am a tired ( & it’s only just beginning) single mom. Work has been exhausting and I feel like I don’t give the girls my 100% or am patient enough with them. Lord, I need your grace and mercy to flow through me. I want my girls to see you in my life. Help me to remember that I cannot do this journey without you!

    • Joy

      Thank you Jesus, for Ann’s sweet heart and love for You and children. I pray that you would calm her, build her up, rejuvenate her, and strengthen her as she prepares for this new task that you have set before her. Yes, Lord, let Your grace and mercy flow through her onto her girls. Let it spill over and help dear Ann to rely on You for every step in this journey. Thank You, Lord.

  • http://thepoorganiclife.com Katrina Ryder

    Sunday, as usual, was a massive mommy-failure. Somehow that day always gets to be a day of rest for everyone else and a massive anxiety attack for me. What gives!?!?! Yesterday the Lord reminded me to laugh at my foibles and failings and frustrations. He KNOWS I am dust. Today I posted an epic mommy-fail story, and somehow airing my “humanness” for all to see helps me to realize that I’m not alone and there is grace, Magic Eraser, and butter to help me through the hard times. :) Check out “Horror Story” at The Poorganic Life dot com if you need a laugh to break up your weariness.

    • http://www.facebook.com/people/Angela-Richter/1632533801 Angela Richter

      Lord we lift Katrina up to you in prayer, Thank you for HER< thank you that she was chosen by you to be the mother of her children, my prayer for her is that YOU will give her strength that she needs to carry out her task as mom. You know she is only flesh, so we pray that you carry her burdens and remind her she is no failure in your eyes. Thank you that you are allowing laughter, a great medicine YOU have blessed us with. Lord, allow her to feel your presence in the day to day.

  • Sheri

    This describes my day yesterday. My husband asked me what was wrong. I’m tired and weary was all I could reply. The journey in my life is being a wife, mom to 3 and homeschooling. So many times we (or at least I ) forget we really are not alone.

    • http://www.facebook.com/people/Angela-Richter/1632533801 Angela Richter

      Praying for Sheri Lord. Homeschooling is a major role that you have asked of many of us moms. Give Sheri the strength and wisdom in that area Lord, give her a renewed strength to get through her days with joy. Help her sleep when she should and help her to feel rested. Show her what is important and what is not and be with her day! Thank you Lord.

    • Ann

      Lord, I pray for Sheri…I lift her up to you! Thank you for the reminder that we are not alone on this journey. Not only do we have other moms that understand, but more importantly, we have you! You will never leave us or forsake us! I pray for strength and rest for Sheri. Refresh her weary body. Help her to rest spiritually and physically in you!

    • http://joyfulmothering.net Christin

      Father God, Please refresh Sheri with your presence and strength today. Help her to be in the moments of her day and seek you in each one. To draw from you in each one. Thank you for your renewal of grace and mercy, Father. In Jesus’ name…

  • Rebecca

    Raising my hand…yesterday…was one of those days. Not the whole day…just the afternoon….it just went south…..Need prayers before the pitter patter this morning…..to keep my heart full of joy…to smile and hug when they run into my arms….

    • http://www.facebook.com/people/Angela-Richter/1632533801 Angela Richter

      Lord thank you for Rebecca and for her children. Thank you for her desire to have joy! I pray that she will be able to have it today and all days and that YOU will fill her when she is running on empty. Allow her to fill your presence in her day to day!

  • http://www.laytonfamilyjoy.blogspot.com/ steflayton

    small voice here … overwhelmed. tired. wondering why I can’t just love my children for them and not their performance. lonely. house needing repairs with a traveling husband … and finding out there are rats in our attic — rather than running “to” Jesus I feel like I just don’t have the words anymore. Bible studies completed, weekly serving, hands raised in worship love God … and yet I feel … dry & withered this morning writing this because I feel like its another day of the same. weary.

    • http://joyfulmothering.net Christin

      Holy Father, I pray for a refreshed and renewed spirit for sweet Stef. She is an encourager and is in need of encouragement. I pray for soul rest and peace throughout. Give her a fresh sense of vision and renewal as she steps into her day today. Give her a word, today, Lord specifically for her that will help her cling to you–even in the desert. Help her to simply put one foot in front of the other, and slow down the days duties. Wash her in grace this morning and may she be reminded it is a new day–a new beginning with new mercies. Yesterday no longer matters.

      Pour that Living Water into her to bring dry soul to life after being drained. You know, Lord. You know exactly what she needs. Meet her here today, Father. In Jesus’ precious name…

    • Jennifer

      Oh, Lord, how I relate to this sweet sister of mine’s request!! I pray you give her a supernatural strength and energy. And inexplicable joy. Even now, Father, give her some tangible sign of Your blessing on her life. Something that would speak so clearly to her that it’s You. Help her not to grow weary in well doing. Help her know when to say no or step back from activities, and when to say Yes. Let her heart overflow with Your love today, and may she feel so tenderly yet firmly Your loving arms around her, holding her, carrying her though this day.

  • Hope

    How I needed this today! I feel so defeated lately – I only have one child – an almost 2 year old and lately I just havent been able to come up with ideas to keep him busy – so I’ve turned on the tv multiple times a day for him. Ugh. I feel like a failure not being able to keep him occupied and content…thankful today for grace and other moms who might understand

    • http://www.justfordaisy.blogspot.com Bek @ Just For Daisy

      Totally understand. Praying for you to have renewed energy. There are some fabulous blogs on ideas for play around. Check some of those out for great new ideas to entertain your son. Praying for you today.

  • Janelle

    Lord, I pray for Hope- please give her strength today and let her know in a special way that you love her . Please guide her in your ways and comfort her. Thank you for the blessing of a healthy little toddler in her life. Amen.

    I am a weary Mama too :) I am having a hard time getting laundry put away these days …as soon as I start working on it, my 3 year old dumps shampoo into the sink..lol. I need prayer for time management and positive thinking. Bless you! Janelle

  • http://www.facebook.com/lara.molettiere Lara Stoots Molettiere

    I am tired. Physically and emotionally. I want to be a godly wife and mom, and just cannot seem to catch up. I want to be a light, but feel like my tank is out of oil. I keep praying to be able to let go of all of me and let God fill me up as His vessel, but I think I’m still struggling too hard instead of falling and letting Him pick me back up. I’m praying for the grace to crumble so my Father can put me back together in His way and I’m praying for all my friends who are here with me.

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1367062260 Jennifer Ross

      So many times I have felt that very same way Lara. I want so badly to be that Proverbs 31 woman, that quintessential biblical wife, that I feel as if hitting rock bottom and leaning fully on the Lord would be a hinderance. I am praying for you Lara

      • http://www.godsgracefulness.com Godsgracefulness.com

        Jennifer, proverbs 31 woman did everything at all difference seasons in life. We can’t do it all, impossible, but we can do little at a time in order to get there. xoxo

    • Joy

      Lord, I pray for Lara. Please touch her physically and emotionally today. Build her up, strengthen her, touch her heart in a special way today. I pray that you would encourage her right now, and fill her tank to overflowing. In Your Holy Name Jesus.

  • Sally Clarkson

    I have always said that a woman alone in her own home with her own limited self, sinful children and a house that is subject to falling apart, is a target for Satan. Joining hands with other women, having a prayer partner, starting a small group, is a defense against vulnerability. Great article, Joy.

    • http://joyfulmothering.net Christin

      What a perspective, Sally. I can totally see how that can be. Satan will kick us while we’re down! Oh yes, we need to draw for His strength everyday..not rely on our own, meager, limiting strength.

    • Anonymous

      That is so true. We need to be aware of this as moms, and fight our hardest with lots of prayer! Thank you!

    • NE

      This is so me right now :( In the last 15 months we’ve dealt with unemployment, a new baby, a new job that required us to move even further from family and away from our friends. I’m struggling with a 3.5 yo who is exhibiting many challenging behaviors. This is negatively impacting my marriage and I still have a 1yo to take care of and a household as well.

      • Jennifer

        Lord God, wrap your living arms around NE right now. I know the pain of doing this away from family, add in stress from money and marriage, it’s a lonely road. Touch her heart, now God, and whisper deep in her soul that You will never leave or forsake her. Breathe fresh life, live and trust into their marriage. Speak peace. Into the heart of the children. May Refreshment reign in their household today, God.

        • NE

          Thank you for your prayers and letting me know I’m not alone. It means a lot to me. God bless you.

      • Amy

        Dear NE,

        A prayer for you…Dear Lord, I come to you knowing that it is only by the blood of Christ that I am able to do so. I approach your thrown boldly b/c I am told to to do so cofindently. You are all knowing, all seeing, all feeling. You know what we go through before we even go through it. Give us your power to handle those things which feel so out of control. Give us joy in place of tears. Give us wisdom in place of fear. Forgive us for the pride of not believing your promises to care for us far more than the birds. Lord, I know what this mom is going through. I’ve cried in her tear tracks myself. We ask for joy to be restored. We ask for friends when there seems to be no one around for us to be with and talk to. We ask for your arms to wrap us tightly with you. Lord, I specifically ask for NE’s marriage to be impacted by your love, your peace and your strength. Give NE the strength to hold on to you and find her satisfaction in you and only you. I pray for peace for a 3 1/2 year old who is challanging and demanding of her strength and emotions. Hide NE in the shadow of your wings to take refuge and rest there with you. In all we ask for your will first and foremost. Strengthen us in our trials to become better mothers, wives adn friends and most importantly your child wo can shine your glory despite all knowing you are the anchor of our souls who steers us through the choppy waters of life. – Amen and Amen.

        • NE

          Thank you. Your prayers and kind words have touched me deeply. May God be with you as well.

      • CB

        praying for you right now. I am going through some similar things. I was laid off from my job 2 years ago in September I was able to get unemployment which helped out and got pregnant 7 months after being laid off I still haven’t found a job and even if I do the cost of child care is so astronomical it’s not even worth going back to work. We are struggling to even make our bills on time right now with only 1 income since I am no longer eligible for any financial assistance, which is taking a huge toll on my marriage and we are constantly fighting over the finances especially with the holidays coming up because we don’t want our children to go without. We have a 5 yr old boy who constantly throws tantrums and believes he knows everything better than we do and our daughter is almost 1 I get stressed and overwhelmed with the kids and home-school and keeping up the house because it feels like once I’ve cleaned something the kids destroyed it and my husband gets grumpy coming home to a messy house after a long stressful day at work. THE BIGGEST THING I need prayer for at this time though is mine and my husband’s spiritual walks. My husband has always called himself a ‘Christian’ but he’s never really given himself to the LORD and me I’m just so overwhelmed with the rest of my life right now that I haven’t been able to REALLY dig deep into the word for weeks now, and we aren’t tithing b/c of finances (I know that’s NO EXCUSE because it is God’s money but my husband would be extremely upset with me if I did because he’s the one who brings in the money.) Thank you ladies for your prayers and this page!! I’m looking forward to reading it often I definitely needed this and it was great to discover this site!!!

    • Lizzylovescharlie

      This is so true! My children are older now (5, 7, 9 and 10), but boy oh boy – I was really down trodden when they were younger – I could have used a place like this! I was part of a mom’s group and that did help, because we were all in similar places with kiddos close together in age, but the day to day stuff was hard sometimes! I, of course, still need to pray over my children and talk to others when I am weary, but it is less often now.

