Violence in Video Games – does it really matter?

There’s been increased debate about video game violence ever since three months ago, when the US Supreme Court ruled to lift the California state restriction of the sale of violent video games to minors.  The law found that restricting young children from purchasing games rated M (Mature) or A (Adult, or, pornographic) was unconstitutional.  This opens up a world of possibility for young gamers, and a boat-load of problems for concerned parents and educators.

The problem of video game violence isn’t new, the violence is just worse and more realistic than it’s ever been.  Games are becoming darker, scarier, riskier, more cutting edge – and despite an enforced ratings system, there are very few restrictions on who can play.  Parents are left to decipher what is acceptable, what isn’t, and what needs careful evaluation.

In our family, we’re met with loads of nay-sayers when we express our ‘Absolutely No Video Games” stance. I’ve heard everything from, “You’re depriving your children of a valuable educational experience” to “… you know, when you’re kids leave your house, they’ll become gaming addicts due to the rules you enforced when they were young.”  Our family believes video game violence can be detrimental to a child’s well-being.  We’ve seen lives torn apart due to the onslaught of spiritual and emotional turmoil brought on by Video Game Addiction and the slow moral rot within the gaming world. Innocent games quickly lead to darker, more violent ones – simple play leads to addiction - and the doors start flying open.  Why even knock?

Five BIG Problems with Violent Video Games:

1. The violence in video games breeds violence in real life.  The US Army uses video games like Halo, and Full Spectrum Warrior to train their troops to kill.  Their trailers (barracks) are filled with violent games, used not for entertainment but as intentional desensitization tools.  This is powerful stuff, Moms.  Study after study has shown that kids who play violent video games are affected physically, psychologically, and emotionally in profoundly dark ways.  They are more likely to be angry, to bully, and to lash out at their parents, siblings, and peers. They have higher rates of suicide and depression too.

2. The majority of parents are clueless about what their children are REALLY playing. Many studies have shown video game companies actively promote M and A rated video games (very high in sexuality and graphic language, content, and violence) to young children.  In many studies done by retailers and through secret shoppers, countless children easily purchased games rated both M and A, without so much as a blink.  (Unlike California, in Canada,and in various other States, it is still illegal for kids to purchase and rent M and A games, though enforcement is relaxed).  Many parents surveyed have very little knowledge of the content in the games their children are playing.  Let me stress – the majority of video games that boys (especially) want to play are dark and violent.  Video games are so often hidden away where kids play alone or with friends – in bedrooms, basements, and even hand-held.

3. Video games routinely include the massive use of gender stereotyping and exude a general disrespect and gross exploitation of girls and women.  Popular games  mostly show women as sex objects.  In fact, the popular game Grand Theft Auto, regularly played by young children, rewards players for acts of violence towards women including raping and murdering prostitutes. (No, I’m not kidding).  We also can’t forget, there’s no doubt, according to research, that girls are affected by what they see and often question (even subconsciously) their own value and worth when subjected to such demeaning messages.  Worse of all, boys are brainwashed with the mentality that girls are nothing but objects to use and abuse emotionally, sexually and physically.

4. Video games are addictive in nature.  Statistically, children who ‘game’ do so far more often than children who watch television.  The ‘just one more level’ mentality has kids couch-ridden for hours determined to ‘win’.  Along with the appeal of winning, comes the allure of feeling powerful, changing your identity, and having authority.  These are definitely true of multi-player online games that never end and where the player can never really ‘win’.  Gaming is a huge world-wide business (I call it an epidemic), with millions of kids, teens, and adults falling under the label, “Video Game Addict”.  It’s no joke.  People are losing their lives (both physically and spiritually) over Video Game Addiction.

5. Violent Video Games are a poor and destructive substitute for real life adventure.  When kids (or adults!) are in front of a screen, they AREN’T doing something else.  This is the premise for our screen-free home.  Kids have an inate longing for adventure; especially boys.  They want to go on journeys, experience new things, fight valiant ‘battles’, and come out the ‘winner’.  What so few children in today’s culture are being offered, is the opportunity to do these things in REAL life.  So, screen-life has replaced real life and kids and families are losing the love of nature, physical activity, and hands-on experiences we used to live by.  The God-given ability to see beauty in the everyday adventure, no matter how small, becomes blurred and eventually completely blacked out.

