When “Being In Harm’s Way” Isn’t

talibéIn a few days my 12-year-old son will be the only kid joining a team of adults from our church to go serve in Dakar, Senegal, for a week.

As word gets out that he’s going, a lot of people have asked me about it.  Am I worried at all? Will it be dangerous? What about the long flight and the immunizations, etc?

I suppose there are plenty of reasons that I should be nervous. But, I can honestly say that I’m just not that worried. I mean, I’ll admit that my stomach did a little flip-flop when his arm got hot & swollen after his Yellow Fever immunization. Especially when he played his football game anyway.

That’s right, I’m a mom. Through and through. Just like many of you. I’m not naïve about the risks involved. I realize that I’m exposing Caleb to some hardship and disease and unknown circumstances. I understand that it means he’ll miss some school and one of his football games. He might even lose his starting spot on the team. I know that a flight to the other side of the globe will be terribly boring for an active middle-school boy. I recognize that a lot of his friends won’t really “get it.”

But, here’s the thing - I’m thrilled for him to experience all of those things. Not because I love putting my son at risk but because I love what it will do in his relationship with God.

Here are just a few things we’ve already seen happen:

  • Early in his Christian experience, Caleb is catching that following Jesus is about more than just being a nice, moral guy. Following Jesus might even mean a little bit of discomfort and sacrifice and risk – even when there are lots of good reasons to stay put. Following Jesus might mean becoming, well, a little bit like Jesus.
  • He’s discovering that anybody can go. It’s not for the super-spiritual guy in the pew next to him. God’s mission is for him. Right now. In 6th grade. Young in the faith. It doesn’t matter. In fact, isn’t that God’s thing? Using broken vessels to carry His glory?
  • Caleb is learning to trust God to provide the impossible. He had to raise more than $3,000 for this trip. That’s a lot money. Especially when your allowance is just $6/week! He has been overwhelmed – not only at God’s provision for the trip but at how encouraging the people in his life have been.

Of course, I pray for his safety. But, more than that, I’m praying that he’ll get a taste of something that will keep him hungry for more. Not just for adventure. Anyone with enough money can have adventures and travel the world.

But, oh, that Caleb would hunger for being a part of God’s purposes. That God would use him in Africa. That his heart would break for the Talibe boys that wander the streets of Dakar begging for their daily bread. That in ministering to their physical needs, he’d learn to see past the external to the heart of the issue. That he’d long to help other people connect with the God who loves them. I’m praying that his eyes would be forever opened and that he’d see life differently.

I guess if that means that he’s not tucked-in safely in his own room in our suburban neighborhood after a hearty family meal, then so be it. In fact, I suspect that’s exactly what it means.

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About Shannon McKee

Shannon is a self-proclaimed putterer. She likes to dabble in this, that, and the other thing. Sometimes that creates a lot of inner turmoil and lost productivity! But, it gives her a lot to write about at her blog In a Mirror Dimly! She feels blessed to be able to write from home, directing some online publicity for a local firm in Northeast Ohio. Some things that move her: loving her Pastor-husband and their two kiddos, supporting the public school her kids attend, sharing hospitality and creating refuge, living missional, and teaching women to study the Bible. That, AND devouring dark chocolate almonds from Trader Joe's.

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  • http://www.womenlivingwell-courtney.blogspot.com womenlivingwell

    OH Shannon!!! I LOVE this!!! This will be such an important stepping stone in his faith journey! Someday he will thank you :) (if he hasn’t already :) )
    Courtney

    • http://www.inamirrordimly.net Shannon McKee

      Thanks Courtney! I know I want to shoot our kids off as “arrows” but it’s easy to get distracted by all the other stuff, isn’t it?!? Thanks for the encouragement!