    • Marybeth Thielke

      So, so true…I feel so isolated! Great idea…

    • http://www.godsgracefulness.com Godsgracefulness.com

      Proverbs 18:1 Whoever isolates himself seeks his own desire; he breaks out against all sound judgment.
      We need to be around Christian women, I totally agree. I attend about 2-3 bible studies a week to get fed and prayers, and fellowship. Then other 4 days I am able to have strength, courage, love (because it’s been poured into me by other women and God.) to give out.

      You cannot impart what you don’t possess.

    • Anon.

      Sally, that’s ecactly where I am right now. Four children aged 6-15, I’m also pregnant. My husband is at work mon-fri 8.00-5.30, I have no car and literally do not see a soul during the week. We’ve always homeschooled, so I’m very accustomed to being isolated – it has always been me, the children and the four walls – always. I’m so used to it now – and yet you hit the nail on the head there – I’m stuck with my own limited self, a bunch of children, an overcrowded house – no wonder it all gets me down. I’m typing here whilst everyone is getting dressed – wondering where the energy (physically and mentally) is going to come from when they come down – I’m ready to give in before the day has started.

      • Jenn

        Im praying for you right now

  • Pbresolin

    Weary isn’t even the word. Three children, one away at college whom I miss terribly, two little ones at home, one with autism. Defeated. I feel I fail them every day. I am a sinner and I pray for forgiveness. Lord give me the strength to carry on. Thanks for this post!. ~Trish

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1367062260 Jennifer Ross

      I am praying for you Trish! I feel the same at times, all the “what ifs” haunt me and I’m overwhelmed. Walking in His spirit, abiding in Him, just sitting at His feet in the spare seconds of the day renew my mind. Sisters in Christ who will just put an arm around my shoulder (whether a real hug or a virtual (((hugs)) ) help more than I know sometimes. (((((Trish)))))

      • Pbresolin

        Thank you Jennifer! My arms are around you, virtually!! (((hugs)))!

  • http://www.MomKaboodle.com Stephanie (MomKaboodle)

    I can’t tell you how much I needed to read this – RIGHT. NOW. I was actually just looking for a place to post a prayer request – a general one, but since I’m among sisters I’ll be a little more specific. ;)
    My 6-yr-old and I are fighting A LOT. I find myself shutting down. I just don’t want to deal with it anymore. The big yellow school bus looks so enticing just so he can go drive somebody else crazy for 8 hours. I’m struggling with some health stuff (minor, but it’s sucking all my energy) and I am exhausted.
    Lord, please hug these beautiful gals and pour your love down on all of them. We know you love us, Father. We know that You have a plan for us. But sometimes it’s hard for us to keep our eyes on you, Father, amidst the crying and the bickering, and the “MOMMY, MOMMY, MOMMY!”. Help us to keep our eyes on your precious face.
    I’m adding prayers here for the gals that posted where it doesn’t look like they’ve had prayers yet. For Sheri – when there just aren’t any words. Give her peace, Lord, and strength.
    For Rebecca – help her to feel the joy in her heart amidst the pitter-patter. I pray for peace and strength for her as well – to keep on keeping on.
    For Janelle – (I feel you, Janelle!) – could you send her a helping hand? Someone to hug and play with her 3-year-old so she can get her laundry put away and put her feet up for a little while? Please help her to keep her thoughts on you Lord, and to enjoy the little moments.
    For Lara – she knows she is being stretched by you, Lord. Please give her peace in these moments of stretching. Give her rest for her soul and for her body so that she can be the light that you want her to be.
    I pray these things in Jesus’ name, Amen.

    • Anonymous

      Oh Lord I pray for Stephanie right now. I know it can be so hard, and I pray Lord that you would give her rest in You, and in You alone. God I pray that she would find her strength, joy, and peace as a mom through You, and not herself. Please give her patience as she is going through the day to day, and help her to enjoy the moments that will be gone too soon. I pray God that you would bless her days ahead with joy, and give her the extra strength and energy that she needs.

      • http://www.MomKaboodle.com Stephanie (MomKaboodle)

        Thank you so much for this prayer – it made me want to cry! I appreciate you! =)

      • Joy

        Lord I join with Ruth in praying for Stephanie today. Thank you so much for bringing her here and I pray that you would touch her relationship with her 6 year old in a special way today.

    • Lena

      I really needed what you wrote. I have a 4y/o daughter and I love her beyond but she and I are constantly fighting and I feel like she is a teenager in a preschooler’s body, she’s got attitude for days. Getting her dressed most days is a battle and im drained before the day has even started. Im so glad I stumbled upon this website, im a single mom and it is a blessing to see other moms in similiar situations and coming together.

  • Gabrielle

    Thank you for this. I am struggling with never feeling good enough as a mom. Spending some times praying over these sweet moms has lifted my spirits this morning. Ready to start the day reaching out for grace.

    • Anonymous

      Lord I pray for Gabrielle right now. I pray that you would cover her in Your strength and peace right now. I pray that she would find her worth in You and not in what this world expects us to be. Lord I pray that you would give her a sense of joy and peace as she raises her children. Thank you Jesus for the perspective of an imperfect mom and a perfect God working together.

  • Runyan5236

    Thank you Joy for writing this. I totally lose perpective and joy sometimes being home all day with two of the most precious people in my life. I am in my first year of homeschooling and I lose sight of the One who is really in control. I feel like such a weak vessel and it is so overwhelming and frightening some days. I so needed this today after a short night’s sleep full of worry. Thank you for your encouragement and reminding me of the hope and grace that I have in my Savior. Still a little weary, but so encouraged and thankful :) Thank you for shining His light. Blessings.
    Becky

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1367062260 Jennifer Ross

      Dear Lord, I pray for Becky, that you give her abounding joy! Give her vision in her calling as a wife and mother. Give her peace and contentment. I just pray Lord, that You will comfort her and carry her. I thank you Lord for your constant care and love for us. Blessed be the Name of the Lord.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1367062260 Jennifer Ross

    The Lord uses you mightily Joy. We do need each other, He made us that way. Great great post!

  • Tracyke1978

    I cannt go into details, but weary may not even begin to describe it…

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=38309125 Aislynn Holt

      Prayers to you, Tracy! Everyday focus on His will, and that whatever trials come your way know that He is building up a great woman for HIM! All’s grace!
      Love in Christ,
      Aislynn

  • Heather Overby

    Praying for all of you with understanding.
    I am a weary Mama of two children 3 1/2 and 1 1/2 and I am so drained. Desire to get up in the morning? What’s that? Joy? Patience? I pray a lot and then I snap again right after I pray. Why is it so hard to let His grace flow through me? I ask him to. I have his word hidden in my heart, and I have a personal relationship with Jesus and yet I fail constantly. It is a hard season. But I want to thrive not just survive! We moved to the other side of the world just 4 months ago, husband works 12 hours a day five days a week, and I don’t sleep enough. (Who does?)
    I desire, I plan, I pray. And I still fail. Why can’t I be who God created me to be?

    • JenniferY

      Heather, I am praying for you. In a book I am reading on Lies Women Believe, Chap.8 about Emotions, really might help you. I have been enlightened a lot about this book. And the next Chap. aobut is about Circumstances. If you could purchase this book, it would be really helpful for you. Also, there is a website, it may help to, I don’t know, its Flylady … its free to join or just read through baby steps :) …& just to let you know, I am weary, weary too! I am struggling, but when we struggle, a dear friend told me one time, we fail everyday, but all we can do is try & do better, even though we may fail yet again! I am sooo glad I found this site. Hope the book and site brings you encouragement and most importantly, prayer. It does change things. Just give it all to God! (that’s really hard to do, tho…sounds easy, but hard) . Praying!

    • Kara B.

      I hear you. I’ve said those same words many times over the past few years and felt despairing as I asked for help, then turned around and failed again… keep pressing on, keep returning to Him time and time again, keep stealing even just a few moments to meditate on a verse, though it doesn’t feel like much it does help… keep confessing and repenting and receiving His love and grace which He is happy to give – remember He died for us *while we were still sinners*- b/c He loved us – even in our wretchedness! Amazing, unbelievable, but TRUE! Praying for you today to sense His presence, to see His help, to find things to be thankful for, to believe He loves you – just as you are, and to do it in His strength, not your own. Thanks for sharing your heart and your struggles with us!

    • Joy

      Sweet, dear Heather. You are right, it is a hard season and what’s more you are doing it in a strange place which adds a lot of stress. Give yourself some grace and some time to adjust to life overseas and remember that this season is an extremely challenging one. Now that my twins are 4 (my youngest) I am just now beginning to be able to just how exhausting that stage is. Catching up on sleep is a huge part of that.
      Jesus, I pray for my dear friend Heather. Touch her today, encourage her mommy heart, and let her know that she IS who You created her to be, and that You love her oh, so much. Amen and amen. Love ya girl.

  • Alison

    I’ve been yelling a lot at my older daughter , trying to deal with PPD thats on again off again since my baby has been born. some days are so hard I can’t get out of bed. thanks so much for this blog post!

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1249322942 Kristi Auxier Slattery

      Father, surround Alison with your presence. Give her words of encouragement for her children, give her a glimpse of the joy that can only come from you, give her grace for those difficult moments. But most of all Father, remind her that she delights you, that she is your child, made for a wonderful purpose – motherhood.

      Blessings to you!

  • Lirpa67

    praying for all the weary moms today.. may you find peace,joy, comfort, and even laughter today!

  • Sarah H

    Crying as I read these posts and pray for these moms. Lord, it’s so nice to know we can come together through the miles and gather in your name. Please meet these sweet mommas where they are and give them what only You can give. I believe you have ordained us as women to raise up children for You so please give us strength, grace, peace and patience as we love our children and families. Thank you, Jesus. You are so amazing.

    Please pray for me today as I think I have the flu during what was supposed to be a very busy week for me.

    • Crystal J

      Praying for you, Sarah H. I’m fighting a cold too, so I understand! Blessings!

  • JennniferY

    I am struggling too! Thank you for this post! This is a saying I don’t remember where I read it but is a good one to post on the fridge for all weary moms! (I wish I could be the perfect mom that’s in my head of what I want to be)….. but since I have yet to be that, post this on yoru fridge and read it several times a day …..” God is not looking for Perfect Mothers, He’s looking for Imperfect Mothers, depending on a PERFECT GOD!! ” :) Lift your spirtis, pick up the pieces and pray as your doing your household dutes…..when folding clothes, give Glory to God by thanking Him, for allowing you to be able to bless your family by folding clothes! Sounds silly, maybe, but in everything GiVe ThAnKs & give GLORY to God. Ask God to help you for “I can do ALL things through Christ”…..This note of encouragement is just as much for me as it is for anyone else. I am the worst mom out there, so I feel at times, and I am very weary! Thankful for this site!

    • Joy

      Amen Jennifer. Lord, I pray a blessing on Jennifer today. Give her strength and love as she mothers the children that You have given to her. Love on her today, Lord. Amen.

  • Kara Sarbacker

    I’m a mother of three children ages: 4, 2, and 11 months. Reading this article helped me feel that I am not alone! It’s hard for me to forgive myself for failing my children over and over again! I want to be perfect for them because they deserve nothing less! Thanks for reminding me of Christ’s Grace and love for weary moms like me!