 

So yes, if you care about your child’s spiritual, physical, emotional, and psychological well-being, violence in video games matters very much.  It is up to us, the most influencial people in the lives of our children, to make wise and educated decisions about this mass media.  It is up to us to stand our ground, know what’s right for our family, and never fear standing apart from ‘the crowd’.  The quest to maintain our children’s purity, sense of wonder, peace, and innocence is a long and very narrow road these days – but march on with confidence and follow your heart and God’s Word.

Research:

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2006/02/13/AR2006021302437.html

http://www.media-awareness.ca

http://www.esrb.org/ratings/enforcement.jsp

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About Cassandra

Cassandra is a home educating mom to 3 children. Her family loves Jesus, nature, animals, books, and exploring together. After studying Media Communication and TV Production for over five years, she now passionately writes and speaks to parents, educators, community groups, and young people about the effects of the Media and Pop-Culture on all of our lives. She encourages parents to be proactive in helping their family make wise media choices that both honor God, and help foster a deep love for what truly matters - the simple things. Cassandra blogs at The Unplugged Family.

  • Katie Ramsey

    This is great. I did not realize that the military uses these games. A very good eye opener. We do play video games but we only have a few like Wii Sports and we only play them as a family. My husband was addicted to video games growing up and into his early adult life so he is very cautious about our children playing.

  • Anonymous

    Regardless if the supreme court called the law unconstitutional, it’s the parents responsibility and always has been to monitor and control what type of entertainment minors are exposed to. Come on parents, stand up to your children and tell them what they can and cannot play and stick to it!

    • kaye

      simply stated but so very true.
      parents have the biggest responsibility in rearing their children. and if exposure to video games in general to your belief is detrimental to your children, then by all means, keep them away from it.

  • Jessica

    I agree with much of the issues mentioned in this post, particularly video games treatment of women and it substituting real play and interactions. I do think we need to be very careful about what we let our children see and participate in. Some children may not be able to handle video games, I know my brother was not (this was with old-school Mario games), but my husband and his brothers have played for years and have handled them well.

    Video games aren’t without their problems, that’s for sure, but I do felt this post may have made an unconscious judgment that it’s wrong to play video games. Do parents need to be informed and educated? Yes. Does playing video games automatically lead to addiction, bullying, and all-around rough behavior? Not on their own.

    The problem with children getting M and A rated games are parents not being involved enough to know what their children are doing. Will some kids sneak around even the most conscious parent? Yes.

    But how can parents be involved? I think by having an open dialogue with their children as to what harm and disadvantages they see in video games, as well as some benefits, researching games their children are interested in, and testing out the demos that are released before making a decision about a video game.

    As for the military using video games, I read that article and from what you say here it seems quite stretched from the original article. No where in that article does it say that video games in trailers/barracks (trailers are their barracks while they’re at war) were used for desensitization, but for entertainment. The Sgt. quoted talked about the surrealness of shooting an enemy in a war time atmosphere. Anyone who’s been in combat will tell you that it’s an unreal experience. The military uses simulations, not games (though modern day video games have been modeled after simulations) help to prepare troops for what they might experience on the battlefield–enemies hidden on rooftops, closing in around a corner, or gunfire from windows. It’s a tool to keep them alive.

    Just my thoughts here…

    • http://reachinghiskids.blogspot.com/ Ingrid

      Jessica, I really appreciate your response. My boys are 5, 10 and 11. We let the older 2 play some video games. I think it has far more to do with teaching them to think instead of sheltering them. I’ve learned from my own upbringing that sheltering can have even greater consequences once kids are grown. I do think the author of this post has some great points and parents need to be SO involved in what their children are doing. I am amazed at some of my boy’s friends who are allowed to have game systems in their bedrooms and play games that are not appropriate. I have had a few times when my boys have come home from a friend’s house and let us know what they were offered to play and that they said no! (Those are homes we don’t let them venture to anymore, we just invite those kids over!) I think that learning to say no came from not sheltering them but talking to them about the realities of the world and teaching them to think. The truth is, we have to raise our children to live and function in our society. Our society is full of screens. If our children aren’t taught to balance that screen time growing up, they won’t have clue at 18 or 20 or 25. It is about teaching them now.