  • Barb Spencer

    Shannon, how awesome that you have encouraged your son to reach out to others! I love your attitude that realizes even though it will present challenges for your son (and you), the benefits he will reap will far outweigh any nervousness or discomfort or anything he will “miss” out on here. Our oldest daughter went to Africa to homeschool some missionary children the year after she graduated from high school. I was asked wouldn’t I miss her (of course, I would and did), aren’t you scared? Yes, but how much safer was she in God’s care than mine? It was awesome and my husband and I would never have denied her that life-changing experience or the possibilities of how God would use that in her life. And your Caleb will be changed forever as well. Thanks for sharing your story and for encouraging other moms to do the same…

    • http://www.inamirrordimly.net Shannon McKee

      Thanks Barb! I appreciate hearing of YOUR experience as we move into the days ahead!

  • Hislovendures

    What an amazing experience for your son to have! I went to Canada for a year to do a missions internship when I was 21. Now that I’m a Mom, I can understand the heartache I put my parents through during that time. I got pneumonia at one point and my Mom was beside herself wanting me to come home. But, I stayed on to complete the year and it was a life changing experience for me. Then I went to Colombia, South America to visit some missionary friends when I was 23. I remember when I came back, a father at my church told me that his daughter (I think she was 18) was going to Africa and he was terrified for her safety. I personally didn’t feel unsafe in Colombia (the worst that happened was a lady trying to pick pocket from me, but I realized it before she was able to take anything), but just thinking of my daughter going to another country without me, oh I can just imagine myself unable to sleep until she returned home safely! She’s only a toddler though. I hope by the time she’s as old as your son, I can get over my fears and let her experience something that will be so life changing and eye opening for her.

    • http://www.inamirrordimly.net Shannon McKee

      When I was in college, I remember hearing one of our Campus Crusade staff members tell us that the “safest place to be is in the center of God’s will.” I think that’s the safest place for our kids to be too! I think it’s so hard for us to really believe that safe might mean in physical “danger” but spiritual “health”. We see in mirror dimly, don’t we!?! Oh that we could make all of our choices in light of eternity. I’ll pray right now that you’ll be able to carry that into your parenting of your sweet little girl… I know I need to be reminded of it often in my own life and parenting.

  • Bekah

    Shannon, thank you so much for sharing this! I get so excited when I hear about young people who are willing to GO. Puts a whole new spin on “faith like a child,” doesn’t it? Last summer I traveled to Tanzania with a group from our church…which included a 4 year-old, 12 year-old, and 2 14-year-olds. I have to admit, even I questioned their parents’ judgment at this decision! Funny thing is, I think they were the most effective at demonstrating the gospel! (and God used their example to open my eyes to more of His truths!)

    I’m not a mom yet (expecting in January), but I know that being willing to send your son out is probably even harder than going yourself! I pray that as he goes, you will find comfort in that even the most “unsafe” outcome by our earthly standards will only deliver your son into the eternal safety of God’s kingdom! Praise God that our hope is in Him!

    • http://www.inamirrordimly.net Shannon McKee

      I think you’re right Bekah – going myself has never been scary for me. Since our early days of marriage, my husband and I have been doing ministry trips. Releasing my kiddos, though, is another step of faith. But, I love the thought that they’ll be about something (or, rather, Someone) bigger than themselves. I think WE are the ones who lose when we hold back – God’s work goes on without us. That is a greater tragedy than any risk! BTW, I’m excited about your January babe! I’ll take a minute to pray for him/.her right now!

  • 29lincolnavenue

    When our oldest was 10, she and Mike were packing their bags to leave for a mission trip to Haiti. They, along with about 10 other dads and kids were going to distribute Christmas Shoeboxes through New Missions. About 12 hours before they were scheduled to land in Port Au Prince, the earthquake hit.

    We prayed and talked through the reasons to go on the trip. I was both excited and scared for her. But , I also knew that God would do an amazing work in her heart.

    God said no, even after we said yes. He is in complete control. I’m grateful she was spared being airlifted out and living through the destruction. God knew what was best.

    Your son will have an amazing adventure and what a neat thing for he and Rick to share! Praying for them and you Shannon right now!

    • http://www.inamirrordimly.net Shannon McKee

      Thanks Stacey! No mattter how it goes down, it’s all just about faith, isn’t it? Trusting God no matter what. Because He is worthy.