    • http://www.laytonfamilyjoy.blogspot.com/ steflayton

      Kara – I’m praying for you to be free from the burden of perfection. I pray your children will grow to know only God is perfect and not expect it of you. I pray He wraps you up in His loving embrace and comforts your heart. I ask Him to give you peace and reassurance that He picked YOU for those children and wants you to believe in yourself.

  • Traciwilke

    I really needed to see this post. Just last night I was praying for the Holy Spirit to direct me to passages that will give me strength as a mom. Specifically I feel as though I really am not liking my 8 year old son (that is so horrible to admit out loud). He makes really bad decisions that hurts other peoples feelings and especially he pushes away his younger 4 year old son. The amount of fighting that happens between them drives me crazy. I feel like a a horrible failure that I have not instilled a “love thy brother” sense in them.
    But as much as they drive me crazy I am reminded how lucky I am to have these struggles. For I was saved through the grace of God as I watched my friend lose her 4 year old son to cancer. That helps me have a little more grace with my boys, but still I’m struggling. Thank you for this post

    • http://thechuppies.blogspot.com/ Kara @ The Chuppies

      Traci…I pray that God will give you strength and patience, specifically with your 8 year old. I pray that He’ll show you how to reach your child’s heart, for ways to create a pathway of positive interactions….that He’ll give you extra wisdom to understand whatever is going on in his heart. I also pray that God will soften your little guy’s heart…towards his younger brother, and towards you, and towards others. Praying this morning, that God will give you a new, special sense of hope…the assurance that He can change hearts. Blessings, K

  • Carrie

    I tend to put undue pressure on myself. I try to be the IDEAL mom to 4 girls, and then end up not enjoying the journey. I get all tense, frustrated, impatient, and end up yelling to often. I confess &I pray, but the enemy fires all the more. This pattern is draining.
    This post has been a blessing already. Just reading & knowing that other moms are in the same shoes is comforting.

  • Kara B.

    Thank you for your honest and real posts. I’m 5 1/2 years into motherhood with 4 kids now and am learning so much about my need for God and my absolute wretchedness apart from Him. I have lacked face to face mom communities as we live overseas in a remote location so I am so thankful to be finding these blogs to be spurred on by and reminded of Truths, keeping my eyes on things above instead of things below, and to know I am normal in my struggles, though I feel like an absolute failure and so slow to change…. The past two days I’ve been quick to anger and overwhelmed with my responsibilities and haven’t had enough time in the Word… pray that I would make the time to spend with Him despite these very full days and that I would only do what He has for me to do, not what I think others expect or what would make me look good in other’s eyes as a wife, mom, and homeschooler…Thank you!

    • http://thechuppies.blogspot.com/ Kara @ The Chuppies

      Kara….I can so relate to what you wrote above…my heart has been at that place many times, especially years ago when we had several little ones close like yours. I am praying for you this morning…I pray that He’ll give you the strength to do exactly as you’ve written…to spend time in the Word, to look for His approval (to perform for an audience of One)…that He’ll constantly direct your eyes and heart heavenward, looking towards what is eternal…that He’ll give you an extra measure of patience…that He’ll help you see the ways that He is working, transforming your heart (and that you’ll find great hope in that)…..that He’ll call to mind specific verses when you feel the anger or frustration rising….and that He’ll in His grace, give your children soft, obedient, tender hearts towards Him and towards you. So much of that I pray for myself as well…
      Love,
      K

  • Pblynn03

    I so needed this today!! Let’s just say its been a hard few weeks and I really feel like I am barely surviving as a mom, teacher etc. Thank you for your encouragement in this post and showing me I am not ever alone!!! Becky lynn

    • http://www.godsgracefulness.com Godsgracefulness.com

      God loves you! :) Life is hard, never easy! It has it challenges, but thank God for His words!

      “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.”

  • http://twitter.com/EverydayEO Janene Frank

    I’m feeling so led to reach out more–everyone seems so busy with “stuff” to do that we feel more alone than together. I will do my part to make a change.

  • christine

    I am working through some scars I have from my own mom. I am realizing more and more that I have a tremendous fear that I will hurt my kids too- and THEY will have scars from my parenting. I SO want to be the perfect mom but I know I can’t. HE needs to be the one filling me, being what I need, helping me point my kids toward Him.
    resting in His grace.

    • http://www.raisingarrows.net Amy @ Raising Arrows

      Christine,
      I understand this. I am right there with you. God’s grace and mercy fills the gaps our humanness leaves just as it will fill the gaps your mother’s humanness left in your life. Scoop those precious blessings up and love on them today, knowing that you are not alone in your struggles and I will be praying God’s peace and grace for you every time I think of my own situation. {hugs}

  • Cpsndrs

    Homeschooling and so tires and weary

  • Mooretc5

    I have been struggling so bad. I have been suffering from pvcs (ectopic heartbeats) that have filled menwith horrible fear. It has put me into a depression and it’s affecting all areas of my life. My marriage, my kids etc and I’m so tired, lonely and sad and I pray for healing hourly but it just doesn’t seem to happen. I wake up anxious about the day before it even starts. I would love any prayers from you. Thank you. – Christina

  • Kelli Corona

    Joy, Thank you for the post! I am a single mom of one and most days I feel I am too busy to enjoy my time with her, or that I am constantly yelling and rushing :( Between work, homeschooling, and activities I feel we barley have enough time for hugs and I know it is taking its toll on both of us! This is where discontentment rears its ugly head. But in these times I know it is when He shows more, because in our weakness He is made strong. I just need to keep looking at Him and not give up! Thank you again!

  • http://www.joyfilleddays.wordpress.com Sarah Beals

    My mom is a wonderful lady, and on the days when I felt as though I had had it with my kids, she would encourage me to go out and do something special. Visist the library and browse all the decorating magazines with an iced coffee and just get some refueling of my soul. Her famous line: “You don’t want the kids to sing ‘Ding, Dong the witch is dead’ someday when you die!” lol –she always makes me laugh and helps to bring things back into perspective. :)

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=38309125 Aislynn Holt

      LOL. I was thinking that the other day as I was barely hanging trying not to scream. My son said, “Mom, I know you love me.” I asked, “How do you know that?” He said, “Because you have the Holy Spirit living inside you!” Only God’s grace could make those words come out of that boy because He knows I was at one of my worst. He is too good!

      • http://www.joyfilleddays.wordpress.com Sarah Beals

        That is SO sweet and so true! Out of the mouthes of babes!!

      • Jennifer G

        Wow, that brought tears to my eyes.

  • Jenny at A Mother’s Heritage

    Oh Lord, we know that you prize the high calling of motherhood and are tender towards those that are with young. We as mommys are surrounded by our young ones….and we are tired. Some of us have health issues that magnify that feeling of being overwhelmed. The weariness and discouragement reaches deep down…and we groan. But, you hear our groans, you know every sigh and yes, you see every feeble look towards you. Give us help oh Lord, and revive us by your Spirit. Refresh our weary souls. May we see this calling that is so forgotten in our society as you see it. May we view all of our mundane task as bringing great glory to your name. May you remind us that we are indeed, Kingdom Builders! We are insufficient for these things, I am so insufficient for these things…but come, Lord Jesus and do the work. It is all of you. Glorify yourself through these broken, weak, empty vessels…for YOU are all sufficient. In Jesus’ great name, Amen.

    Yes, another weary mom here and sending love to all my other weary sisters. :)

  • Crystal

    I really needed to read this today! I am a stay at mom of four (13, 5, 3, and 11 months!) and I am constantly feeling overwhelmed. I never feel as if my house is clean enough (there is clutter everywhere!) and I always feel like I am on the go. I am thankful that I am not alone in feeling this way. I am praying for each of you who has posted and who have read this article!

    • http://www.raisingarrows.net Amy @ Raising Arrows

      Crystal – And I’ll be praying for you specifically! We cannot do this of our own merit or abilities (at least not for very long w/o falling flat on our faces, huh? ;) ) I’ll pray the Lord’s rest and peace for you today as you mother your little ones.

  • Kathy

    Oh, I needed this today as I failed again this morning. I’m tired, stressed, and busy and it all blasted at the kids this morning. I have cried out to God and would appreciate your prayers!

    • http://thelittleprinceandspacemanspiff.blogspot.com/ Mellissa Smith

      Praying for you =)

  • TJG

    I am a new wife and mom. I dealt with post partum issues, including a breakdown. I feel pressure to be the “perfect” mother and wife, while trying to remain in God’s grace. I’ve lost not only weight, but my sense of self. I’ve gone from earning my own money to relying on my husband and my unemployment. Some days are better than others, but I just ask that you would keep me in your prayers as I navigate this journey.

    • AMS

      Praying for you…I am a new wife and mother, as well. I’ve quit working to stay at home with my baby and while I wouldn’t trade it for the world, some days it feels really, really lonely. Going from being an independent woman working as a professional to relying solely on my husband is HARD. It’s hard not to have someone else in the trenches with me to talk about ideas or to encourage me when things aren’t going well. I have a wonderful husband and awesome friends, but sometimes it’s hard to be honest with them about how I’m feeling. I’ve had to learn to rely on God’s grace more than ever before. Praying that you’ll feel God’s strength lifting you up today and that you know how very much He loves you and SEES you even when it seems no one else does.

  • Julie

    I just found this site and I haven’t even tried to figure out what order the messages are in or anything – I just had to read a few and post right away! I will continue to read them, but thank you Stephanie for your post!!! I had another day like that yesterday with my 8 1/2 yr. old son. We have had this “charged” relationship for years! He is so loving and caring, but then can turn around and be mean and has such anger issues! I have my own issues when he acts up in anger, and it turns me to anger which makes me feel just awful! Why can’t I control my own anger, but I expect him to. I never had these issues with my daughter so I thought I was this calm, wonderful mom! Only when I have a calm child I guess! :( The school bus comment is all to familiar! I ask him if he would treat a teacher at school the way he treats me and he says “No!”. It makes me feel awful and I don’t know what I have done wrong. We aren’t always locked in a battle, but it happens much more often than I would like and keeps our home in a bit of turmoil.

    Thank you for this place to post our thoughts and prayer needs! I will be praying for all of you moms as I read through these posts!

    Reminding myself daily to rely on the Lord!
    Julie

    • http://thelittleprinceandspacemanspiff.blogspot.com/ Mellissa Smith

      As the mother of a spirited child, I can understand and I am sorry for your pain. Sometimes children say the most hurtful things without really understanding the horrid pain it causes those around them. I pray you will feel loved, have strength, and that the blessed light of this season can help bring your son’s inner light to shine. Love and prayers!

  • rjmsurvance

    Wow, I needed to read this today. I’ve been battling a case of depression since Thursday – thank you for sharing this!

    • http://thelittleprinceandspacemanspiff.blogspot.com/ Mellissa Smith

      You will be in my prayers. I am glad you found this wonderful message!!!

  • Marynn

    Amazing article…thank you! I’m at a point in my parenting (of a high-needs child) where I have more frustrating days than victorious, more disappointing days than joyful, and this speaks to my weary heart. Thanks again. Your blog is a treasure. :)

    • NE

      Marynn, I, too, have a high-needs child. I pray for your to cherish your days of victory and find peace and perserverence on those disappointing and challenging days.

    • http://www.raisingarrows.net Amy @ Raising Arrows

      Marynn,
      I’m the mom of a high needs child as well and I very much understand how exhausting your days can be as you deal with one more thing over and over again. God does not make mistakes and He knows what you are feeling and there are other mothers out there living it too. Reach out and rest in Him. You are loved! I will be praying for you today!