    • http://www.inamirrordimly.net Shannon McKee

      Jessica – I so appreciate your thoughts here in terms of offering a middle ground. Opening a possible third option that involves parental involvement and monitoring. That has been our approach and so far it is very workable for our family as well. It wasn’t a decision we made because we were afraid to stand up to the crowd but one we made with much thought and prayer. Making media decisions is such a tricky line to walk. One option is certainly to contrict most (or even all) media – but it’s not the only one. Although, I know the Spirit could lead us in that direction and if He did, I’d follow!

  • Jackie Castle

    I think you have some valid points that parents need to consider. Yet I’m with Jessica who said that playing video games does not necessarily lead to bad behavior.
    Yes, parents need to be aware not only of what they buy their children, but also what their children borrow from their friends. I’ve caught my son playing games I normally wouldn’t allow that he got from a friend. And I know he plays them when he goes to their house.

    We can’t shelter our kids or put them in a box. I fought off the video games for years. My daughter made it without them and she has suffered no ill consequences. My son, however, being surrounded by friends who do play has been given the games.

    I think what’ s really important is to keep in constant communication with your kids on what they are playing, how the games make them feel and discuss those feelings. Take time to play the game yourself with them. It will give you an opportunity to know what’s going on, to talk about the things that bother you in the game. Dealing with their heart issues first will help them learn to judge what is good and not good for them. Ultimately, they have to know this in order to make it in this world. Right?

    • http://reachinghiskids.blogspot.com/ Ingrid

      Jackie, great response! I agree with, “Ultimately, they have to know this in order to make it in this world. Right?” I do think the author of the post has some great points but in the end our responsibility is to teach our children to function in this society, which is full of screens. They need to learn to balance that time and by completely keeping them away from screens, you aren’t teaching them.

      • http://profiles.google.com/cassandra.dorman Cassandra D

        See, I completely disagree. By keeping our children’s screen time extremely limited, we are giving them the tools to live full, rich lives. Our children know how to operate a computer… and they watch a couple DVDs here and there. The balance they understand? We live life to LIVE and living isn’t done on your rear in front of a video game. They don’t crave this stuff because their life is full of real, tactile experiences. This argument is quite like saying, “How can a teen learn modesty, if we don’t let them dress immodestly for a while so that we can correct them?” or “How can we teach children healthy eating habits – if we don’t let them chow down on junk?” It isn’t logical. But, that’s what makes the world go ’round – differences. It isn’t as if we live in a bubble. Our children know what video games ARE. They just understand why Mommy and Daddy don’t value them and what we choose to do together instead. They are lacking for nothing and understand very well life’s delicate balance. Thanks… hopefully this clears this up a bit!

        • http://reachinghiskids.blogspot.com/ Ingrid

          Thanks for clarifying. In your post it came across as if you didn’t allow screen time at all. I think that would be harmful in the long run. Our job is to raise our children to live and the reality is, they need to live in this society. Yes, be set apart as believers but they still need to deal with the reality around them. Completely sheltering them does far more harm than good. In my early twenties I really struggled and it was because I was never taught to handle the secular world and all that it entails.