  • Bowmania

    God is amazing in how He works. Thank you for this! The days of weariness are upon me. This year has been a journey. In the last 2 months we have had our 5th child and moved into our new home. The lack of sleep is taking a toll. I am weary!

    • http://www.raisingarrows.net Amy @ Raising Arrows

      Life seems to be nonstop at times, doesn’t it? It’s not complaining or weak to say, “I’m tired.” But, sometimes we feel like it is. We just keep pushing when really we need rest, sweet God-given rest. I’ll be praying for you today!

      • Bowmania

        Thank you! :) Rest came in the form of a 45 min nap!:) Praising the Lord!:)

  • Kat

    I am so quick to anger these days. I have been praying for self control, and want to be a gentle mother–a haven–to my children.

    • LaraGWilliams

      Father, I lift up my sister Kat. Lord, bring a quiet renewing in her spirit and a refreshment to her mama soul. You give us Your Spirit as a gift, and the fruit of walking in Your Spirit includes self-control. I pray for a fresh filling today. That she would walk full of Your Spirit, by faith. Give her eyes to see the hearts of her kids, not just hands that often disobey. You are so good. And we praise You!

      • Kat

        Thank you, Lara, for your perfectly-worded prayer–I really appreciate it!!

  • Jessica Stout

    I am a wife and mom of 3 beautiful kids… and I lost my Grandpa last night. I am weary and would love prayers for comfort and also prayers that I may be a good mom through the greif and emotion. My grandpa was a man of GREAT love… and I pray I can love my kids so fully as that would make him most proud!! THANK YOU!!!

    • bkasm5

      Heavenly Father i lift up Jessica to you. Her heart is broken. She is weary and she desperately needs you to wrap your comforting arms around her and give her strength. I thank you for the time that you gave her with her grandpa and the love he provided to her. In Christ’s name. Amen

    • http://www.justfordaisy.blogspot.com Bek @ Just For Daisy

      Lifting you up in prayer hun. A tough time but through Him you will find strength.

  • Anonymous

    I am so in need of this community! I am a weary momma, very weary! It’s encouraging to know I am not alone, that there are sisters out there who experience much of what I experience.

    Thank you, Joy, for your vision of community!

    • http://thelittleprinceandspacemanspiff.blogspot.com/ Mellissa Smith

      You are in my prayers =)

      • Anonymous

        Thank you, Mellissa! Needed and appreciated!

    • Bowmania

      You are not alone! What an amazing group of ladies to pray and encourage each other. Praying for you

      • Anonymous

        So thankful…

  • Anna_bug

    what a perfectly timed gift of encouraging words. praise Jesus for all these preciou ladies joining in community.
    I love my precious twin boys, but I’m hating the age of 2. besides the sickness that’s keeping us homebound, its constant fighting. I also have a sweet 6 week old boy who I feel I am losing bonding time with because of playing referee for the twins. I know we are all in transition, but I’m just feeling so isolated and overworked. My husband is usually a huge team player, but I harboring a lot of bitterness towards him right now. I don’t totally understand all these feelings and I’m just confused and sad. thank you for the prayers.

    • Alexandra

      Praying for you, Anna, for your marriage and for your mothering. It is such a comfort to know that we are not alone. God will give you exactly what you need to be what your husband and children all need. I often have to stop and give things to God because I try to please everyone else and live up to everyone else’s expectations, rather than seeking God’s direction for my life. Keep committing it to Him, and He will direct your path.

  • http://hljourney.wordpress.com/ HLJourney

    Dealing with all boys, depression, and anxiety – this household is weary from beginning to end on some days. But, I’m slowly learning & thankful for this post of reminders, that I am not alone! I need to remember to immediately take everything, every little issue, huge issue, it doesn’t matter what it may be directly to Him; the One that can comfort, heal, guide, and direct… Each new day gives another beginning!

    • Alexandra

      Amen! I totally agree. I pray that your day will be totally enriched with God’s love, joy and peace!

  • http://hljourney.wordpress.com/ HLJourney

    NE
    I lift you directly up to our Father, asking for His strength within you – praying for you to feel His comfort and direction. Hang on to Him for understanding.
    Hugs, Heather

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1497954100 Dawn Aranyosi Gilcrest

    I was in this place early last week. I did exactly what you suggest and went before God and asked Him for help. I needed to change me and stop trying to change my kid. Once I realized that and asked for help, things have improved greatly. I realize that there will be more struggles to come, but for now, all is well thanks to His grace and glory. I pray blessings for all in this community for a joy filled Christmas season!!

    • Alexandra

      Life just turns right around when we take things to God, doens’t it? If only we would remember to do it each day, each moment….Good thing God is so patient with us! Have a blessed day, Dawn.

  • Needprayer

    I’m sick and have been getting worse. The pain , fatigue muscle aches and nausea are so bad the past few days that I really am not functional. However, my husband is recovering from a serious surgery and cannot take care of himself and my 2 kids at home are both down with a virus and fever and need to be taken care of.

    My oldest son said Mom wasn’t allowed to get sick because Mom had to take care of everyone else! And that’s true. I cannot rest and have them take care of me, they are in need and it’s the mom who must do it. We have no family or friends we can call to help. Each time I get up, the room spins and I feel as if I am going to lose my tummy. The aches keep me from sleeping and walking and standing and doing the things a mom needs to do such as cooking, laundry, seeing after her sick family’s needs.

    Please pray for strength and HEALING for me and my entire family! There is so much I need to do and I have no physical way to get them done and no one to help. We need a miraculous touch from Jesus.

    Thank you for praying!

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=38309125 Aislynn Holt

      Lord God, give this sister strength as she battles all of these trials. Father, give her strength to get up to serve, supply her with rest to be sustained, and Lord, grant this family with healing in this season. Lord, you see all, you know the heart, bless this family and momma. Give her a strength, love, and courage that only you can grant, Lord. In Christ name, Amen.

      Love in Christ, Sister.
      Aislynn Holt

  • Christine

    I’m Christine and I’m a weary mom to two beautiful boys, one with ADHD which is a challenge each and every day to deal with my frustrations without destroying this boy’s ample spirit. And I’m a very weary wife learning to let got of my fears and anger and I can only hope and pray that my husband can trust in me and in Him. Last night my husband said he was done…ouch. Why do I always lean on the Lord only when I’m in pain? If i could find Him each and everyday, I don’t think I’d be here but it’s so easy to take our eyes off of Him when times are ok..ugh!

    • Alexandra

      Praying for your Christine. What a painful time for you! It’s easy to forget about coming to God when everything is going OK. We like it when it seems like everything in life is in control. I find that God often needs me to hurt a bit to realise that I need to let Him have control of everything. I am praying for your marriage today and your mothering. My husband always says to me that noone ever said that parenting was easy. Marriage isn’t easy either. Hang in there, and keep calling out to God. He is faithful.

  • Amy

    Timely. I spent yesterday thinking about what a horrible mom I was. We have had colds for much of the fall it seems on and off. Sort of like that game you played on the merry-go-round when we were little called “dropped it, got it”. We have had two colds go through the house twice now for each of us…when that happens it feels like it’s been around forever. You start to feel weary just from the colds let alone from all the mom things that need to be done for everyone. Yesterday, I finally cried. I’m so far behind in history and science in our homeschool studies, my library books are here and there and everywhere, we still have fall pumpkins on the porch and no Christmas decorations put up. I feel like the only thing my girls are going to remember about Christmas is how much we didn’t do… I want Christmas to be fun and to resemble a love for Christ and the importance of family but, I get overwhelmed and end up too anxious to do anything and then feel like a failure. Ughh. Wow, feels better just getting it out. I just hope that I’m not the only one feeling this way…but, if I am well, I’ll just read and reread the article again maybe it was meant just for me and that’s ok.

    • Alexandra

      I couldn’t help but smile, Amy, when I read your comment. I could empathise with so many things you have said…about the library books, being behind in school, feeling anxious about Christmas preparations etc. It’s so easy, isn’t it, to get so caught up in what we things has to be done? God has been patiently teaching me that I put so many expectations on myself that He hasn’t put on me at all. I do all this unnecessary running around, sticking to schedules, getting things organised, when He is just wanting to lead me day by day, moment by moment in what HE wants me to do. His yoke is easy and His burden is light. I so often get stressed and uptight about what I DON’T get done, but I know when I feel like this, I need to go straight to my Father God and ask Him to show me just what He wants me to get done that day. I pray that your day will be peaceful and full of joy today as you enjoy your family.

  • http://www.enrichedfamily.blogspot.com Chrissy

    Oh My Precious Lord,

    I can feel the heartbeat, cry, and of these women at times in my own life. You have healed me from depression, but at times it wakes from the sleep and attacks me again. I pray that you will be with all my dear sweet sisters here and pray you pour out the Oil of Joy and the help them put on the Graments of Praise in their lives. Thank you Lord Jesus. Amen

  • Lindsay

    How timely..I just recently poured it all out to God and begged Him for rest. I am a work at home mama of 2 boys, almost 4 and almost 1 (12/31 and 01/03). My work schedule is 4am to 11 am, which allows me to be with my children most of the day, but requires me to be in bed by 9 pm to get 7 hours of sleep. That never happens, so I’m down to usually 6.5 hours of sleep – which are interrupted at least twice a night by the 11 month old..so down to less than 6 hours of sleep on a nightly basis. And….I suspect, although not sure yet, that I might be pregnant again, such is the feeling of fatigue that has overwhelmed me this week. My schedule is a blessing for our family but it feels relentless sometimes, and last week I was so tired that I was becoming preoccupied with rest, obsessing over it almost. Just. So. Tired. Praying for all of you mamas who are just so tired, too.

    • Alexandra

      “Come to me, all you who labour and are heavy-laden, and I will give you rest.” Matthew 11:28. Your life indeed sounds so full, but God is bigger than all our routines and needs. He can provide you with the rest you need. Listen to His still small voice in your life and make sure you are following His leading and not the leading of everyone else. I fall into this trap a lot, and God is teaching me how to do what He wants rather than what I feel everyone/everything else wants or needs. Be blessed today, Lindsay…

  • Jen

    I had to laugh when I read today’s blog title. This was very timely. It was a knock down, drag out morning with the kids. I know my 13 y.o. son was feeling defeated. I tried to make things right between us before we left for school but he wasn’t ready. I’m feeling like a horrible mom. We’re doing a parenting class at church, and this week’s lesson was all about how we speak to our kids – speech seasoned with grace, a sweet spirit and all that.

    I spent some time in prayer and Bible reading. God is merciful. He led me right to Isaiah 40:28-32. “Hast thou not known? hast thou not heard, that the everlasting God, the LORD, the Creator of the ends of the earth, fainteth not, neither is weary? there is no searching of his understanding. He giveth power to the faint; and to them that have no might he increaseth strength. Even the youths shall faint and be weary, and the young men shall utterly fall: But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.”

    If you don’t mind, I’ll share what God showed me. I am weary, but God is not. I don’t understand, but God’s understanding is limitless. I am weak but he gives me strength and power. {conditional promise – He will if I wait on Him.} and… instead of verbally beating down my kids, I need to draw my strength from Him and equip them to mount up, run the race they have been called to, and walk in Him.

    Thank you for sharing your hearts. Praying for us all.

    • A

      That is so powerful! Thank you.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=38309125 Aislynn Holt

    I just had this conversation with my ever supportive husband. It is incredibly hard to even describe the weariness, isn’t it? The school day gets delayed, the toddler screaming for no reason, the five year old deciding to defy every notion presented… it’s a never ending cycle it seems. However, I must say choosing to see His goodness in all things is of great help. Surrounding our house with scripture, journeying through Advent, and visually seeing each day leading up to His birth is a great reminder. This year it may just all stay up because when the screaming becomes too much I stare at that promise literally, and it is rejuvenating. Oh, the two year old just knocked the tree down and the wreath off the table…. yep, it’s still a mess here! ;D Only He can sustain! This has been my motto the past week!

    • http://thelittleprinceandspacemanspiff.blogspot.com/ Mellissa Smith

      I love your attitude when surrounded by such mommy-chaos! You are such a good example! Scriptures, Advent, and love of Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ! I loved this response!

    • http://www.godsgracefulness.com Godsgracefulness.com

      Oh wow, haha bless your heart. It is hard but you are right our JOY is alone in HIm.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1184128567 Jennifer Lockett

    I’m a weary mamma. My husband has a mental health disability and so often I feel like I carry all the

    • http://thelittleprinceandspacemanspiff.blogspot.com/ Mellissa Smith

      That sounds very difficult. You will be in my prayers. You are strong, but you can do anything with help from The Lord!

  • Tami Thompson

    I “stumbled” upon here just now for the first time because of a tweet and a link and I see clearly that it was all in answer to a desperate prayer for help! I long for the help and wisdom of other mamas as I do feel like I’m going it alone much of the time – alone as in not enough opportunity (in my opinion) for deep conversation with other mamas about honoring the Lord and raising my sweet children with Him as the center of our home. I didn’t get that growing up, so I’m always seeking to find what this looks like all fleshed out in daily life. So with a huge lump in my throat I thank God for directing my steps here, and I thank you for this ministry to mothers.

    Oh Lord, so many who need help! I ask in the name of Jesus that in the weary days of raising little ones, please help us to focus on the long-term good for Your glory. Help us not to be overcome with burden. Help us to be what we cannot be on our own. Thank you for introducing me to this help here online.

    • http://www.godsgracefulness.com Godsgracefulness.com

      Tami, you are here because God guided you here and I’m sure He knew what you needed. :)
      God’s promise was that if we lay all of our burden, weariness to Him, He will take care of us because His yoke is easy, and burden is light. xoxo Praise God that you are here among other mommies.

      • Tami Thompson

        What a blessing! Thank you for your encouragement! God is so good and I know He directed my fingers here today. Looking forward to good reading, rich wisdom, and godly help here! Thank you!

    • Joy

      Lord Jesus, Thank you so much for directing Tami’s path to this place. I pray right now that you would encourage her heart and bring her into deep fellowship with you. But, also, Lord, will you bring her a friend that she can go deep with, one that she can share on that deep level with. We thank you for her and that she is Your child. Amen.

      • Tami Thompson

        How do I say thank you so that you really know how much I mean it? What a special visit here and I look forward to more and more. Thank you, Joy. So much!

  • Tami Thompson

    I “stumbled” upon here just now for the first time because of a tweet and a link and I see clearly that it was all in answer to a desperate prayer for help! I long for the help and wisdom of other mamas as I do feel like I’m going it alone much of the time – alone as in not enough opportunity (in my opinion) for deep conversation with other mamas about honoring the Lord and raising my sweet children with Him as the center of our home. I didn’t get that growing up, so I’m always seeking to find what this looks like all fleshed out in daily life. So with a huge lump in my throat I thank God for directing my steps here, and I thank you for this ministry to mothers.

    Oh Lord, so many who need help! I ask in the name of Jesus that in the weary days of raising little ones, please help us to focus on the long-term good for Your glory. Help us not to be overcome with burden. Help us to be what we cannot be on our own. Thank you for introducing me to this help here online.

  • http://thelittleprinceandspacemanspiff.blogspot.com/ Mellissa Smith

    What a beautiful idea, and a wonderful reminder. Thank you so much =)

  • http://www.simplyprudent.net Jenni

    I really needed this encouragement today. Thank you!

  • Hyperactivelu

    Struggling with anger towards family that thinks I’ve ruined my husband’s life and I am some evil woman! Issues have been there since we began to date. Grieving over the news that my grandmother that has been battling ovarian cancer for 7.5 yrs , another chemo cannot be found and this might have 3-6 mos to live. She is in intense pain. We can’t decide what to do because we just saw them at Thxgiving. Change our plans for the Holidays, etc? Traveling long miles with four small children? Feeling overwhelmed as a wife, mother, home schooling mom. Comparing my child to others his age. Perhaps I am failing? Extremely tired and overwhelmed with all that there is to do and how little I accomplish daily.

    • Alexandra

      Praying for you….Keep on giving it to Jesus. Even though you feel like you cannot go on, He will be there to catch you when you fall.

  • Countrymomof8

    Very happy to pray for you and am greatly thrilled to be prayed for …. Thank you !!! I hope that all who read here today have a blessed day from this moment on !!!

    • Alexandra

      Thankyou, and I pray the same for you!

  • Anon.

    I am weary ill, and tired, though happily married with four children , and I live in a (very) foreign land. I suffer from stress, and the political situation here right now makes me even more worried. I get depressed at this time of year as I long to be back with my family back home. I pray that we will eventually return there for good,- now that seems out of the question for us, but I live in hope.

    • Julia

      Lord, I pray that you would wrap Your arms around this woman. Please heal her illness, and give her a peace and comfort that surpasses all understanding. I pray that you would give your the patience, strength and hope she needs to wait for the day she may return home. Finally, I pray that you would protect her and her family from the political issues of the country in which she resides. In your precious name, Amen.
      Anon, I will keep you in my prayers.
      Julia

  • http://beingjune.wordpress.com/ Julia

    I’ve been reading The Better Mom for several weeks now, but I haven’t peeked out of lurkdom until today. Thank you for such a moving reminder that we are not alone in our mom-worlds, and thank you for taking it a step further by bringing us together like this.

    • Alexandra

      Praying for you today, Julia. May your mothering journey be blessed and enriched.

  • Kim

    Oh, my! You have no idea how this was “just for ME” today! With tears streaming down my face….I feel so alone, unable, guilty, etc…. Struggling with extreme nausea and insomnia as I am in the first trimester of pregnancy…it has been EXTREMELY difficult to be a patient, loving, fun, homeschooling mommy….thus the guilt. After a very sleepless night, and feeling super yucky….this morning I found myself lying on the couch trying to rest as the kids watched cartoons….all the while knowing my son needed his mommy to be teaching him, and my toddler needed her mommy to play with her. But I simply couldn’t move….and the guilt and tears set in….”Lord, I can’t do this! Please make this easier!” So, thank you for sharing this post….sometimes a momma can feel so very alone and completely unfit, as I do now. It brings hope to read posts such as this!

    • Alexandra

      Oh, sweet Mama, I know exactly how you’re feeling. I have had many similar struggles in my mothering and homeschooling journey. God has been patiently and gently teaching me, though, that I often put such high expectations on myself (like the state of the house or the homeschooling) that aren’t from God at all. He has to keep reminding me that His yoke is easy and His burden is light. When I find the burden too hard (which is so, so often), it usually means that I have put too many expectations on myself (often based on what other mothers seem to be doing, or what our culture demands of us) . The greatest gift you are giving your children is loving them and being there for them. I pray that God would show you exactly what He wants YOU to do this very day, and that you will truly find rest for your weary soul!

  • Crystal J

    Yes! Thank you for this. Thankful for all of these sweet ladies praying for each other too! I have been fighting a cold for the past 2 days and running on no energy and things are falling behind! Who am I kidding, they are always behind! I need groceries too but just haven’t made it to the store! I actually ran to McDonald’s this morning for juice just so I didn’t have to get out at the store! Isn’t that awful!?

    You know, I often, most days feel like a failure, not just today. Why don’t I go to Him more often, instead of trying to do this on my own? Thank you for the encouragement!

    • Alexandra

      I needed that gentle reminder to go to God today, too, Crystal. It seems easier for us at times just to try to work things out ourselves. I am amazed at how much peace, clarity of thought, and wisdom I get from simply taking it to the Lord in prayer. It certainly is humbling, too, to realise that we can’t do it in our own strength. Have an amazing day!

  • ME Stephens

    Thank you for the article! How true it is that left all alone we allow satan to invade our thoughts and hearts to make our lives fall a part. There are good Christian woman thhat are always willing to listen, teach, and love.
    - ME Stephens

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1249322942 Kristi Auxier Slattery

    Thank you for this post. I’ve read and prayed through many of the requests listed on this page. I’m a weary momma myself, but praying for these others took my eyes from myself and lifted them to look at Jesus. I now feel a joy and peace that could only have come from God.

    Blessings to all you weary mommys!

    • http://www.themuzungumama.com Lexi

      Praying for you right now Kristi. This verse has been on my mind ALL DAY LONG… hoping it brings you some comfort as well. “Be still, and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth! ” -Psalm 46:10

    • Joy

      Joining Lexi in lifting you up before the Lord tonight. Blessings.

  • http://www.themuzungumama.com Lexi

    I’m a missionary in Ugandan and a mama to a precious 21 month old Ugandan baby girl. In the past month, I’ve had 3 bouts of pretty serious malaria. It’s left me unable to spend tons of time with here and actively parent as I want to. I’ve been absolutely racked with guilt about the whole thing even though I know I can’t control it. I need prayer for a long lasting recovery this time and strength from the King of Kings!

    • bkasm5

      Heavenly Father, i lift up Lexi to you today. She is struggling emotionally and physically. I ask you Father to touch her body and give her strength. Heal her once and for all from malaria. Lift her spirits and free her from these feelings of guilt. I ask all of this in your son’s precious name. Amen

    • Joy

      Lord, I lift up Lexi to you as she lives and serves in a foreign land. I pray that you would give her long lasting recovery from the difficulties of malaria and restore her health fully so that she might serve You. Thank you Lord

  • Demingglobal

    What a needed reminder for me! With three-year-old twin boys I feel that all I do is raise my voice and threaten! I need help learning how to balance God’s grace with instruction!!!!!

    • Alexandra

      Lol. I imagine that would be tricky! People often say to me when I tell them I have 5 children and homeschool, that I must be so patient. Any speck of patience in me has come through much blood, sweat and tears!! It certainly seems to be a trait that God wants to teach busy mothers. Have a blessed day today.

    • Joy

      My twins boys are 4 and oh, how I do understand this! :) Lord, I lift up this dear sister to you right now. Give her wisdom, grace, patience, and love for her boys. Bring to her mind some practical ideas on how to best train and instruct her precious boys and do it for Your glory! Amen.

  • Mary Jo

    I just found you on FB! This is going to be a Blessing I know! Thank you Joy!
    Mary Jo Rendon ~ Centennial, CO

    • Joy

      Lord, please embrace, encourage, and bless Mary Jo today. In Your Name.

  • Lisa Jefferies

    Thanks for this post Yes, I am weary and oftentimes do feel alone. Thx for the prayers!

    • Joy

      Lord, I bring Lisa to you. Give her energy, wisdom and communion with You as she takes on the task of mothering. I pray that you would encourage her heart today. Amen.

      • Lisa Jefferies

        Thank you, Joy! May the Lord richly bless you!