          It is evident that you want to do what is best for your children and be honoring to God. That is awesome and will be a wonderful example to your children. You are SO right that the gaming industry offers so many harmful things and parent need to be SO diligent! As far as, “”How can a teen learn to be responsible about alcohol if I don’t let him mess around with drinking?”, or or “How can we teach children healthy eating habits – if we don’t let them chow down on junk?” It isn’t logical in the long hawl. I think the world fears censorship. It’s too intense, too… out there.” If something is harmful, then yes, work at keeping your children from it but they still need to understand it at an appropriate age, which doesn’t mean you give them a drink or let them play a nasty M rated game. They need to understand the pitfalls in order to make it in this world. Our oldest boys are 10 & 11 and because of the nature of our ministry (working with at-risk teens) we are already having discussions about sex, drugs and alcohol. I am not telling them to have sex, use drugs or try alcohol but making sure they understand the reality and why they need to avoid it.

          I think that, “We just choose to NOT expose our children to harmful and difficult content and keep an open dialogue as to ‘why’ we censor these things… as apposed to having to talk to them about their feelings when they are hurt, disturbed or negatively affected by the media,” is perfectly reasonable. However, I understand Jackie’s point. Based on her comments it seems like she has children who are teens and beyond. With all due respect Cassandra, your children are young (based on what I saw on your website & if I a wrong please forgive me). In 10-15 years, you may view some of these issues & others differently. I would challenge you to revisit this post again in 10-15 years. My oldest is 11 and my views have changed in the past few years on different topics as I have grown as a mom. It is amazing what experience will teach you. I realize that I still have a ton to learn! I am sure by the time my youngest is an adult I will finally know how to be a great parent :-)

          As far as our family, we do play some video/computer games and watch very selected TV/DVD’s. We LOVE the Duggars! It is a show our family loves to watch together. My husband enjoys playing racing games with the boys and it is a fun bonding time with Dad. We live in MN and have to spend a few months a year mostly inside. The family media time is fun. In the warmer weather we have far less screen time and enjoy the great outdoors! In the end, I feel like we have a great balance and are very involved in our children’s lives, education and spiritual growth.

  • Heather

    SO true! We don’t have any games like that for our boys. They very rarely play the PS2. Good post!

  • Anonymous

    A lot of the problem is , the parents are teaching and playing these video games with their children, so those that do…very well know what their cchildren are plating…they get so addicted I have seen them play for as many as 48 hours non stop…this has taken over many lives ..very sad….

  • Sharon

    I found this very interesting. Our two year old doesn’t play any video games and we don’t intend for her to start anytime soon. My husband is a big gamer though. He spends most of his free time playing online games. He doesn’t buy them, he just plays the ones he can play online for free. I asked him why anyone lets their game be played for free and that’s when he told me that it’s a recruiting mechanism for the military. My husband isn’t violent and doesn’t treat women poorly. But, I must confess that I don’t love how much time he spends playing games. And I am not a big fan of how some of the women are dressed (or not dressed!) in some of the games. If I ask my husband to do something while he’s playing, he stops playing and does it. So I guess I can’t complain too much. We don’t have TV, so we both spend a lot of our free time online.

  • Danapiper72

    Thank you for this! We here at our house do not have video games nor do we watch T.V. except maybe videos from time to time. I hear it all the time that we are depriving our kids. The only thing I can say is depriving our kids of junk in their heads and I love that my kids can keep themselves busy and they are creative. Thank you!

  • Guest

    I must say that I whole heartedly agree with what Cassandra wrote. It is my job as a God honoring parent to raise my children to love the Lord and not the things of this world. We do own a Wii, and it may see an hour of play time every two months or so. We only play the sport games as a family on days when the weather does not allow for outdoor play. In the big picture they are only under my care for a short time. I would rather spend that time face to face and not looking at the back of their heads while they stare at a screen.

  • Marta Wetmore

    I agree 100%. The issue lies at the door of the parents. If you allow your child to buy it, or shop alone for it, then you are responsible. You are responsible for when they play it at a friend’s house. You are responsible if they see it advertised on TV. Until your child is living in their own house…you are responsible. WE can’t trust government regulators to control this. We have to guard the avenues to the soul, from every angle. It might mean not allowing your child to hang out with certain kids or adults… I might mean being the weird family at church… I might mean home schooling… We have to be ALL IN to protect our kids, no matter what people say…

  • Tammy

    Thank you for this wonderful post. We are a NO video game household as well.

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