  • Janet

    Have been reading for awhile now and have never left a comment – but this just touched me today and I cried as I read. It does my heart so much good to know that I’m not the only one who struggles with this. Four of our five kids are already out of the house and we have a very strong-willed 9yr old daughter still at home, most days I feel like she and I are just at odds all the time. Some weeks I fall into bed every single night and just cry wondering what in the world am I doing wrong here.

    It’s just exhausting, I never remember my Mom being cross or even out of sorts with us and I think that just makes the guilt that much worse!! I just hate it when I think every morning that today will be better and I can’t even get her out the door to school without someone yelling.

    Sending prayers for all the other weary moms here and thanks so much for the thoughts.

    • Alexandra

      Praying for you today, Janet, that you will know the peace and comfort of God. It’s so easy to always compare ourselves to others or strive to be perfect, but thankfully God doesn’t expect that from us. I am so thankful that He gives us exactly what we need each day to be the mothers He wants us to be. Never stop commiting your precious daughter to God. He is faithful!

    • Joy

      Joining Alexandra in praying for you today dear Janet. Lord, we thank you for this dear mother who wants to serve You as she parents her last little one in the home. I pray that she and her daughter might connect deeply at the heart level and that you would surround Janet with Your love as she is tired. Lord, help guard her heart against the comparison to her own mom that she is tempted towards. Jesus, let her know that she is the exact right mom for her daughter that You have chosen. Amen.

  • Jessica

    I’m here – reading your post and struggling today. My 6 month old has has some physical set backs and we have a doctor appointment Friday morning at a Children’s Hospital. I’m feeling so weak, weary, and alone today, and terrified for yet again more doctor appointments.

    • Alexandra

      Jessica, I pray that God’s healing hand would be on your precious baby’s life. And that He would give you the peace, strength and wisdom that you need also. Always remember that you can do all things through Him who gives you strength. When you feel you don’t have the strength to take one more step, He will be there to carry you .

    • Joy

      Lord Jesus, I pray right now for Jessica and her sweet child that has some physical set backs. Lord, You are the Master Healer and we ask for you to go before Jessica in these appointments. Bring Jessica Your peace and rest as she moves forward. Lord, we know that You have given her this precious child and we trust You for the outcome of these appointments. Amen.

  • Vwallberg

    This was so good to hear. Thank you. My grief the other day was my response to my son (four years old) at bedtime when he decided to pull my hair. I pulled his to let him know how it felt and that it was painful. Afterwards I felt so bad that the day ended that way…a big heartsink as a mom. So grateful for a new day of better beginnings and endings.

    • Alexandra

      How thankful I am so many times that the Lord’s mercies are new every morning. Each new day is a blessing! I know what it feels like to say or do something that you really regret. I often pray that my children would reach their full potential in God DESPITE of me! He is so much bigger than all our mistakes. I pray that you will know His sweet peace today.

    • Joy

      Lord I pray for this sweet mama today. Help her to rest in You as she begins again tomorrow. You know her feelings of failure and despair, but I pray that you would lift her above that to see that You love her more than she will ever know. I thank you for new days, new starts, and grace. Help her to cling to these.

  • Tired and weary

    Thank you so much for this column today. I am feeling so weary today, with my 13 and 11 year old kids. They are pretty good, but some days are just so trying. Your article today really helped and encouraged me. Thanks so much.

    • Alexandra

      Motherhood certainly is a constant journey, isn’t it? I pray that God would give you the strength and grace you need today to be the mother your children need. Have a blessed day.

    • Joy

      Jesus I lift up this precious mama right now. You know that she is tired and weary and that she wants to follow You in her mothering of these 2 kids. I pray that you would continue to build her up, strengthen her, and encourage her heart. Surround her with You loving arms and speak love into and over her. Thank you Jesus. Amen.

  • Riff4u

    I ask for prayer for the things in mine an my husbands life..We prayeed for a good job for him an God answered right away, as in days..WOW…an we moved almost 600 miles an live with family cuase we havent found housing that isnt sky high..we just found out we were expecting right after the move an we were so excited cause we thought we werent able to have more then 2 weeks ago lost it an i was in the Hospital for a few day because of it..we are heart broken..we still praise God through all of this but its rough..Thank you for your prayers an God bless..Tina

    • Alexandra

      Praying for you, Tina. God is so faithful and will carry you through this hard time. It is an inspiration to others that you just keep holding onto Him in faith. Be blessed today!

      • Joy

        Alexandra, You are so encouraging! Thank you for encouraging and praying for SO many of these women. You have blessed me so very much today. :)

  • Melaniearudd

    Boy, am I weary today. Everything feels like such a struggle and I am so weighted down by all that I need to do and be. My 16 year old is a great kid in so many ways! I receive compliments on him all the time but his personality can be so abrasive that I have a hard time being patient and loving with him. I guess the Lord wants to use his abrasiveness to rub off all my rough spots. :-) I know much can be attributed to hormones, sickness and just plain exhaustion. As a wise woman once said (Teri Maxwell), don’t make any decisions or talk too much when you’re having one of these days-just get through it and get some rest. I need to take that advice today for sure.

    Thanks for your honesty. Sometimes it feels like so many homeschool mamas are either trying to come off as perfect or make excuses for bad behaviour. I don’t want to do either of those things. I want to be transparent about my imperfections and need for God’s grace without making light of or excusing my wrong behaviours and attitudes. Your post does just that. Thank you. It’s nice to know I’m not alone. :-)

    • Alexandra

      I love that advice: just get through it and get some rest. That’s pretty much what God is speaking to me about at the moment too. God has shown me that I have created so many of my own struggles because I have created this huge to do list that I feel is from God. God has shown me today that He wants me to ‘embrace the quiet’, not try to fill it up with so many things. It’s hard to find ‘quiet’ when you are a busy mum, but I am finding that it is there if we look for it. I pray that you would know His sweet peace and rest today.

      • Melaniearudd

        Dear Alexandra-I certainly hope you have gotten some rest by now and are feeling much better. :-) I know I am. Ah yes-the to do list! Sometimes it feels like that’s all I can think about. However, I know that God often reminds me that He has not asked me to do anything that He will not equip me to do so if I am struggling in an area, I am either working in my own strength or have taken on burdens that God has not given me. He said His yoke is easy and His burden is light so when our’s become hard and heavy, I know we have stopped somewhere and taken up someone else’s burden and yoke.

        Dear Lord, I lift Alexandra up to you today. I pray that you would provide the rest and refreshing that she needs. I pray that you would help both of us to lay down our heavy burdens at your feet and to take up your easy yoke and light burden instead. May your joy and peace flood Alexandra’s soul today and always. In Jesus name I pray-Amen.

    • Joy

      No Melanie, You are certainly not alone. I, too, want to be transparent and admit my struggles, especially in homeschooling. Because, then, the Lord’s glory shines that much more brightly in my successes, because it will be evident that it has nothing to do with me but only HIM and His grace and strength. :)
      Let me pray for you:
      Jesus I lift up Melanie to you. I thank You for her honesty and her willingness to admit fault and also for her desire to serve You in her life, mothering, and homeschooling. Give her some good sleep and rest for her weary soul today that she might begin refreshed tomorrow. In Your Name, Lord Jesus Amen.

      • Melaniearudd

        Thank you so much Joy. :-) The Lord answered our prayers and I am much better. It’s so funny how our perspective can change so drastically within such a short time. No I am filled with joy and thankfulness for my family and know deep in my heart that my son is only abrasive when I am not at my sweetest. When I have joy and focus on the positive-my family follows suit. A mother’s influence to set the tone of her home is an amazing gift on most days…………and feels like a bit of a burden on others. :-)

        Thank you for your honesty and prayers. Now it’s my turn to pray for you!

        Dear Lord, I bring my sister Joy before you. I pray that as she pours out her life serving her family and those you have placed in here life, that You would pour your love, peace and joy into her-that you would provide seasons of refreshing and renewal in her life so that she may continue to serve You with gladness. I thank You for Joy and for her ministry which has obviously blessed and touched so many. In the holy, wonderful and powerful name of Jesus Christ I pray-Amen.

  • Erin Messing

    Such a lovely post just when I needed it. Our little family has been stretched these past few months and I am worn down. There has been no time to process, rest, recharge, cope. The constant strain of stress and anxiety has taken it’s toll on me and I have allowed myself to wallow in my own self pity which has done nothing but make me a grouchy, impatient, frustrated mama. Rather than deal with all the mess of life on my own I need to turn to God, give it all to Him. Thanks for the reminder.

    • Alexandra

      Praying for you today, Erin….I pray that you truly experience His rest today.

    • Joy

      Lord I pray for Erin tonight. I thank you that You have brought her into this community where we can build each other up, encourage one another, and pray for each other. I pray that You would give her rest. Rest in her heart, in her soul, in her mind, and physical rest. Help her to be able to cast all her cares on You, for we know that You care for each one of them. Thank you Jesus.

  • Marybeth Thielke

    6 months pregnant (super low blood pressure), 2 year old (I am dealing with dis-attachment with), 1 year old (who is teething and so so clingy) and watching a 4 month old 40+ hrs a week…I AM SO WEARY! Lord help me!!

    • http://www.godsgracefulness.com Godsgracefulness.com

      “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” Matthew 11:28

      • Joy

        Thank you so much for helping me to encourage these ladies! Your blessing them has really blessed me!

    • Joy

      Oh sweetie, I have been there. I am sure you are just so weary right now. Let me pray for you:
      Jesus, I bring to You this sweet sister, Marybeth. I pray that you would strengthen her body and help her to find a way to bring up her blood pressure and for specific do-able ideas on how to best handle and love on her little 2 year old. Give her an extra measure of strength, energy, and grace as she begins her day tomorrow, that she might be ready and able to serve You.

  • http://www.domesticdelirium.com Stephanie Perryman

    I am a first time reader here (and I will be following from now on!) and this post could not have come at a more perfect time. I have had probably the worst night and day of my parenting since having my 2nd daughter in April. I have felt so defeated today because I’ve let my anger control me and my temper has flared and I haven’t been the loving, gracious mother I know my daughters need. I will say a prayer for all the moms who have commented today and please pray for me too! I need to come before His throne of grace and receive His healing and grace on me right now!

    • Alexandra

      Praying for you, Stephanie. You are definitely in the right place here to receive the encouragement and prayer you need. It is so nice to know we are not the only ones who feel we have failed. And that God is so patient with us! Have a truly blessed day.

    • Joy

      I am so glad that you have found this community! So glad to have you here joining us!
      Jesus, I pray for sweet Stephanie. You know her heart and that she wants to be a loving and gracious mom, and yet, in the moment it is just so easy to let anger flare and tempers to get the best of us. I pray that You would speak love into and over her, and give her the courage and strength to try once again in Your strength. Give her some simple things that she can do in the moment to calm her frazzled nerves. We love You so very much Lord. Thank You that You care for our weary mama hearts.

  • Shari

    I am not alone!!!!!!! YAY!!!!

    Yes, I feel like a failure as a mother most of the time. I want the best for my children and BOY do I fall WAY SHORT!!!

    His,
    Shari

    PS- Yes I am praying for other mothers here!!

    • http://www.godsgracefulness.com Godsgracefulness.com

      I fall short constantly, it’s the grace of GOD that keeps me going. Shari, you’re not alone. Everyone fails, just many don’t want to make mention of it or shed light on it. We keep it to ourselves or share with God. If we glean on God’s promises, it will motivate us, help us carry through those hard days. Just keep reading the word. It will help tremendously.

  • Faith-full

    Good thoughts for a very weary mama. My children are 3,5,7,11. I homeschool. I am starting menopause. I feel as if I am drowning. I hate to see their anger – I see my own reflected. I hate their bickering. I want their hearts to turn toward God.

    • Marybeth Thielke

      Jesus I lift up your precious daughter to You right now and ask that You cover her in Your peace, Your strength, Your love. I pray strength when she is weak, and that she would know your strength is made perfect in her weakness. Bless her children with hearts that seek You earnestly and honestly. Give them all joy as they are going through this tough season. Thank you for her Lord Jesus!

    • Brandi

      I’ve read through several of the comments here and I really related to yours. I only have two kiddos but everything else you wrote . . . ME TOO! I’m praying for you my Faith-full friend. Nice to know I’m not alone. Keep the faith. xoxo

  • Kim

    I feel like the mom who Sally just described. I want to be a better mom. Most days I feel in over my head and sinking fast. Wish I had a friend in my life to offer encouragement and to support each other.

    • NE

      Kim, I am so sorry you feel this. I can relate. Prayers for you as you look to HIm to be a better mom and may he lead you to a in life friend to encourage, support and walk alongside you. I know that longing well. (Hugs) to you today.

    • Marybeth Thielke

      Kim, I often feel this way too…wishing I had a friend to offer encouragement and support, in real life. I am so sorry you are missing this. No one should go without that fellowship and friendship.

      Lord, I lift up Kim to you right now. I pray a blessing over her life. I pray that when her day seems long and she feels like she is sinking, that she would be reminded of Your truth, that she would meditate on the fact that Your grace is sufficient for us. Bring godly women into her life that can help her and nurture her and encourage her. Bless her mightily. Thank you Jesus for Kim!

  • Anonymous

    Thank you, I definitely needed this today as I definitely feel as I failed as a mama today…and it is only rest time!

    • Alexandra

      Isn’t it encouraging to hear that other mothers say they fail, and yet they just keep on going! I needed this too. I pray that God would bless your heart today and strengthen you in your role as a wife and mother.

  • Laura Forman

    Ah, perfect for me today, I need the prayers…I was at the ER Friday night with chest pains, to come home at 3 am with a migraine to wake up on Sunday morning with the migraine and added stomach virus! It’s been quite a few days! I am coming out of a fog and praying the migraine is almost gone. Thanks for the prayers and look forward to praying for others too! :)

    • Alexandra

      Praying for you….Look after yourself. As mothers, we often put the needs of others ahead of our own. I pray that God will help you find the balance.

  • http://www.facebook.com/adenaharstad Adena Harstad

    I was crying out to the Lord and my hubby just last night. Homeschooling four kids it seems everything gets crazy, then I find myself getting crazy. I fail daily! Thanks for the encouraging words.

    • Alexandra

      I know what you mean! I am homeschooling 5 children, and life is so crazy so often. I was just crying out to God this morning saying that every area of my life feels out of control. I just felt Him whisper to me to embrace the quiet. He has shown me that I am always striving to do, do, do. I always thought it was because I wanted to do my best in everything. But God showed me that it was to avoid being less than best. (I always had a phobia with getting a minus next to my A (at college) or coming 2nd place.) Are you doing things because you feel they HAVE to be done, or because God wants you to? That’s the question He often asks me. He wants us all to be able to experience that His yoke is easy and His burden is light. Praying for you today, that you will hear His still, small voice in the midst of the noisy, busy, messy craziness!

  • Lori

    This post is spot on with my life right now. Almost 2 months ago, my husband and I traveled to China and adopted two toddler boys. We already have a 7 year old boy. We both work full time. Often, I just feel weary. I even use that exact word when talking about how I feal. Not tired or exhausted. Weary. My desire is to raise my kids with a love of the Lord. At the end of the day, after school work, washing clothes, feeding everyone, etc, I wonder if I even talked about Jesus. Love and prayers to all you beautiful mamas!

    • Alexandra

      What a full life you have! I pray that God will bless you for your willingness to reach out and offer a home to two sweet boys. I pray that He will give you His strength to keep going each day, when you feel all your energy is spent. The love of God is in you and will shine through all you do for your children.

      • Lori

        Thank you!

  • http://www.amusingmandy.blogspot.com Amanda

    I am so thankful that you take the time to write articles of encouragement like this Joy. Praying for all these sweet ladies. Don’t be afraid to reach out and ask for help when needed. And also when you are having a good day, look for ways you can be a blessing to others.

  • Margaret

    Weary…that’s what I am…I fall short…I fail as a mom. Thank you for this post.

    • Marybeth Thielke

      God I lift up Margaret to you Father…I ask that You would wrap Your strong arms around her and speak truth into her life that You are there, You love her, You give her strength. Speak words of healing and strength into her heart!

  • Shonda

    My goodness! Ever since I had my second child I have been so weary. Some days I don’t want to be a mom! Yikes! But I look at my blessings and sit down, hug them and pray that God gives me the strength for whatever comes my way. I want to enjoy them right now at these tender ages of 3 years and 7 months.

    • http://www.justfordaisy.blogspot.com Bek @ Just For Daisy

      Praying for you Shonda. May God give you renewed strength in Him to love and cherish your children more than ever. To make you resourceful with your time and energy. Praise God that even in the tough times you can look at your life and be thankful for the blessings He has lavished upon you. Prayer for you today.

  • amanda

    Thanks for this post. I am battling post-partum depression. I have two girls, one 2yrs old, the other 4mo old. Even though I know Christ and have a community of moms/believers to call on, I feel lonely and empty most days. I haven’t been my strong in Christ self since I became pregnant with my firstborn. If i didn’t have the hope of Christ somewhere in me, I would have taken my life I’m sure of it by now. But I have Christ, and through Him these kids will continue to have a Mama. It’s just really hard most days. Thanks whoever ends up praying for me, I really appreciate it.

    • Alexandra

      What a blessing to know that God holds your hand each day even though it sometimes doesn’t feel like it. My heart is with you, sweet mother. I understand exactly how you feel. I have five children now, but remember well how hard it was in those early days and with little babies. May I encourage you to keep filling your heart and mind with Scriptures and with words from wise women. It may not feel like anything is changing, but God’s Word is powerful, and you will achieve victory!

  • http://www.justfordaisy.blogspot.com Bek @ Just For Daisy

    What a wonderful post. This would have been timely any day but certainly today.
    I am pregnant with #2 and chasing Miss 17 months around… I do not want to lose the joy of motherhood amongst the tiredness and frenzy.
    I am appreciative of places like this in ‘blogland’ where I can be refreshed by fellow Christian wives and mothers who are doing the same things day in and day out that I am.
    Many blessings to you all and praying that God will continue to bless you on your journey of motherhood.

    • Alexandra

      You are blessed that you are learning these lessons so early in your mothering journey. I pray that each day as a mother will be filled with so many beautiful memories!

  • amy anderson

    prayers for patience and to slow down and treasure this precious time and not allow anger to enter…help me to feel God’s light every waking hour!! xo Joy and Ruth!

    • Alexandra

      I know exactly what you mean about slowing down and treasuring this time. It’s so easy, isn’t it, to get angry and annoyed and miss all the little blessings. I pray for a peaceful and joyful day for you today, Amy.

  • Amber

    I am a weary mama who just welcomed our 3rd child early yesterday morning & I’m home from the hospital now with our almost 4 year old & almost 2 year old who are having a hard time figuring out their place now that little brother has arrived! I struggle with multiple health issues that cause a lot of fatigue & nursing pain… struggling to adjust to our new normal, the newborn exhaustion & keeping my mind & heart set on Christ while I work through the huge ups/downs of hormones! This article was a wonderful blessing!

    • Alexandra

      I pray, Amber, that you would know God’s extra strength and peace today as you obey Him in your wonderful calling as a mother. Having a little baby and other little children is one of the hardest stages of life, I have experienced. Hang in there. Enjoy each moment. And be easy on yourself! Embrace every moment to sit and rest.

  • shan

    I’d appreciate a little prayer. I am very weary with homeschooling and raising my 2 children ages 7 and 9. Dealing with my formerly compliant, sweet little boy that has become very defiant and violent in the past few months, seeemingly out of nowhere. My daughter has taken over my marriage–won’t sleep in her own bed, etc. I also deal with daily life as a military wife and have an autoimmune disease that is triggered by stress. I have been diagnosed with depression also. Trying to stay positive and know God is with me!

    • Alexandra

      It is a long, hard journey, isn’t it, Shan? I find it wonderful to read comments like these, though, and realise that we arent’ alone. I pray for you today that God will guide you and give you wisdom as you lead and love your family for His glory!

  • Nancy W.

    Weary? You betcha! Oh how I need prayer! I feel so defeated sometimes! I really need to read this post today! Thank you!

    • Alexandra

      Praying for you right now, Nancy. It was God’s blessing and perfect timing that you stumbled upon this post today. May you feel the depth of His amazing peace and joy this very day.

  • Latifaj

    For all of these women, dear Lord, continue to strengthen them, for they struggle not against flesh and blood but against powers and principalities. Remove any evil influences and protect them. Give them the spirit of peace and remove any spirits of unrest, discouragement, frustration, depression, weariness, fear. Bless them abundantly, Lord, for only you know their needs. Let their homes be filled with love, joy, and grace. Give them your peace that surpasses all understanding that only knowing you as their savior could provide. Let their efforts be enough when they feel like that is all they can give. Renew a fresh spirit in them, Lord, so that their children and spouses will be renewed as well. Your love is what they need. Show them that they are still loved, even when they don’t feel so. In your Holy Name, Amen.

  • Kimberly

    Thank you for this post. I needed it!

  • Septemberanne

    I am a weary mom tonight,…. Had to call 911 last night for our baby stopped breathing. She is ok.. running tests tomorrow. Sleepless,, Homeschooling mom of 10. Praying to get thru a new day.

  • Melissa C.

    Thank you so much for this post! Im a SAH/HS mom of 6, ages 9,7,4,3,3,1, and Im 4 months pregnant! I love reading blogs from other HS mommas of many, however it seems as though they are a little “painted”, thank you for removing the mask! Im all about being real, and well, sometimes being real is just plain ugly! Of my 6 kiddos one of the 3 y/o twins has Autism, and our 1 y/o son has Celiac, I suffer from an auto immune thyroid disease which just adds to the stress of life! My thing is, I WANT to “count it all as joy” but honestly I dont know what that looks like? I feel like less of a Christian if I have a “bad day” and yet, there are days I dont even want to get out of the bed! I dont want to be that mom, that brings her children down, yet over the past 3 years I have seen changes in my home that I HATE!!! My oldest 2 are so angry, even more so my oldest son. Our 4 y/o came after 2 miscarages, and when he was only 7 mo. old we found out we were expecting the twins! Our life just kind of went into survival mode, and we havent come out of it since……Just please pray that God would give me JOY again!

  • Alexandra

    I so needed to hear this today too, after having spend some time in heart-felt, tear-filled prayer with my Father. I was going to comment here about my different issues, but instead have replied to so many of the other comments that I could empathise with. I am not normally one to do this, but seems to be part of God’s healing for me today. I don’t mean to monopolize the comments, but genuinely pray that all the mothers who have read this and have issues today would know God’s perfect peace in their lives. We are so blessed to have such a loving and patient Heavenly Father.

  • ME

    God knew I needed to read this today. I have been struggling for the past few months because of a seizure I had back in September. I have 3 children age 4, 9 and 11. My husband travels with his business and I normally feel like a married (single mom of 3). Thankfully my husband was home when the incident happened and I was asleep. All of the test came back fine but I am unable to drive for 6 months and for a mom of three who is use to running everywhere at anytime, it has been very emotional for me. I know it is Satan putting the thoughts of helplessness, insecurities, and worthlessness in my head but sometimes it is hard not being depressed over the situation. Thank you so much for this article and I can’t wait to hear more from you and other moms!!!

  • Tatwandt

    Thank you so much I needed this!

  • Steph

    I “stumbled” upon this site a few days ago but it has given much hope for becoming the Christian mother I was called to be for my 2 boys (12 & 9). They both have been diagnosed with learning challenges so it’s so hard to come home from work & help with homework. I end up losing patience & control more often that I’d want to admit. I do thank God everyday for my little blessings.

  • http://www.facebook.com/courtenay.burkholder Courtenay Phelan Burkholder

    Thanks joy for posting this its just what I needed today! I cried as I read this because today I just wanted to run away, I don’t know how I can do this again tomorrow. I am so glad to be able to go to woman’s bible study tomorrow. I pray that God would give me children who sleep thru the night and restore my soul while they do.

  • http://www.westoncornucopia.blogspot.com Michelle

    I am weary EVERY day. Sometimes twice/day or more. It’s good to be reminded that in our brokenness we see His face and feel His grace. It feels good to not be alone…

  • http://throughmylensetlh.blogspot.com/ Tifaine

    Thanks for the openness of this blog Ruth. I have been struggling to pull myself out if be because I am just feeling tired and defeated.Being a mom,wife,teacher,homemaker,blogger,and the thousands of other jobs I have is completely overwhelming.Suffering with depression since I was in the 5th grad,imm now 30 and a mother of three.

  • Elysha2

    Much needed today. Thank you for the reminder that God is always with us.

  • Tasha Schlittenhart

    My name is Tasha, and I am home, raising and educating our 4 children ages 7 to 4 months, mostly alone. My husband travels for work and is home often only 1 or 2 days a week for months at a time. I am WEARY. I feel like I see more of my weaknesses in my children than the strength and grace I try to teach them. Please keep our family in your prayers.

  • Momof636

    Wow I found this website by accident what a blessing!!! Thank you I thought i was alone on this!

  • Momof636

    Is the Sally Clarlson the comment before mine the author of a wholehearted mother? I have been trying tto find that book for years it’s been out of print. If yes please can you tell me how to get her book.

    • Anonymous

      Yes it is. She is one of our contributors here at The Better Mom! We just love her! If you go to http://www.itakejoy.com you will find her website and also see her books on the right hand side of her website home page! Woohooo! :)

  • Anonymous

    Lord I pray for all of the beautiful women that you have brought here to site who are crying out to you for strength in their weariness. I pray Lord that you would fill these moms with strength that can only come from You. Help them to depend on you for that strength and not themselves. I pray that You would bring peace and joy during this crazy, yet exciting time while raising children. I pray Lord that you would help them to see the “gifts” and the “blessings” in their lives (even if they are few and far in between), and help them to turn their hearts toward thankfulness and joy for the season they are in. Lord wrap your arms around each one as they are struggling with so many hard issues, and heal them physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Lord we are crying out to you for strength because we want to raise a generation who KNOWS You and LOVES You, and we recognize Lord that they see You through us.

  • AMS

    Weary is the best word to describe how I feel. I try, fail, pray, and then I am fine until I have to deal with my children/home/family again. I feel completely overwhelmed. It is 1:30 pm, and we have not even started school yet, nor had lunch. My five children are spaced around two years apart, and my youngest is nine months, so I do not even have multiple babies/toddlers to deal with, or four children under five years old like some moms; everyone is healthy; I am not pregnant, my husband is loving and helpful, and I am blessed to not have to work to bring in money. So, I feel guilty that I still struggle when everything is so rosy for me. I love and cling to the verses in Isaiah about waiting on the Lord, but sometimes I don’t know what I am waiting *for*. Ever since my fourth child was born, I have felt increasingly isolated and alone. I have no time to attend a Bible study or small group. I don’t do facebook. I don’t have time to email prayer partners on a regular basis. Even typing is comment is taking too much time.

    Lord Jesus, I pray for this woman grubbsk61 that posted the comment above mine. I pray that you will renew her strength and encourage her. Help her to see your hand in her life and family. Help her to know that you do not see her as a failure Lord, but as her precious child. I know she loves her son. I pray that you would bless her with sweet bonding times with her son and family, that you can show her some ways to nurture him and grow in relationship with him. Heal her body if that be your will, Lord, and put some people in her life to minister to her and help her. In Jesus’ name, Amen

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_GQJKKFSFFOLZ3ZZS343PEFLPL4 sheila

    Thank you so much for this post , I thought i was all alone on this . i found this site by accident what a blessing.

  • Ktaygal110

    I needed this so much today! I am a newly single mom of two precious little girls, a 1 year old and a 3 year old. I work full time nights, and take care of my daughters during the day. It seems like my kids have been inventing ways to disobey and get into trouble. I have been so worn down and I can barely cope! Your post reminded me that others have been where I am. God will never forsake me, or my girls. He won’t give me more than I can handle!

  • Ashley Olander

    I can definitely relate to this! My precious, strong-willed, 2 year old little boy is bringing me to the end of myself and back on a daily basis. The complete defiance that comes out of him scares me and makes me doubt myself as a parent constantly. Remembering who I am, the righteousness of God, is what keeps me going. I need all the prayers and encouragement I can get Mama’s. It’s way too easy to get frustrated!!

  • RB

    Wow! What a blessing to see all of the prayers! Your post was so encouraging and I read it at just the right time. May God be glorified in the midst of our weariness.

    Praying for Grubbsk71 right now that God will bring healing to your physical and joy to the heartache. He will restore. Praying for your relationship with your son and husband, man God draw you all together and knit your relationships tighter each day.

    Pray for me as a mom of a 3 year old and 4 month old. I feel like I barely survive the day and do not have time for the things I want to do or need to do. From housework to spending time with my family. My 4 month old does not nap good or fall asleep easy at night so I barely get more than a few minutes. I do almost everything taking care of the family and just feel so weary every day. Pray for my husbands and 3 year old`s relationship. Pray for me to feel renewed throughout the day in His presence instead of getting stressed.

  • Kristi

    Thank you Jesus for running across this tonight. I needed to know I was not alone!! Thank you Joy, et. al for your commitment to encouragement to us weary ones!!

  • Jen Kline

    I could not have read this post at a better time. Weary describes me to a ‘T’. I am wife, mother of three, owner of 2 home business, volunteer, etc. I struggle to make it through each day and have a hard time fitting in two minutes to myself, let alone quiet time to be with God. This is going to sound crazy but I’ve even found myself saying little prayers while in the bathroom – it’s one of the only places I get a little quiet for a minute. UGH – I just keep telling myself that God understands!

    Thank you for the opportunity to share!

  • http://blessingsandsimplicity.blogspot.com/ Jessica B

    I’m a stay at home, homeschooling, mother of five girls, 8 months, 2, 4, 9, and my stepdaughter 11. I babysit a couple days a week, am the only one in the home with a license (which means ALL the driving including my husband to work early in the morning. I’ve not had a full night sleep for 4 months, the house has turned into chaos, my husband will be laid off for a few months in a couple weeks, and we can’t get by on what he makes when he is working. He tries so hard to do everything he can for us, and I feel I just can’t pick up the pieces and do anything “good enough” to help him or the kids. We trust in God to control the number of children He blesses us with, and with our finances, and I’ve just become so overwhelmed and weary of both. We just found out I’m expecting again, and I don’t know how I’ll manage with one more, when I’m not managing at all with what I have now. I needed to find this, and to remember to rest in Him! Thank you for this.

  • Honest

    I just came across this and I don’t know if it’s too late to comment.. but I need some place to vent anonomously. I am a homeschooling mom of 2 and I am ready to quit. Quit on motherhood, homeschooling, faith, God, all of it. I’m so done. I have tried for so many years to be a good Christian mother and train up my children in the way they should go. But the job is too big. The burden too much. My children are out of control… my life is out of control.. and I feel helpless. My husband is emotionally absent and lazy (physically and spiritually) and doesn’t help at all with the enormous responsibility of molding these two lives. (actually he hinders and works against the biblical upraising I have tried to do.) I’m angry with him for not being the husband and father we have needed. I don’t love him anymore.. in fact, most days I feel bitter hate flaming inside me because I am so angry at being left alone to raise these kids with no spiritual leadership or support from him. You all say that we are not alone… but I’ve never heard anyone (ever!) admit to what I really feel – that I hate being a mother. There, I said it. My deep, dark secret. Am I alone? Some days I do feel love toward them, but most days, I loathe my role as mother and wish I had never had them. Is there anyone else out there who has hit this low?? And no, you don’t get to this point overnight. And before you start thinking in your head an image of what kind of person I am – know that you would never think by meeting me that this is where my life is. On the outside I am your typical Christian homeschooling mom… probably appearing as most of your friends do… I could be the woman sitting beside you in church… but behind closed doors, I am a mom in crisis. As I said, I have not come to this low point overnight. I have come to this after years of trying to do what God has called me to do, failing, trying again, failing, trying again, failing again… the cycle taking it’s tole over and over… lonelier and lonelier… more helpless each time… the burden growing each time… It’s too much. I spend my days daydreaming about divorce and public school… two things that would allow me to escape. ……Ok, I need to stop before this becomes longer than the post. But I just needed to vent with this after reading some of the comments about “normal” hard days. Maybe there really is someone else out there who can relate to what I’m saying… and maybe this will at least help them know they aren’t alone in their extreme.

    • http://blessingsandsimplicity.blogspot.com/ Understand

      Thank you for your honesty. I’ve had so many days of questioning, and wanting to give up lately. Nothing is working out in any area of my life. I’m unhappy and feel the need to keep obeying God, but nothing seems to be working out when I do, and I just become more overwhelmed. I question if this is really what He has planned for me, and how for down I need to go before He helps me back up, or if He even will this time. Distraught and Tired.

  • Weary, Weary Wife

    I am so weary that sometimes I want to crawl into church. I wonder what people would do if I were so honest in how I’m feeling.

    My 25th Anniversary is today. We’re not celebrating it because our marriage is crumbling.

    I’m sooooo tired. Thank you for this post today.

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  • Jenn

    I fail every day, every day I start out with the thought today I will be calm, today I will have patience, today I will slow down, today I will have a calm spirit and quiet tone and today I fail again. I will keep praying for a better calmer me!!!!!!!

  • HolisticHomemaking

    This was posted months ago but I stumbled upon it today and it spoke volumes to me. My head is spinning with all the things I need to get done and I feel like I don’t have enough time to do it all. I keep praying God multiplies my time like he did the loaves and fishes. Still I am overwhelmed and stressed. Thank you for praying for me.

  • Sara

    I feel weary often… my babies are 2 and almost 6 months old. It’s hard, trying and yet so rewarding. It’s just so hard to see the reward when all I feel like doing is screaming.